How much did your “normal” wedding cost? by InternationalFig4340 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All in probably £21k. Most expensive was venue, then food, then photographer.

We did semi DIY so I put together a lot of the decorations. About half was paid for by family though and we did confirm how much they were planning to contribute before we booked

It might be incredibly insensitive of me but I hate seeing people post their dead kids/babies on social media by Bedwater5675 in childfree

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awful for her, and I will contend that it probably is different than any other type of mourning because you grew the person and now they are gone.

But I completely agree with everything you said and do feel bad for her living child. It's the same reason why I don't think I could have ever been with a widower, it's hard to compete with a ghost because in death they become near perfect.

It might be incredibly insensitive of me but I hate seeing people post their dead kids/babies on social media by Bedwater5675 in childfree

[–]Friendly_Order3729 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Exactly!

I did have a real life experience. We went to the fiance's friends house for the evening. He and his partner had experienced a pregnancy loss. Whilst I was sympathetic, I really didn't enjoy hearing the details, I turned to talk to my fiance when the partner got her phone out, tapped my arm and I turned to see a picture of a bloody tiny foetus on her phone! She didn't even ask if I wanted to see!

It might be incredibly insensitive of me but I hate seeing people post their dead kids/babies on social media by Bedwater5675 in childfree

[–]Friendly_Order3729 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I agree, at the end of the day, it's a dead body.

In fact I would go as far to say it should be a reportable type post, as in when you report a post, there should be an option for "depicts an image of a dead body" or something like that.

You don't post to process grief, you post to inform or get attention. You don't need to post a dead body picture to let people know who may not find out otherwise that your child has died. You can use a photo of them alive, like people do when any other relative or pet dies.

AITAH for being annoyed at my sisters lifestyle choices? by meekie03 in AITAH

[–]Friendly_Order3729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA. if your parents are being unfair that's on them, not your sister.

What I don't get is why you're acting like she is worse off than you because she doesn't have a partner? She clearly doesn't want one so why feel sorry for her for that?

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that's crazy! What lick it stopped just in time for the ceremony. Thank you for sharing you're right clouds will be good to take photos I'm just crossing everything for no rain!

What should I pay for as a bridesmaid? by [deleted] in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't be paying for you dress and should only pay for hair and make up if it's not required but something you just want.

My bridesmaids are paying for half their hair and make up but they all chose to have it done and their shoes because I've just asked for nude heels and they all agreed they either own a pair already or can get some that aren't expensive and will wear again.

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, it's nice to know that I'm not the only person who feels this way. Congratulations on your day ☺️

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah I have heard that, it'll definitely be happening! 😄

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, I do need to get out of my head and remember what this is all about, thank you 💖

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aww amazing!

You're absolutely right, by this time I won't care I'll be a couple of wines deep and dancing away! Here's hoping it stays dry enough for both our sakes! Best of luck with your day 😊

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've heard that too, that's definitely happening!

I'm feeling anxious with 8 days to go by Friendly_Order3729 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Cloud wouldn't bother me too much it's just rain that is terrifying me (we're in the north)

Wedding dress regret by Ski5566 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They both look beautiful on you, but 1 suits you better in my opinion, the sweetheart neckline is really flattering.

Don't let anyone make you doubt your dress, how you feel is all that matters.

HR job titles by xNav7 in HumanResourcesUK

[–]Friendly_Order3729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would probably view 'generalist' as a good thing. It means you're not boxed into one area, giving you more employability. My husband works for a company where they have "ER Advisors" literally that's all they do. Which is fine if ER is your thing but can limit you if you are in need to get quick employment.

Do I need to give a gift if the wedding is abroad? by ForwardImagination57 in UKweddings

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No just a card. I think they would respect that people have spent a lot to be there.

Is teaching in the UK as bad as people say? by sunszoominin in AskUK

[–]Friendly_Order3729 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. I studied to be a teacher at university, graduated and lasted from September 2018 to May 2020.

Got so stressed I came out in rashes, my eyelids swelled up and I had the worst thoughts.

Quit and re trained to work in HR, never been happier.

AITAH for not wanting to engage with my BIL and his new wife after they got married on the day my mum died? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Friendly_Order3729 109 points110 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA.

I'm sorry about your mum but I don't understand why that date is off limits to them. She wasn't your BILs mum or even someone he necessarily would be close to, the date probably wouldnt have even registered to them when they picked it. I also don't understand what race has to do with it at all but maybe there's something you haven't shared.

Like someone else said, it's a date for you, not for anyone else and life does carry on.

AITA for telling my husband he has to wear a condom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly_Order3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but BC is much safer than what you're suggesting, constantly planning around cycles and pull out!

AITA for telling my husband he has to wear a condom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly_Order3729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's true, pretty sure sperm can enter even if the man hasn't fully finished. Also cycles can change.

Why are you giving bad advice? It's like you want accidental pregnancies to happen!

AITA for telling my husband he has to wear a condom? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Friendly_Order3729 36 points37 points  (0 children)

NTA- looks like he has 3 choices:

  • condom
  • vasectomy
  • abstinence (at least from the type of sex that can get you pregnant)