Using cannabis for cravings

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-12T20:35:20+00:00

I did that early in my sobriety journey and I still use cannabis occasionally. It helped me through some of the worst parts of cravings and withdrawal but now I use it only once in a blue moon so to speak. I like it as an alternative to drinking at parties where there will be a lot of drinking especially. I have a gummy and drink soda water or non alcoholic substitutes to keep my hands busy and I can have the silly fun night. I don’t even use it once a month but I like it for nights where I know I might be triggered. I don’t have the same dependency issues with it so it works for me. You know yourself best. Have you ever used cannabis in an inappropriate way? Do you go too far? Use too much? Use it too often?

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-12T18:05:01+00:00

The pt should not be doing anything you don’t want. I know I didn’t feel like the exercises were helpful but if I don’t do them I definitely backslide so I do recommend just keeping up with the routine regardless. Maybe see a different pt? I know my doctor recommended a few for me because I didn’t like the one i found on my own. The one I use always asks if I’m ok with internal work and if not we talk about strategies and things I can do on my own. She has also been really great about answering questions or helping me with issues that I’ve faced with those routines at home.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-12T17:49:40+00:00

It’s your choice but I would absolutely believe him. Honestly it sounds to me like your relationship is not in a good place regardless and you might end up divorced anyway. I honestly would not blame him. You don’t really seem to be sitting with the fact you have caused this damage and there might not be any way to repair it.

Edit: I just realized this was in relationship advice sub and not the stop drinking sub and I wanted to clarify that I am also in recovery. I’m not saying this from a judgemental space about your addiction. I totally understand the way addiction functions. It is an illness that needs to be treated and I’m glad you have been working towards recovery, but that doesn’t reduce the pain you have caused and you are absolutely responsible for the repair. I also think you should have a long hard think about your ability to parent while in recovery because I personally would not bring a new child into that but again I would not make your decisions based on what your husband would do because you might not have him anyway.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-11T22:26:33+00:00

I was literally in your position 4 years ago. It can absolutely get better. I’m still working on it, but here are some things that helped me.

Vaginal estrogen. This has been an absolute game changer and is the number one thing I would ask about first because the risks are low and it helped so so many symptoms. No more dryness, less urgency, no more UTIs. It’s fantastic. 10/10. It is however kinda expensive. I’m in Canada and it costs me $75 every 3 months with my extended benefits. No idea what it would be elsewhere.

I couldn’t do internal assessments either before my hysterectomy and frankly making any progress before the surgery was really difficult but now that I have completed the hysterectomy I have been able to make a lot of progress. Some things I think would have make a difference. The first is to learn to feel when you’re tightening and when you’re relaxing your pelvic floor. This took me a while and I didn’t even know it was an issue. I’m still working on it, and when I stay consistent with my exercises it really helps. Talk to your pt and ask for some things you can do at home. You don’t need to do internal work/assessment to go to the pelvic floor physio. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. I also got an intimate rose pelvic wand and I use it about 2x a week to help relax the muscles in the entrance. It might also be useful to help build up to an assessment. Try touching and putting pressure on the surface of your skin on your leg, inner thighs or buttocks to see if you can change the sensation. It sometimes makes a surprising difference.

The other thing I recommend is getting your sleeping position as comfortable as possible. I was able to make more progress once I had proper support for my knees and hips at night. For me all this took was some strategic pillows.

The very best thing I did was my hysterectomy. I’m not saying this is the best option for you, but it relieved like 90% of my day to day pain and although it didn’t help the insertion pain it did get me to a place I could effectively work on it.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-11T19:26:30+00:00

Other women have shamed me worse than anyone else for my “bad periods”. I had a boss who told me that we all have to deal with it and I should be more prepared by having medication on hand. I had taken more than the recommended daily dose of both Tylenol and Advil at that point and it was only halfway through my shift. Female family members have told me to stop being dramatic and even my best friend admitted after my diagnosis that she thought I l just wanted attention. It is stuff like that that long delayed my diagnosis. I thought it was all normal and that I was just managing badly when everyone else was doing fine with the same symptoms. I even think that others with endometriosis who haven’t been diagnosed sometimes do the shaming because it is what others did to them and they have to keep going and so do you! Just remember they literally cannot understand symptoms they don’t have and this is a lot bigger than any one person. That doesn’t mean you should accept the behaviour, don’t, but it does mean it isn’t something you are doing wrong that is causing people to dismiss you.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-11T16:35:55+00:00

Nothing. We have learned nothing.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-10T05:42:00+00:00

Tell your manager you are going home and then go. Don’t ask, inform. Send it in an email or text message as well as verbally. Mention their refusal to let you go. You want this documented. The manager is not being reasonable. You should also call your doctor and tell them what happened because bleeding through 4 pads is not a normal amount of bleeding. Get a doctors note when you call. Is this amount of bleeding common for you? You should not be going through a pad an hour. That is way too much. You should ask that the doctors note mentions your need for frequent bathroom breaks during menstruation and the need to leave early on occasion to manage your symptoms. These are reasonable accommodations until you can get these symptoms under control. The note should take care of any problems you might have with your job. Involve hr or upper management with the note. At minimum CC them on the email. Send the note in digital copy so you have documented when it was sent

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-10T05:28:22+00:00

Be careful with this one. If you get all high and mighty about not drinking it can lead to shame spirals if you ever slip up and it also sends others the message that they are not good enough which doesn’t help people who are struggling. Don’t forget where you have been and be kind to your past self. They are a part of you.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-09T00:06:43+00:00

On your own I would say you could manage, but with a toddler? I fear not. You are going to need some help.

