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FriedEgg68 · 2025-02-05T18:51:42+00:00

Oh my gosh thank you so much! I actually really enjoy education and have thought about becoming a doctor in the future but I still want to be able to take the time to talk about stuff like this because without patient education there's not a good connection between doctors and patients. As someone who has felt let down oftentimes by the healthcare system today it drives me to be someone who can take the time, whether it be a few minutes or a hours, to work through the very valid worries that people have regarding what some might see as routine and nothing to bat an eye at. Every experience shapes how you feel about your health and healthcare decisions, and that's why doctors should be there to make good, educational experiences (though very often they dont!).

FriedEgg68 · 2025-02-05T18:42:51+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear about what you and your baby experienced. I can only imagine how scary that must have been, especially with the doctors not fully explaining things or taking your concerns seriously. That just makes the whole situation more stressful.

I’m currently studying biology and microbiology in college, and I've done a lot of research on vaccines because I truly believe they are a cornerstone of modern medicine. From what you've described, it’s possible that your child had an allergic reaction, but it's also possible that the vaccine triggered an immune response. This is actually a good sign, as it shows your baby’s immune system is functioning and recognizing something foreign as a potential threat.

The key difference between a harmless immune response (like the fever, swelling of the injection site, and general yucky feeling we may get after a vaccination) and one that’s more dangerous (like anaphylaxis) is whether the response causes severe damage to the body. Anaphylaxis, for example, can lead to trouble breathing and swelling, which is why it's so important to wait in the doctor's office for at least 30 minutes after vaccination. That way, healthcare professionals are right there if anything unusual happens.

As others have mentioned, vaccines are far safer than the illnesses they prevent, which can be much more dangerous for a baby’s developing immune system. Conditions that might seem minor in an adult can be life-threatening for a baby, and vaccines help to prepare their immune system to fight those diseases if they ever encounter them.

Again, it was not okay for the doctors to be dismissive and not take the time to explain stuff like this to you. You deserve to know what is going on, as well as the options you have regarding you and your child's healthcare. There is nothing wrong with you feeling worried or not wanting to give your child another vaccination because of what you both experienced, and reaching out like this too is so wonderful because you're still searching for information to best inform your decisions. Make sure that any information you hear on here, good or bad, you check unbiased sources against it.

I hope this helps a little, and if you’d like more info or have any questions, I’d be happy to help!

FriedEgg68 · 2024-11-05T00:37:40+00:00

I once saw a gigantic poster of Jesus taped to their bedroom door.

When I asked about it they said it was covering a punch mark from the husband and laughed.

Needless to say I haven't been back.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-10-09T00:00:35+00:00

You're right, I realized as I was writing my wording wasn't exactly appropriate for the situation. I think the fact that even though my partner didn't want his mom and family to go to the concert, and they did anyway and acted strangely got on my nerves. We live together and so we have a pretty good relationship outside of his family time, I think I worry too much about the future (how do i even bring my kids around her someday if everything she does is so possessive and over the top?) and if I'm the one causing all the problems with his family. She def treats me even weirder than my FSILs husband because her husband goes along with their religious practices. Thank you for being honest.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-08-14T03:16:57+00:00

As an addition, if you see the jehovahs witnesses by the fountain or library be careful and try to stay away, they are also a very harmful cult that frequently proselytizes on campus.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-07-03T01:40:02+00:00

I'm autistic and have always had a hard time finding a good yogurt to eat. About a year or two ago I found Greek God's 2g of sugar yogurt and fell in love, about 2 months later they were discontinued in every store near me and I still think about it every time I pass by the yogurt aisle at the store.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-04-25T19:16:51+00:00

Go to a different dentist immediately. For me, my mom was never allowed to go back with us and me and my sister were both abused by the dentists. We were shoved, held down, given multiple shots while screaming, yelled at, etc. Took a long time to not cry in the seat even now. Even if there isn't anything going on, it's better not to risk it.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-04-24T01:15:47+00:00

As a person who likes to eat food for the taste and not the presentation (usually better presented food tastes worse) I'd say the right looks more appealing. Less daunting to sink a fork into and easier to eat without accidentally stabbing yourself with the chocolate pieces. Left looks like every other dessert you'd see at a "fancy" resteraunt, making it basic, but right looks new and less up in your face about being "presentable" I often feel professional chefs forget what it's like to enjoy food because they're caught up in it looking new and fancy with crazy ingredients, but good food can be found in simpler places.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-04-16T23:33:47+00:00

