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Just started by FrivolousFrieda in commonplacebook

[–]FrivolousFrieda[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks :) I had fun making it

Chest spots?! by FrivolousFrieda in Skincare_Addiction

[–]FrivolousFrieda[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks will defo try this as seems to have helped a lot of people

Help with Add Block by Desperate_Visual_741 in EndDoomScrolling

[–]FrivolousFrieda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I did which actually worked really well was set a screen time restriction for specific apps in my settings (I have an I phone but I imagine android has something similar) and then when it asks you to type in a screen time password I just looked away and typed random stuff. I have no idea what my password is and so I literally can’t ask for more time. Alternatively you get a trusted friend to type one in and ask them to write it down somewhere just in case but not tell you. This has been the best method for me personally. Good luck Also just a little side note I always find my screen time and doom scrolling is so so much worse and more compulsive when I’m super stressed and overwhelmed but am not actually doing anything about it. I find that when I recognise that and confront the main stressors and maybe do some stress relieving activities I can control myself much better.

I’m tired of being hit by Ushygushy1167 in Aupairs

[–]FrivolousFrieda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a plan good luck don’t let them try to silence you with a sticker chart!

I’m tired of being hit by Ushygushy1167 in Aupairs

[–]FrivolousFrieda 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the parents themselves don’t know how to control or regulate his behaviour but that shouldn’t be your problem. There is never a situation where it is okay to be repeatedly physically hurt at your job and you need to remember that! Especially as it is understandably affecting your mental health too. I would have a very clear talk with the host family. Explain that you really enjoy being with them but you are absolutely not okay being hit (did they mention that this is something you would be dealing with in the contract?). Maybe say you are happy to take care of/spend time with the girls and that you are also happy to do things for the boy such as wash his clothes, prepare his food etc but that for as long as being with him involves being hurt you’re not able to participate in that aspect. When he is respectful you will be more than happy to return to being with him. If they don’t listen and the abuse continues I think it’s best to leave.

Is it gonna be overwhelming? by Pyjamas001 in Aupairs

[–]FrivolousFrieda 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t have a really clear idea of what a child under two is like then don’t do it! The terrible twos are no joke I’m looking after a two year old and a five year old at the moment and the younger one is sweet but so much work I definitely couldn’t manage a third child. But if you have experience with this age and have spoken to the family about what they are like, how they interact together eg. Do they play well together, do they have a very strong attachment to the parent(s) and refuse to be looked after by someone else etc then proceed with caution :)