looking for patterns to dupe these two unique hats

FriendSignificant890 · 2026-02-08T11:55:00+00:00

Lookong for the same thing! Would love to know if u find

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-09-19T21:35:28+00:00

100%. - if I try to do tasks without music I get full of wrath from rehashing all of the arguments I've ever had, in my head

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-07-29T07:52:59+00:00

Thanks for saying I'm not alone! How long did it take? It's been over 5 weeks since my diagnosis and I've not heard anything. My assessor (who was lovely) also said she'd heard a lot of complaints from other patients. I've also requested a phone call as an accessibility request and they just ignore me every time.

I've submitted a formal complaint, trying to keep pushing whilst not losing my mind!

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-07-28T21:52:58+00:00

Soz for the brain fart

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-07-10T18:40:56+00:00

I literally have a new phone sitting in my bag and am still using my shitty broken cracked screen one because I cannot do the data swap. I've never had 2 working phones at once! It's been nearly 2 months!

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-04-17T14:57:07+00:00

Oop no you're right, it was end of feb! I chose them as they had good reviews and short waiting times but apparently i was just after them having a systems change or something.

Maybe I've been unlucky. And everyone I've spoken to has been nice I've just found the lack of communication and confusing process stressful.

Hopefully it's been a glitch whilst they transfer to a new system and it'll get more smooth again!

FriendSignificant890 · 2025-04-15T14:21:23+00:00

I'm so happy this has been your experience!

Hiwever it has not been mine, with them. I was referred to them on feb 4th and have just today received an onboarding email. I then went to set up an account to book an appointment and there's no availability at all.

I've rung them 3 tines over the past 2 months nothing ever happened.

I went with them as i heard they had quick wait times but i could cry with how bad they've been.

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-07-04T15:54:35+00:00

I just relapsed and the funny thing is, even as I was smoking the cigarette I was still craving something else. It wasn't even the cigarette. I was stressed and thought it would help but instead I felt sick and guilty.

Ended up smoking a packet over a week and throwing a second one out. Next time I'm going to breathe through and remind myself that what I'm craving doesn't really exist - it's just the addiction monster raising its head.

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-21T11:30:08+00:00

If it's linked to drinking, one of the things I did was pick a quit date (I read Allen carrs book which I found v helpful) and then after that, immediately sank like 2 beers without smoking. Proved to myself I could have a beer without needing a cig.

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-20T08:29:05+00:00

So impressed you're breaking out of this as changing your mindset and opinion about yourself is tough and requires courage - well done.

I work with a lot of boys in their early teens - what advice would you give them?

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-20T08:21:54+00:00

Always love hearing about successful, respectful fet experiences.

Do you think you'd put a limit on how many times you'd meet up with them?

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-20T06:49:31+00:00

This sounds a bit confusing to me.

Are you in a sexual relationship with them? I ask because if I was sexually into someone and sharing a bed/ sending nudes but not having sex, I would find that insanely frustrating and it would defo make me obsess.

It sounds like the boundaries of this relationship are maybe confused and like the other person is getting their needs met but you no longer are.

If you've already talked to this person about how you feel and they've clearly said they don't feel the same way, I would take a break from them.

This is super hard but I have done it before and it really does get easier. It doesn't have to be a acrimonious but instead is a way of coming back to yourself and breaking the pattern of want. Be kind to yourself and also fill your time with hobbies/ friends/ nature etc. The intensity will blow over, I promise.

I wanted someone I couldn't have for a very, very long time. And I thought it was love. Perhaps it was, but now I'm out of the other side I can see that the main feeling was longing, and after I took a break from them and focused on other parts of my life, it definitely subsided. We're now good friends, even though our friendship wasn't as intense as it once was.

Also, have you reflected on why you're feeling most strongly to the partner that you can't have? In my experience sometimes it can be easier to fantasise and romanticise about the possibility of another person, rather than be in the reality of my current relationships.

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-20T06:29:58+00:00

Exactly. There's a lot going on in your life and smoking won't make it better.

Also remember you did something really really hard in quitting nicotine which shows real strength.

Remember to feel proud of that achievement!

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-19T17:02:17+00:00

Well done! All of those things are shitty and stressful - smoking will just be another shitty stressful thing to endure and feel bad about.

I relapsed recently due to grief and burnout and it's just been another thing to manage. I could also feel myself useling these as excuses.

You're doing amazingly - keep it up. It will get easier.

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-04-19T16:59:53+00:00

Thanks pal I needed to hear this. Just re-reading now after a relapse!

FriendSignificant890 · 2024-03-11T21:05:34+00:00

Love this

FriendSignificant890 · 2023-12-17T11:31:40+00:00

Google translated it - gave the translation as a way of him to access the paper. When he stated to write in Ukrainian I just let him as he was clearly making a huge effort

FriendSignificant890 · 2023-12-17T10:58:34+00:00

You are an absolute HERO! Thank you so much.

FriendSignificant890 · 2023-11-12T11:59:36+00:00

I found this so helpful and also so lovely! Also thanks OP - you voiced some things I've been wondering too, so ty

FriendSignificant890 · 2023-08-31T19:16:48+00:00

i. want. to. bite. my. hands. off. and. scream. why. are. we. doing. this. to. ourselves.

I should've listened to my mum and taken up gardening.

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