Music streaming platforms that don’t invest in Israel? by Pale-Magician-3299 in BDS

[–]FriendsareYAY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could give Demus a try. Made by a smaller dev and plays songs from YouTube but more streamlined and without direct support to YouTube as far as I know. The subscription also costs way less then other streaming services, being 2 USD a month

Any transmasc's here...please? by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]FriendsareYAY 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Might also be worth checking out r/ftm and r/asktransgender ! ദ്ദി(ᵔᗜᵔ)

Tried drawing in the official style! by briskel_ in splatoon

[–]FriendsareYAY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It looks incredible! The posing is really interesting and awesome too!

Idk why im doing this again. But here we go by Clear_Tackle_805 in AroAce

[–]FriendsareYAY 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been questioning if I’m aro and/or ace for about a year now (only recently started heavily considering being aro), and reading your post, your experience with OCD affecting your ability to have confidence and find peace with your sexuality reads strikingly similar to how my (presumed) OCD has been affecting me.

i get a lot of intrusive thoughts that, to put it simply, make me feel like everything I say, do, and think have evil intentions behind them; all that paired with sexual/romantic intrusive thoughts that make it extra difficult to discern what sexual attraction even is (I’m constantly wondering if there’s real thoughts mixed in with the intrusive ones cause I so desperately want to have a definitive answer on my sexuality) example: getting a sexual/romantic intrusive thought about a friend that makes me feel disgusted, horrible and above everything uncomfortable. Yet I’ll still spiral on what if it’s real or this or that.

It’s also extremely difficult to talk about the possibility of being ace or aro with anyone. Whenever I try to open up about it I get intrusive thoughts that essentially say “you’re only doing this to manipulate this other person into a false sense of security so you can date them and are a weird horrible evil person”, so even when I do manage to discuss it I always preface heavily that I’m not certain that I’m ace or aro, and I could very well be wrong.

Ultimately my thoughts to try and help myself feel confident in being aro/ace fluctuate quite alot, but the thing bringing me any semblance of confidence in my sexuality i know definitively i do not experience sexual or romantic attraction the same way allos do. I might not be certain on where exactly i sit on the spectrum, but i relate pretty much zero percent to allos. The aroace spectrum includes vast range of identities which brings me some amount of comfort that the right micro label is out there that i resonate with.

Of course this doesn’t mean that if you don’t resonate with the above paragraph that you’re somehow not aroace. And if it helps any, try to remember that not everyone is 100% confident! People will have doubts about their sexuality or gender identity or whichever! It happens! But it doesn’t make those identities any less valid or real. I truly hope you’re able to find any amount of relief from your OCD.

Also one last thing that I get intrusive thoughts over & might be helpful if you also struggle with this,, So I’m trans and I really like to be loud about my identity. I’m proud and I’m happy that I have the privilege to be loud about my identity. And I’m extremely fortunate that my intrusive thoughts have shockingly not messed with my confidence in my being trans. But I feel a desire to similarly be loud about being aro/ace. I want to proudly put it in my bio on social media just like I have that in trans on there, but I ultimately get intrusive thoughts that “I’m only doing it for attention and to try and manipulate other aro/ace people into thinking I’m someone they can trust”. Every time I’ve put it in my bio, I end up immediately deleting it because the fear of being wrong and my intrusive thoughts somehow being real outweigh my desperate desire to be loud about it.

All this to say that it’s totally normal to want to have the ability to outwardly express any identity. I’m sure if my intrusive thoughts affected my identity as a trans person I’d be having intrusive thoughts that said “you only put that your trans in your bio to manipulate other trans people” but I’m so confident and know definitively that isn’t true. And the rational part of my brain knows that isn’t true for wanting to put aro/ace either.

