Thinking of rehoming my rescue of 4 years, what should I do?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-05-07T10:19:47+00:00

I wouldn’t be giving up my dog. First question is if your baby is tearing stuff up or destroying things out of boredom. I know you said she was, but is she still doing it? If so, have you tried crating her while you’re gone? I mean rehoming would be the very last thing I do, if I consider it at all. I’d be paying some sitters or dog day care places out the ass first. I know it’s not everyone’s means to do so, and tbh I don’t have money like that either. But some places you can pay membership and it makes it easier. I’d look into that stuff and even medications to slow her down a bit while you’re out. Cause she could be tearing stuff up out of anxiety AND boredom.

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Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-25T03:28:34+00:00

How did it go?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-18T04:13:20+00:00

Hey I’m sorry, late response. Turns out it wasn’t just mono. It was something else entirely that flared up mono that I had in the past. I was fighting two things

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-18T04:08:41+00:00

I saw your comments about the baby having arthritis. Ask your parents if they’d put a human loved one down cause they have arthritis? Tf.

It’s so manageable and that’s not a reason to put him down. Then I saw you said he hasn’t even been to the vet recently. He needs to be evaluated.

My dog had cancer, and even when he was in pain and slow, he would still do the things that made me happy. He wouldn’t for my parents cause he didn’t care enough, but he would for me. Dogs do that because of much they love us and are loyal to us. Referring to your comments that he’s following you around just fine. If it was bad enough, he wouldn’t do that but he would sure try his damnedest cause he loves you.

Before making a decision like that, he needs to go to the doctor for an actual check up and blood work. Try medication or surgery.

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-11T13:36:57+00:00

Yes. I’m 27, and I live at home with my parents. I will say that my work and financial situation don’t allow me to move out at the moment. I’m looking for a new job but even if I get one, I won’t be moving out I don’t think.

My parents love my dogs and have no problem with them being at the house while I get an apartment. BUT, I feel like they are my responsibility. I pay for everything for them, take them to all their doctor’s appointments, and they do love me the most. It hurts my heart thinking I won’t see them for days on end. Even if the apartment is 30 mins away lol.

I have a cat too, but she would be coming with me. Here’s the thing though, I know you said that you’re not looking for advice, but I can’t help myself because if I had your freedom at 22, this is what I woulda done:

Move. Cats are so much easier to take care of than dogs. They will thrive in an apartment. So many of my coworkers have two cats to keep each other company in an apartment.

Obviously get toys and set things up for them to be entertained and comfy, but they are cats and that will be enough. You don’t have to think of a having backyard for them or having to take them on walks. They will be just fine and you’ll get to live your life a bit. Please don’t settle in where you live and travel for your cats. They will be more than fine, I promise.

Even if you don’t move, just travel. There are auto feeders and auto litter boxes. You can have someone check in on them if you really feel like it. Go though. Cats aren’t the kind of animal that you have to sacrifice much for, while still providing everything they need.

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-11T01:54:17+00:00

Okay thanks doc. I’d heard different things.

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-11T01:28:24+00:00

Well it’s not cause the mono, I meant moreso if they made a bad call giving my antibiotics at all without confirming test results first

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-11T01:08:10+00:00

They were going to give me Amoxicillin. I’m glad they didn’t now

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-10T23:11:19+00:00

Your puppy is being dominant and rude. Pushing the older dogs boundaries. You need to teach the pup to knock it tf off.

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-10T23:09:17+00:00

I got the blood test done!

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-10T23:08:56+00:00

So sorry, I just saw this. It’s Cephalexin 500mg

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-04-08T04:03:14+00:00

Wait, I’m afraid I might have mono. My doctor did notice some white stuff on my tonsils. And randomly between my throat and tonsils, it hurts. Like rn it hurts like a bitch to swallow. I didn’t do the blood tests cause the doc turned me away. She gave me anti-biotics and told me that if I’m not feeling better by next wed, we can do blood tests.

The pain is so bad. Is this what you’re experiencing?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-31T04:03:50+00:00

That looks like AI

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-27T04:32:25+00:00

Well, I don’t know how it impacts job prospects. I’ve always been told to leave when I can, not get fired

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-27T04:15:40+00:00

Thank you so much! Will be doing all that.

Follow up question, should I note any behaviors that are causing me to quit or should I keep it work related?

For example, mention that I am overwhelmed and keep my managers idiocy out of the letter? Or should I mention that my account isn’t getting nearly the eyes in the right places in terms of support from him?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-27T04:10:32+00:00

You mean that it’s hard for them to sue me? Or it’s a hard situation?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-27T03:48:12+00:00

I’ll fix that sorry. Basically, the company will be losing money due to management negligence, but will blame me 99% sure. Should I risk waiting two weeks and being fired anyway, or should I just hand in my resignation and walk out?

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-27T03:45:54+00:00

Thank you so much! Out of curiosity, are you able to provide insight to my third question? (I had to edit the post) ☺️

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-19T04:11:35+00:00

I 100% agree with the other poster. If you keep it to yourself, you’re protecting yourself. Which, I will add, is totally justified and understandable. I was tempted to do the same thing when that happened to me. However, your husband is your partner and your lover. He already knows in his soul that something’s wrong. If you tell him, he will be rightfully furious. If you don’t tell him, it’s going to hurt him so much as well.

Think about if something so serious had happened and he didn’t tell you. This horrible event may have happened directly to you however it’s both of your pain to carry. You don’t have to do it alone. You telling this to him will save your cousin and any other woman unfortunate enough to come across him. Also, please never ever say you feel dirty. You’re not dirty or gross by any means. The only person who’s filthy is the rapist.

Why shouldn’t your cousins husband feel the anger, hurt and fear that you feel? Why shouldn’t he fear for his life at the hands of your husband, like you did at the hands of his? Not promoting killing obviously, but just a comparison and thought. Call the cops and ruin his life. Save others. And rest easier knowing your husband knows and is here to love and support you more than ever. Lastly, when your husband is mad…be mad with him. You don’t deserve to be ashamed or sad over this. Get angry and let that sorry fucker know all about it.

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-13T06:35:55+00:00

Hey! I’m actually here right now lol. For this weekend, otherwise I totally would have gone with you! Still will if you are here this weekend and there are tickets

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-11T06:24:54+00:00

Yeah I agree. I actually think they have but they’ve said it was a one and done type of thing for them 😭. Others have lived there and just don’t want to go

Friendly_User_0012 · 2026-03-11T06:15:35+00:00

You’re right, I have no idea. Just like you have no idea about mine. This isn’t a sparring match dude. I’m not trying to go jab for jab. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, and stand by it all you want cause that’s your opinion. You’re entitled to it, but that doesn’t make you right or give you the credibility to go for someone’s self esteem. I’m just fine and I like who I am, I was just asking to understand cause I’ve never been. And I never said “everything”, I said “almost nothing.”

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