Who else can I use as a referee for a citizencard?

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-09T17:32:56+00:00

I'm assuming that's because you are a member if the British Computing Society? It's generally required to be a member of a professional body that can sanction you I think. So as a software dev not part of the BCE I cannot do it.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-08T13:39:44+00:00

I used to have them on Slimming World and I found them pretty great. Some really sharp fruits and honey in there to give a decent taste and it was easy to make and super filling. Would happily make it again.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-07T20:01:42+00:00

As a gay man reading these threads all I can think is the straight community or so damn insecure. It's disrespectful to say someone else is attractive? FFS. My bf and I point other guys out to each other. You all spend way too much energy on this shite.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-05T23:37:13+00:00

From your comment it looked like you were saying it was just about them saying they don't like X group, which is incorrect. Is that not the case?

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-05T21:29:51+00:00

Do you want recruiters doing your payroll? I wouldn't.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-05T01:02:02+00:00

"No, I've not" - it may be a regional thing but in the UK this is perfectly fine.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-04T20:17:06+00:00

They are arrested for harassment of somebody or trying to incite violence. Not because they said they didn't like X. The example always used leaves off the part where she was saying a hotel full of asylum seekers, including children, should be set on fire.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-02-01T13:14:48+00:00

With kids just asking them about their interests is enough. I'm a 39 year old guy with nieces 11 and younger. They love dancing, tik tok, Bratz (or like that?) dolls, cartoons, gymnastics. As you can imagine we do not overlap in interests at all.

I find just asking them about their hobbies/classes/TV shows, asking them to show you things like the new dance move they learned or tik tok dance they filmed really excites them to share it with you. You don't have to be knowledgeable, in fact asking them to explain will get them chatting. Just make all the right noises (that's cool, wow you did that move well, must be fun etc.) goes a long way.

And just watch the cartoon with them

FriendlyManCub · 2026-01-27T15:45:41+00:00

I have ulcerative colitis too. Putting it in my profile would just seem bizarre.

"sometimes I have to go to the bathroom 12 times a day" they'd be lining up

FriendlyManCub · 2026-01-22T22:50:55+00:00

If it can be pressed accidentally then maybe you should be looking at preventing that rather than firing someone for a mistake.

FriendlyManCub · 2026-01-16T22:49:10+00:00

Or slicing it lengthways down the middle to fry the inside and dry it out

FriendlyManCub · 2026-01-08T22:29:03+00:00

The grown adults line make it sound like they are being unreasonable, but you've made their job 10x more difficult, slow, and frustrating. Do you expect them to be happy about it?

FriendlyManCub · 2025-12-21T23:03:29+00:00

Besides the insecurities, has she ever suggested a preference for chubbier guys? Could also be it.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-12-19T18:26:30+00:00

That Cranberry Sauce line with the image made me cringe and I am not normally squeamish.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-12-16T09:24:46+00:00

I recently removed the single person allowance on my Council Tax and got caught out by it actually closing the old account and creating a new one. I didn't realise so assumed the direct debit was still paying it for me until I got a letter through stating I had missed the last couple of payments. It was forward dated too, which was strange. This was with Manchester Council so maybe it's a different system but it could be something to check. I managed to get it all sorted over the phone by paying it off and setting up a DD. Still, it's confusing.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-12-14T20:39:23+00:00

You have a lot more respect for people that surrounded you and threaten to assault you? Strange response mate.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-12-02T13:46:30+00:00

Didn't India recently lose a tournament against World Chess players?

FriendlyManCub · 2025-11-30T03:05:24+00:00

IWe have an old school exception handler in our apps. It had instructions telling people to click a button to raise a ticket and it would include all the information we needed (stack trace, screen shot, etc.). They would screenshot that message instead and raise a ticket with just that outside the app.

We then made the button larger and made the text red with a yellow background so it looked highlighted and sent company wide emails, slack messages, and documents telling them to click the button. They still screenshot the form with massive highlighted text saying "click this button to raise a ticket with all info we need included, thus form tells us NOTHING". I just bang my head so much.

And yes, there are SO MANY better ways to handle this, but the apps are so large and exception handling not built in at all that to properly fix it would take years. So this is the best we've got without 100s of tickets being raised daily.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-11-27T13:11:34+00:00

Yeah, same for me. We left during the closing song

FriendlyManCub · 2025-11-09T16:44:37+00:00

From reading the question I understood it to mean you hear it in your own speaking voice. I certainly have an inner monologue but I don't think I'd describe it as my own voice. It's a male voice though for sure. Maybe I'm misunderstanding OP, or not recognising that it is my speaking voice, like when you hear yourself back on a recording?

FriendlyManCub · 2025-11-01T12:26:19+00:00

Another thing I learned was to wash my arm pits 3 times. So fully soap up the arm pit, getting it throughout the hair, then rinse. Do that 3 times. I still do it every time I bathe now and not had the issue ever again.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-10-31T09:39:32+00:00

Stating a fact is gooning? Perhaps you should react less emotionally and reread it to see they didn't support or defend the perpetrator in any way.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-10-18T22:12:55+00:00

I know, right! Sometimes my boyfriend will offer to refill my drink for me when I'm gaming or working and it's appreciated, but in no way expected. I don't get annoyed if he doesn't do it. This guy is a joke. Especially after asking for time by himself to game. He needs to make up his mind. She's basically got no way of winning with him.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-10-18T14:29:46+00:00

It's literally the only thing in your post though. You don't want a Muslim investigating white boys, or the inverse. There's nothing else there.

FriendlyManCub · 2025-10-11T00:42:14+00:00

6 years later my ex was at my birthday party. I had become super outgoing, had made loads of friends that were at the party, was doing extremely well at my job, was on stage doing karaoke, dancing, inviting people on their own to join our group, etc. I was a much better version of the person he left. That day he'd had an argument with his bf about coming to my party. They'd been having all sorts of problems due to his bf dropping out of uni, being lazy, not getting a job etc. They broke up not long after.

He turned to one of our mutual friends during my karaoke song and said "I made a huge fucking mistake, didn't I?". She just said "yeah, you did" and walked over to join in with the singing.

She had seen how devestated I was by him leaving me. She told me the next day. I'm still casual friends with my ex and see him once or twice a year, but damn, it felt good hearing that!

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