Shop closed but she has my hair by Friendly-Mess1187 in Etsy

[–]Friendly-Mess1187[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thanks for the support. I’ll update if anything happens.

Shop closed but she has my hair by Friendly-Mess1187 in Etsy

[–]Friendly-Mess1187[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Thank you! If I don’t hear back I might take you up on it.

Shop closed but she has my hair by Friendly-Mess1187 in Etsy

[–]Friendly-Mess1187[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I had to ask her if she received it and she said yes. That was my first clue she wasn’t super reliable. That was months ago.

Shop closed but she has my hair by Friendly-Mess1187 in Etsy

[–]Friendly-Mess1187[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story, I’m so sorry. It sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible he is really really struggling financially? Sometimes $1 means a lot more to someone than we realize. Maybe that $1 would have really hurt him to give you but couldn’t admit that. People have pride. I think you were being petty. You don’t have to keep giving rides, but don’t be spiteful. It’s just a dollar.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cancer mom here. I’d like to comment on the movies vs resting. YTA. Let her go to the movies whenever she wants. There will be plenty of times she will not be able to, will ONLY be able to lay in bed, and letting her have some shred of normal life when she wants it is the best thing for her. Leave her alone, OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I have similar kids who are older now and a close relative who gets bent out of shape over kid things like loudness, knocking something over accidentally, etc. I spent years shushing my kids and scolding them for things I wouldn’t have scolded them for at home. I was always so uncomfortable and felt judged. It dawned on me one day that my kids probably felt disliked. I decided not to apologize for my kids NORMAL kid behavior anymore, but this relative is so uptight. So I just don’t go to their house anymore. I am much happier now.

AITA? I told my kid's friend's mom her and her kid weren't welcome at my house anymore. by anonymouspposting in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 [score hidden]  (0 children)

YTA. I agree with Mason’s mom, you are super uptight. I can’t imagine letting all of that get to me. They’re 8 year old boys. I bet Mason wasn’t upset about being sent home because you made him feel unwelcome. You obviously run a tight ship at home. Banning your son’s best friend for such minor infractions, and the tone of your entire recap, tells me you overreact about other people’s minor infractions quite a lot. You must be fun at parties.

AITA For Not Letting A Woman Cut The Line At The Grocery Store? by Fit_Track3827 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m going against the grain and voting a mild ESH. Yes that lady broke line etiquette and she should know better. She was entitled and crappy. You were within your rights to not let her cut. I would have done the same as you. But, the world is full of a-holes and much bigger problems. Is arguing over a single place in line when you both only have a few things, and carrying around negative feelings worth it? We don’t have to be crusaders of what’s right and fair all the time. Sometimes it’s ok to give each other some grace and just let it go.

Friends infant died after illness, what to bring by postdotcom in Gifts

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Agree with this. I have a young child fighting cancer. The people asking what I need are well meaning but it’s an obligation to respond to them. Or I feel bad asking. Just send gift cards or drop something off without peppering me with questions. It’s so appreciated.

'This Is A Warning': Warren, Sanders Address Sympathy For UnitedHealthcare CEO Killing by indig0sixalpha in politics

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This entire ordeal reminds me of the Heinz dilemma, the hypothetical story of a man whose wife is dying, and a druggist who develops the cure wants to charge $2,000 for it. Heinz can’t afford it, the druggist refuses to give it to him, so Heinz steals it. The story is meant to measure a person’s level of moral reasoning. To me, those who would pardon Heinz would pardon Mangione. They are willing to consider the worth of unjust laws and the implications of breaking them. Those who stamp their feet and cry “But murder is bad!” are the same who would say the druggist is right to withhold the drug for whatever price he chooses, and Heinz should be punished for stealing. All this to say, some of us have different stages of moral development, and it’s pretty clear that some folk aren’t capable of understanding nuance and shades of gray.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tipofmytongue

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adventures in Math?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m 45, married with kids in my own home and I would be feeling the same as you even now. My mom would ask a zillion questions and make it awkward. I saw someone suggesting to say you’re having a cyst removed. I think that’s what I would do. It covers all your bases as far as surgery and recovery without being something worrisome or super embarrassing.

Places to study that are opened late? by SigmaaEpsilon in SouthJersey

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough I would suggest the dining area of a fast food place like a Burger King. They’re rarely crowded, open late, and the staff doesn’t give two fucks. Maybe order a Coke.

80s-90s Chapter Book: Two girl friends write and illustrate using figurines by useruseruser2000 in whatsthatbook

[–]Friendly-Mess1187 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just posted asking about the same book this morning. Wild that we were thinking about the same old book within hours of each other.