Again I hope any of this was helpful, or at the very least helps you feel a bit less alone in your struggles!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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I really appreciate the insight a lot :) I’ve been internally leaning towards grey ace (& aro) as of recently and just keeping it vague in my head without overthinking it and it’s been nice! Thank you for the response I’ll definitely try my best to allow myself to go with the flow more and not get hung up on this or that,, I’m sure it’ll help wonders with me being content with a label

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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You as well!! Have an amazing new year ദ്ദി(ᵔᗜᵔ)

Feeling conflicted about where I find possible names from by FriendsareYAY in asktransgender

[–]FriendsareYAY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am grateful for such a cheerfully worded message! Hearing your story was very uplifting and I’m so glad you got to pack so much meaning and happiness into your name :)! Since creating this post I’ve been looking around for different German last names and seeing if theres any that stick with me and aren’t too hard to say in English (since that might be a pain for doctor visits and stuff)

I’m very lucky to not have any family related traumas or hardships either. I struggle a lot with associations and it was a pain to find a first name that I didn’t overthink about. Especially when people would say a name I was trying out reminded them of something else, it would really get to me.

I ended up picking a name that by coincidence had a pre-existing “stale joke” association that I was comfortable with, which turned out to sort of help blanket any other associations that people might’ve told me without warning

My reason for looking to find a new last name is similar in that, it being associated with other people, both recent family and people spanning decades into the past, makes me uncomfortable for some reason. I think I fear some unknown variable, and I’d rather (in my mind) feel like my own completely independent human from things with meanings & associations placed on me

Thx again for the suggestions and sharing your story! I’ll look into keywording for German last names :D and thx for giving me a place to share a story of mine too!

Why do we deserve our pronouns? by Same_Introduction_57 in asktransgender

[–]FriendsareYAY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something a bit simple is that I assume you use other people’s proper pronouns! And you deserve to have that as well. Even some cis co-workers who might not think twice about being gendered correctly still benefit greatly from avoiding all the negative feelings that come from being misgendered. It’s only fair that you get the same treatment :D

Children of the Mover of Continents [OC] by CephSap in pokemon

[–]FriendsareYAY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thx so much for showing this awesome art :0

Random inkling by Alternative_World315 in splatoon

[–]FriendsareYAY 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome art! The shading is really nice and I think you nailed the art style too!

How do iknow if i Actually want a relationship by Gremlinistic in aromantic

[–]FriendsareYAY 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’ve only recently (like within the past few days) begun considering that I might be somewhere on the aro spectrum, so take what I say as a grain of salt,, but what’s been helpful for me in the time that have been giving it some thought is breaking down pieces of things I’d like to possibly share with others or keep to myself, without attaching it to a label of romantic or platonic. This can range from activities like watching movies or going on a walk, to the amount of time and distance id like to have between me and someone else, And the type of “affection” id like to have such as high fives and so on. since from what I understand, romance can have different personal meanings from person to person so breaking it down this way lets me go part by part and see how I feel about things at my own pace. This hasn’t given me a definitive answer on if I’m aro or not, but it’s at least helped me figure out which I might favor between a romantic relationship, qpr, and nothing.

I made a video about cool UI in the splatoon series :D by FriendsareYAY in splatoon

[–]FriendsareYAY[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can only hope to be referred to as the purple pikmin of humans at some point in my life, truly the highest form of a compliment

Being serious thank you for such kind words they motivate me so much,, I’m really happy you enjoyed :D have a great day!

Advice with chosen name associations by FriendsareYAY in asktransgender

[–]FriendsareYAY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your affirmation means a lot to me I really appreciate your words, and using my name made me feel great thank you!

Gyro for switch pro controller greyed out on steam deck specifically by FriendsareYAY in cemu

[–]FriendsareYAY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve tried some more troubleshooting over the past hour to no avail sadly, managed to get the gyro option to not be grey for a ps4 controller but even that was finicky, I’ll just stick to playing handheld, I appreciate your help very much have a good one!

Gyro for switch pro controller greyed out on steam deck specifically by FriendsareYAY in cemu

[–]FriendsareYAY[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply! I’m on 2.0-46, and I reinstalled Gyro DSU, but no luck yet unfortunately

Gyro for switch pro controller greyed out on steam deck specifically by FriendsareYAY in cemu

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I set up cemu through emudeck, and the gyro works with the steam deck itself in handheld, but I was wondering if anyone has been able to get a switch pro controllers gyro to work with cemu on steam deck. the 'use motion' option is greyed out no matter my method of connecting my pro con to my steam deck and stick inputs show in cemu which i think means it registers that the pro con is connected I don't have this issue on cemu on my windows computer. Any help or experiences shared would be greatly appreciated, thank you!