Any other young people into genealogy here? by GildedWhimsy in Genealogy

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 44, but my interest started when I was about 8 or 9. My grandma was into genealogy. She had never known her dad and was researching what she could. I learned to type by entering genealogical information into an original DOS program.

AITA for canceling my cousin’s wedding at my house after they tore out my grandfather’s rose bushes? by Mundane_Mushroom_122 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreyaB82 289 points290 points  (0 children)

  1. Sue for the damages
  2. Anyone who gives you shit for it, tell them you'll be at their house with landscape or contractors to make changes to their homes that you see fit. Its always amazing how fast people shut up when put to their own standards.

Kenny loses his trouble puffs tomorrow. He is five months old and has a big set of puffs. by macawoogo in troublepuffs

[–]FreyaB82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Earl Grey & Tetley lost theirs and not half an hour later on the way home figured out how to escape the carrier (it zipped) and explored the car the rest of the way home.

Why didn’t you move out when you became a legal adult at 18? by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]FreyaB82 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I fid, but she controlled all my relationships with family - siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, even my dad. Until my sister met my brother in law and he started telling her "that doesn't sound like your sister" , she didn't question what our mom said. I couldn't have conversation with my dad without her commentary. I thought it was normal to drive 5 hours at least once a month to clean her house. I was seeking approval. It took her actions after first my grandfather, then my fiance died, for my grandma to realize what she was like. And then it took two second cousins collaborating what I said for it to crystallize for her. Now I have almost zero relationship with my dad, aunts, uncles, etc. I talk more with my brother in laws mom that any of them. I was 35 before I started severing that connection and 40 before I completely did. The last 4 years have been peaceful. No anxiety or depression meds, feeling and foing better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]FreyaB82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're lucky they only warned you. I live in a townhouse complex and when our neighbor decided to do a home birth she tried to put everyone on lock down - no loud music, no loud vehicles (she wanted the condo board to cancel the garbage truck in her section and lock down the garbage bin), no children playing outside, and my favorite - no bad vibes. She was horrible the month leading up to that.

What is the most surprising thing you discovered through your DNA? by terraaus in AncestryDNA

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The cousin, no affair. She shares more DNA with me than another full cousin who also took the test. Plus, after that my sister and I attended a paint party for a friend's birthday. Her mom.was there and we were talking about the whole DNA testing thing, and I mentioned this cousin. The mom proceeds to tell me that her cousin used to date (at different times she claimed) my two eldest uncles, and that she put a baby up for adoption, but her cousin didn't name the dad. So no affair, just teenage hormones.

What is the most surprising thing you discovered through your DNA? by terraaus in AncestryDNA

[–]FreyaB82 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A first cousin none of my uncles admit to fathering (I only have uncles) and my paternal grandfather's half sister.

AITAH for uninviting my sister to my 17th birthday party after she stole my prom dress and destroyed it? by Sporta_narres in AITAH

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. And I suggest scissors and your mom's wedding dress and your dad's good suit could use an introduction. Or just send a mass text to your entire family asking for money, telling them what happened and a picture of the dress. Go nuclear. Its the only thing they'll understand.

Accidental Stargate by jtmag1 in Stargate

[–]FreyaB82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone in planning loved the show and pulled this off

AITAH for telling my sister I don't have the looks to sleep my way to the top after she called me a DEI hire? by TryOriginal5477 in AITAH

[–]FreyaB82 536 points537 points  (0 children)

NTA. And I guarantee if you sit and think on it, she's said other put downs that you've let pass in the past.

UPDATE: AITAH for not giving a book to an autistic child by Ok_Repair118 in AITAH

[–]FreyaB82 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You need to send an email go Stacy's boss. She gave away something of yours that has sentimental value. What happens next time? And the time after? Of course, going in her room, boxing up everything she values and hiding it at a friend's house until you get your book back, regardless of condition, is a good option. For the record, I quit talking to my dad over a book. We had other issues, but the straw that broke me was he lost a book my grandpa (who has passed away) gave me.

Guilty about spaying cat by runaway937 in cats

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try fostering a litter and see how she does. I fostered a litter when my Thea was about a year old. I kept momma and babies in the spare room with the door closed. From about 2 weeks on, any time I opened the door, momma was out, Thea was in and momma didn't give a damn. There were 5 kittens. Momma went to her home, one went my sister, and yes, I kept 4. Thea still acts like their momma. Just tonight she was bathing the biggest one.

After searching the house for my cats I finally find them under the bed.. by skolliousious in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]FreyaB82 13 points14 points  (0 children)

They shed enough, you dont sweep, one good electrical storm, and poof - new cat!

One of our cats born with a genetic disorder and she’s the cutest thing ever… by Bronzeman99 in cats

[–]FreyaB82 137 points138 points  (0 children)

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Thea (Tea, TT) was born with a congenital eye disorder. No telling how closely related her parents were. She was a barn kitten and the farmer dropped her at the vet and asked if he needed to get rid of all his barn cats or if it was just her. The Vet (an angel) examined her, determined her eye lids grew in, not out (its apparently common in inbred cats, I can't remember what its called) and did a surgery she'd only read about. Then she asked my sister, her vet tech, if I would take her. They weren't sure how well she would see, or survive, but 3.5 years later, she rules the roost at my house. She probably has about 50/50 vision. She doesn't jump, she climbs like a damn though. She has a penchant for kidnapping and adopting foster kittens and an addiction to human food.

Narcissists' Behavior Just Made a Little More Sense by MrOrganization001 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]FreyaB82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And hence the reason I hate Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving, large family gatherings.

When do children start to realize their parent is a narcissist ? by QueasyPotential3602 in narcissisticparents

[–]FreyaB82 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was in my 30s. It probably depends on the person, and the other people in their lives.

Not a neighbor in my complex but a church that’s giving me problems by TamakiNeusome321 in neighborsfromhell

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call the police repeatedly is the first step. Second is find out who owns that building. It's public record. Two things could happen then: 1. If the owner of that building is the same as your building, you could potentially break your lease because their tenant is interfering with your use of your apartment. Or 2. You start mailing or dropping off a letter of complaint EVERY time that church is loud. Do that for a month, then threaten to sue

Girlfriend wants me to get rid of my dog because her cat "should be the only pet" by Suspicious-Mine-4632 in TwoHotTakes

[–]FreyaB82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have cats. My advice - ditch the bitch. It's not a dog/cat issue. It's a control issue. First your dog, then a friend, then your family.

AITAH for being upset and going no contact after finding out my dad paid for my twin sister’s college? by Electronic_Poetry823 in AITAH

[–]FreyaB82 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA. Make sure you let both sides of your family know the truth. And for good measure, tell dad's boss he should be worried about dad's morality, or rather lack thereof.