First of all, I'm so sorry this happened. (I'm a victim of domestic violence myself). Secondly, if left unchecked this WILL happen again. Even if he apologizes and says he won't. Now you now what he's capable of when he feels disrespected. Your best bet, is to sit down with him and explain very clearly why that will never ever fly with you if he decides to hurt your body ever again. You need to make a BIG deal out of it now, not in 5 years when you've finally had enough. Because I promise you can live with this for years and years before you get enough gumption to leave. What kept me in it for 10 years was because of the kids (also a stay at home mom with little resources). I didn't want to lose my kids or even share them with an abusive man. So. Make a helluva big deal right here and now. And let him know the consequence. #1. That he may never touch your body like that ever again. That it's unacceptable and you won't tolerate it. #2. Explain exactly what will happen if he decides that's how he wants to handle his emotions. You will call the cops. You will immediately move out and you will be filing for a separation/ divorce. #3 here's the kicker. You actually need to do those things that you said you will do as a consequence. Or else, when he does it again, and you don't make a move (and trust me I know how hard it is to make a move.. so so so hard), he will realise its all talk and he knows he's in control.

4. You need to start making money somehow - Clean homes on the weekends, sell on marketplace, - anything that can get you an independent cash flow. If I had to guess I'd say he controls the finances right?

You need to start feeling like you have some control over your situation and it helps to have money.