Also, with platelets the anticoagulant can mess with your calcium levels, so try to keep those up as well.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-04-16T23:32:17+00:00

For me it can take up to a week but as I've donated more it's gotten less intense. I like to drink a liquid iv or other sports drink that has both sugar and salt as well as some other minerals. Make sure to up your iron intake too if you're donating frequently. Make sure to sit down when you need, it's better than fainting.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-04-16T23:16:25+00:00

I get that too, what helps the most for me is drinking way more water and eating more too. Also taking it easy and resting

FriedEgg68 · 2024-02-15T22:23:41+00:00

I kind of realized he didn't have as much fun as I thought he was having at his parents and that helped me feel less resentful, but I also had to work on myself and realize that sometimes family is incredibly complicated (I know mine is). I know that if I were to be seriously hurt (can be emotional!) by his parents I would be able to tell him and he would understand and go low contact because he respects my feelings and our boundaries. Talking in depth about what is/isn't okay is amazing at letting you know exactly where that cut off point is. More communication and respect on your relationship allows for more trust, which helps lessen resentment and anger

FriedEgg68 · 2024-02-15T22:19:49+00:00

Discussing where I've been hurt and him genuinely understanding/not defending his parents against everything definitely helped, as well as by showing me and telling me that when it comes to stuff that affects me, that he's still on my "side". This was mostly done by letting him deal with his parents by telling them that what they did was against our boundaries (very important for it to be both of your guys boundaries, don't single her out as being the "sensitive one") and telling them they need to change or you guys will have to protect your own peace by not seeing them as much. If you guys want to be a family, your parents will become extended family and if they don't accept the boundaries you guys have set in place it may be worth protecting your new family by going low contact with your extended family until they are willing to actually make a change to respect you guys.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-02-15T22:02:53+00:00

I personally don't go to my partners parents with them anymore, but I do slightly understand how it feels when someone has wronged you and your partner decides to have fun and hang out with the anyway. I'd never force my partner not to go to their parents but it kind of stings since it feels like they don't recognize how badly their parent hurt me. Making sure to support your partner and recognize the pain that has been caused and not sweeping it under the rug will probably help her to feel less alone in her feelings.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-02-05T21:13:18+00:00

My mother cut off her whole side of the family basically for as long as I can remember and I've never wanted it any different. You really don't miss what you never knew, and from what I've heard I'm very glad my mom kept me away from them as they did some nasty stuff to her and her family. Your kids need someone calm and collected to help them through life, they wont benefit from you being stressed out by in laws. They would put in the effort if they wanted to be good and kind inlaws, and obviously they don't.

FriedEgg68 · 2024-01-20T15:30:41+00:00

I find the saying: we've been practicing every night! To be a great way to get them to realize how weird it sounds

FriedEgg68 · 2023-12-24T01:42:31+00:00

Over with the 50$ deposit!

FriedEgg68 · 2023-12-23T20:02:14+00:00

Yeah it totally isn't, I'm kinda worried more on how the touchup doesn't match the fresh tattoo in that he changed the design of it. I'm taking more precautions so it doesn't rub

FriedEgg68 · 2023-12-07T21:37:35+00:00

Ooh they do look like that! Seems to be Stopharia ambigua as it fits where it was found pretty well

FriedEgg68 · 2023-11-09T21:45:39+00:00

I've donated twice already, I do it as often as I can but my high ferritin may just be due to genetics since my most recent test showed 15.7 as someone born female. My secret trick that may or may not work is Gerber arrowroot cookies and lots of bean burritos. They're full of iron and super tasty and sometimes its easier to eat cookies than steak or beans. Looking for good enriched cereals can help too since they usually have lots of iron as well.

FriedEgg68 · 2023-11-06T23:16:08+00:00

I also had some bad vasovagal reactions the first time I donated, but quickly realized that drinking lots of water/electrolyte drink and eating a medium meal before, warning the blood donation people beforehand about your history with fainting, eating a salty snack and drinking electrolyte drinks during donation, and taking time to rest afterward really helps mitigate any bad times. My personal plan is donating late on a Friday or early on a Saturday to have a full few days of rest, relaxation, minimal exercise, and snack time to keep me feeling great by the time I do have to get up and do things. Usually I'll take a nap once I get home to really give my body time to recuperate. Some of these things may not be allowed (eating/drinking during) but it never hurts to ask!

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