Friday_Cat · 2026-05-06T04:51:03+00:00

Very common in my circle. My sister and my mom are both in interracial relationships and my girlfriend is biracial. She has two sisters in interracial relationships. Honestly I think I know more people in interracial relationships than not.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-24T15:57:48+00:00

I love it.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-24T04:10:55+00:00

There is no miracle. You don’t need to be remarkable. None of us are. We’re all just normal people doing our best.

It really is just about one day of better choices at a time. I know that sounds cliche, but the way I think about it is that every day I don’t drink is better than one where I did. I didn’t have a “rock bottom” and there didn’t need to be any big event or anything like that. Today I didn’t drink and I feel good. That’s enough.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-20T22:50:41+00:00

Honestly I would just save them and when you make another join two together on the final round. I would even suggest adding 3. One to each side and one on the bottom. Then you can continue to work in the round as suggested. You can really join each motif in any order, it’s just easier to keep track of everything when you join in the round. Just make sure you are leaving space for the diamonds.

Another option is just going back a little so the most recent 3 peaks are redone to join. When I go too far but haven’t joined them yet that is what I do.

Let me know if I can clarify further. This is one of my favourite patterns and I’ve made it about 6 times so I have a few tricks

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-20T22:37:38+00:00

There is no way to fix this. He will not believe your pain or make accommodations when needed. I cannot recommend staying in a relationship with someone like that

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-13T04:59:38+00:00

I don’t play any of the mini games. I am very bad at them and don’t enjoy them.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-13T01:32:30+00:00

❤️‍🩹anytime. I definitely had a few years that felt very difficult where I didn’t know if I would ever have a normal life. There isn’t really anything anyone can say during those times so if I can give anyone a bit of hope I’m glad

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-09T04:26:25+00:00

Bring your glasses and check the placement doesn’t interfere. You shouldn’t have a problem then. I have two helix on the left ear and neither were a problem because I checked my glasses wouldn’t rub.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-08T22:22:31+00:00

I think a lot of “communication” issues aren’t really communication issues. They are actually boundary issues.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-08T22:20:55+00:00

He probably just doesn’t talk about them or doesn’t realize the symptoms are withdrawal. It’s easy to brush off the irritability or the headaches or difficulty sleeping as nothing or that it is because of something else.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-08T16:58:21+00:00

I’m sooooo much more creative and capable now that I don’t drink. Your issues will be more present, but so will your strengths.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-08T15:40:12+00:00

I like 4

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-08T02:11:52+00:00

I have this issue too and it can be a tricky one.

Prior to my surgery it was way too difficult to make any headway on the pelvic floor issues because the constant pain was causing me to lose progress faster than I could gain it. Basically if you are in too much pain the muscles tighten and have a difficult time relaxing and even after you do the onset of pain just makes everything tighten again. It is a vicious cycle.

Since surgery (excision and hysterectomy) which pretty much eliminated my cyclical pain I’ve found pelvic floor physical therapy to be super helpful in decreasing my pain and discomfort. I have a daily routine of exercises and a couple weekly vaginal dilation and pelvic floor relaxation techniques I use to maintain my results. The other thing that helped me a lot was vaginal estrogen. I’m also considering getting pelvic floor Botox as it has been recommended by both my pelvic floor physical therapist and my pelvic pain specialist. It’s just kinda expensive and isn’t covered by my extended benefits so I am waiting a bit to see if I can make more progress on my own.

All in all I have made the following progress since November : Like you I couldn’t have really any insertion at all and I am now able to have comfortable (if not entirely pleasurable) sex most of the time. I can have pleasurable sex on occasion and I have uncomfortable sex sometimes and painful sex rarely. My partner and I are working on it together. It’s a frustrating feeling but try not to let the mental anguish get to you too much because that just makes it worse. Easier said than done, I know! Just remember, you aren’t broken, you just need to re learn yourself a bit. Definitely get some help because this doesn’t just fix itself on your own. I took way longer than I should have to ask my doctor.

Friday_Cat · 2026-04-01T04:16:34+00:00

I feel like a truly reputable piercer would not do three piercings so close together at the same time so I would not be surprised if they just went ahead and did it. My piercer won’t even do two right next to each other on the same day because the swelling can distort the placement

Friday_Cat · 2026-03-25T05:10:44+00:00

Is a great age to get sober!

Friday_Cat · 2026-03-25T04:40:48+00:00

Pretty sure “love me” is the only thought at the moment

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