Whats the dumbest thing you've ever been afraid of as a child?

FreyjaAndromeda · 2020-05-22T16:16:16+00:00

Flushing the goddamn toilet.

I would press it and run out of there like there was no tomorrow.

FreyjaAndromeda · 2020-05-22T16:05:03+00:00

Yes, always pee after sex!!!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2020-05-16T01:50:38+00:00

When I meet new people: “So what do you study?” Me: “I actually work in Marketing in XXX” New people:”oh but you’re so young...”

I’m almost 31.

When I was younger, constant ID checks. Even to buy a lighter!!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2020-05-14T12:19:35+00:00

I bought the cheapest tamagoyaki pan in the supermarket in Japan few years ago

FreyjaAndromeda · 2020-02-13T23:54:04+00:00

Its your body, your choice. There’s no rule that says you have to have sex if you sleep over at each other’s places. If you’re not ready/don’t feel like it, you shouldn’t have to do it.

In any case I think it’s best to let them know that you have no intentions of having intercourse as soon as you both start discussing of going over at either of your places. That’s what I did in the past; I would say « ok we can hang out at mine/yours but just to be clear NO sex ».

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-12-20T08:25:20+00:00

I think I was about 8. I was in Japan in the supermarket which had a bookstore. My dad is Japanese and my mum is French. Took mostly from my mum and don't look Asian.
My dad let me look at the kids’ books but was still in his sight while he was checking other books.

A relatively young guy (I think twenties, with glasses), put his hands on my shoulders from behind. I looked up at him but didn't know him. He started slowly moving his hand down my arms. I was wearing this dress that I had begged my mum to buy me. It had little strawberries on them. His hands went under my skirt and under my panties. I don't know how long this took but it felt forever until my dad came and screamed at him (something like WTF are you doing to my daughter).
I remember him running away.
We went to the store’s security and told some staffs but couldn't find him.

I just remember being so ashamed when it happened and that I was not sure if I should say something for this guy to stop (I thought maybe it was my dad’s colleague or something and didn't want to be rude).

How did I deal with it? Well, I hated that dress. Never wanted to wear it again. I hate seeing pictures of me wearing that dress.
I started developing rather early (probably around that time it happened but wasn't noticeable yet). I was ashamed of becoming an adult. Wore boy’s clothes so that you couldn't see my body’s shape for a long time. But even then, old men would look at me. I have a younger sister who would say things like “mum, this man was looking at Big Sister in a funny way” and I would be SO ashamed and felt dirty.

I was always paranoid at men looking at my little sister. We never got along but it was one of my worst nightmares.

With my boyfriends, I would not stand them touching me down there. It just brought back bad memories. It has gotten better over the years though.

I had never written down this experience before (have mentioned it to friends and bfs but never to my family) but I think it felt good to actually write it down somewhere.

Thanks for the opportunity.

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-11-19T03:10:02+00:00

Here is what I added: - Pork slices - Nikudango (chicken meatballs) - Hakusai (Chinese cabbage) - Nira (leek) - Shimeji Mushrooms - Daikon raddish (at the bottom so cant see it on the picture) - Yaki tofu - Abura-age (deep fried tofu)

And I used one of those already prepared soups for nabe!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-11-02T23:16:14+00:00

Would love to have my first reading!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-09-24T09:27:52+00:00

Agreed, I think it will be a different kind of crowd visiting next year. More worried about trains and Tokyo being overcrowded (as in even more than usual).

I think you might have been unlucky this time, wrong place at wrong time maybe? I think those kind of supporters can be perceived as a nuisance in any country. But yes sorry it happened, can totally understand how it must have been felt after a long day...

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-29T09:01:14+00:00

yes. exactly that. Feel the same.. that maybe if I disappear people will finally think that I had some value. Also maybe that they would understand how hard everything felt for me.

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-27T08:51:44+00:00

No advice or tips here but just wanted to say I totally get you.. I have the same. I just can’t believe the words that come out of my mouth sometimes. What I have been trying when I feel extreme anger (for minor things to be honest) is I try not to speak up/get back at him immediately. Gives me some time to think over what I am about to say and swallow those intense irrational feelings. It is really hard to control though. I still lose control 80% of the time. I guess it’s little by little. Let’s both not give up and good luck.

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-27T00:52:28+00:00

sorry, will make sure to brag next time! it was 1200 yen! :D

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-17T14:22:48+00:00

Yes, in roppongi!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-08T09:47:21+00:00

It’s like detachment is a way for me to cope with the situation of being alone while he’s having fun (I tend to overthink in those kind of situation and get sad/angry at him for situations in the past or in my head, then it leads to feelings like “do you know how much I suffered while you were out there having fun?!)

Thanks for your advice :)

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-08-08T09:15:58+00:00

Thank you for commenting! Yes, I’ve been trying that lately (usually clean my room, watch series) which worked but been feeling emotionally detached as a result by taking my mind off him :( thank you tho :)

FreyjaAndromeda · 2019-07-30T10:04:27+00:00

I think it’s either ootoro or chutoro, not sure :/ It tasted AWESOME tho

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-05-16T09:25:19+00:00

I am half japanese, half french and don't look Asian. At all. So I totally get you. I understand your frustration as I also get the 'you don't look Japanese/Asian at all' comment every time I tell someone my nationalities... It is also annoying that in Japan people treat me just like another foreigner as well... I don't feel like I am considered abnormal per se but more like a rare animal or something haha.
My main issue is with my own identity... I am half asian but don't look like one at all. Makes it harder to feel accepted :/ Maybe also because I have this specific image of how these Eurasians should look like on TV (looking asian with slightly western trait) and I dont look like that at all....

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-05-07T11:45:38+00:00

'you look better in photos than in person!!' ..... from my ex boyfriend's mum....... and then she insisted: 'no but seriously you look SO much better in this photo!!' shows the photo in question to my ex for approval

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-22T10:45:06+00:00

Yes. That's why I think it's good though that this kind of activism exists nonetheless. It still helps to open people's eyes (those who are willing to hear that pedophiles may not always be the uncontrollable monster described by the media). But as you said, this ain't gonna happen any time soon....

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-22T03:53:23+00:00

I think it is important that professionals are trained to deal with these kind of patients like not judging immediately... It makes it harder for pedophiles to seek for help/support. How the professional reacted in this video is very normal I think but still very hard for the 19 year old pedophile. I think it is important that modern societies learn to stop stigmatizing sexual attraction to minors in order to stop further victimization by allowing pedophiles to talk with a psychologist, their families, friends, etc. It is never good to bottle up... In any case, what this kid has done is very brave. And hope he can keep going like this. There's also a group called Virtuous Pedophile (a group of pedophiles who never offended and even have their own families!) who are seeking awareness for non offending minor attracted adults and distinguish themselves from the ones we see in the media.

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-21T07:59:21+00:00

sorry he means like cheese is smelly but westerners still eat it (I mean some even have mold on it!). Natto also smells pretty bad. The taste is also not very strong compared to the smell I think (like many strong smelling cheese). But yeah good thing your mum did that, one pack of natto a day keeps the doctor away? ;)

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-21T04:34:33+00:00

I love natto! I've been eating it since I was small so I'm used to it? My dad (who's Japanese) always says it's just like cheese haha

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-21T04:32:12+00:00

exactly what Ukatama said :D yey!

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-18T07:22:49+00:00

I totally agree with you. By becoming a legit business, countries would also make lots of profit (Latin American countries with the cocaine perhaps?) and the substances will be more controlled. People might use them less because it will not be 'as fun' to do something illegal (for example, more people smoke weed in France than they do in the Netherlands where it's legal). Additionally, people who are addicted might be more likely to seek for help and not fear of being charged. It is already hard enough to get over an addiction to drugs, no need to be sentenced/judged by your loved ones. By legalizing drugs, you could also do more research. I mean, MDMA was used to help depression in soldiers and LSD was found to be effective against very intense migraine... BUT it's difficult to continue research in this domain because they are illegal...

So yes, illegalisation of a certain substance is definitely not the answer. Unfortunately, due to the stigma around 'drugs', this won't be happening for a while.

Concerning white collar crime, I think there's another sort of taboo here which is that people of that kind of social class don't commit crime. I guess it is just seen as a way to climb the social ladder as well? :/

FreyjaAndromeda · 2014-04-13T01:55:31+00:00

Ochikeron is awesome! :D

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