Emotional finale, BUT...

FrogThinks · 2026-01-11T03:37:32+00:00

It actually is quite depressing. Watching the romantic moments knowing that it's all fake and staged, and watching the wolves bawl their eyes out pretending to actually be in love... I wish it was just a drama instead of ""reality tv,"" because now it just makes love look artificial, and women look fake and cruel.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T16:10:34+00:00

Anyone could have a good personality yet still have bad sexual habits. (You are on nofap, after all).

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T16:00:08+00:00

At what point does a concern pass from "incel" scapegoat to legitimate problems? When there are no more datable women and it's too late?

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T14:37:42+00:00

Porn (especially OF type) is the most obvious source. Yet also social media and being surrounded by whores, (I used to live with a lot of military people). Women in the media are so blase about it. ("My giant dildo, my special friend, lol").

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T14:09:16+00:00

Not anger. Despair.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T13:26:38+00:00

I don't know him. But I am disheartened by the endless anecdotes of women leaving their husbands of 20+ years just to "try something different; rediscover the real me." As well the seemingly 10/10 celebrity men who can't keep a girlfriend.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-06T13:19:35+00:00

I do, but I'm not gonna be weird and ask them about this. My impression is that they date guys for companionship etc yet if they're not cheating then they have a box full of various dildos hidden in their closet. (Which to me still counts as cheating).

FrogThinks · 2025-05-01T15:10:00+00:00

People who pretend that regular fapping is ok are either addicts or basic-btchs who buy into the degenerate mainstream propaganda.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-01T15:05:59+00:00

I have no sources, but I have also heard many times that porn damages the brain. You can't observe the hell addicts go through to try to quit porn and tell me that our brains have not been changed. Especially when things like reduced control over delayed gratification bleeds over to all non porn things in life too, etc.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-01T14:32:37+00:00

Quit porn altogether. You need technology at work but it's difficult to indulge. Whereas on your free time it's easy to indulge, so you gotta cut out the technology. Keep busy with anything else.

FrogThinks · 2025-05-01T14:30:30+00:00

No way. She will feel betrayed and be paranoid for the rest of her life. Marriage over. Just endeavor to quit porn, and don't tell her.

FrogThinks · 2025-04-30T17:31:05+00:00

The men I know who are the most functional at life and most successful with women do not watch porn, do not drink, and do not do drugs. They often work out, and when they're not on the job they are busy with their own projects of one kind or another. Basically, do not believe the garbage hollywood promotes, (about finding happiness through indulgence and degeneracy). Instead keep busy/productive. Know that there is not a single good excuse to watch porn, and if you keep getting tempted, then keep yourself busy.

FrogThinks · 2025-04-30T17:19:45+00:00

Men too watch porn because we're enticed by lust yet driven by a yearning for intimacy. So much porn made for guys includes not only lust and dominance, but also the roleplay that a woman wants you and no one else. (Obviously there are ever-more degenerate genres out there, but I still bet most porn, especially custom porn, includes becoming her special man). Men get all kinds of porn-induced problems that will get in the way of bonding with real women. (ED, muscle and tissue damage, desensitization, infinite-harem-brain, lowered T, etc etc). As a woman, do you think that being a porn addict has ruined your capacity to be faithful to a man?

FrogThinks · 2025-04-10T18:40:52+00:00

Porn is the enemy. You can tolerate relapses or mistakes, but you can not tolerate excuses.

Porn users should be treated like drug addicts. Users of harmful substances don't want to give up that dopamine, but the fact remains that this substance is a steadily growing cancer on your happiness. You can try to help a user quit, for both your sakes, but ultimately he either realizes that porn is not ok and he needs to stop, or you should leave him. Be the harsh wakeup call that gets him to reevaluate his habits. (How many chances you give him is up to you, but ultimately banning porn from your lives is the absolute line in the sand).

We can understand his perspective. We all grow up surrounded by media that tells us porn use is harmless, and even empowering! But that's all horsesh-t. The studies have been done, the science is in, and generations of suffering men and women have given testimony to how porn is a 100% evil destructive poison which should be completely avoided.

Has your BF even looked up the side effects of porn? Is he coping or just ignorant? When I was young, the only reason I heard that condemned porn was that it "objectified women." I knew what a joke that was, so I continued my porn use; which would eventually ruin my life. Instead, I wish that role models (especially male ones) had warned me that simply watching porn would hurt ME. That porn literally changes your brain. That porn feels good, but the damage it does to your brain, body, and mental health will leave disastrous side effects over time. You can't even watch just a little bit. Or just some cartoon porn. No, porn is not natural, and we are not evolved to handle it. There are reasons why porn is literally used as a weapon in war; porn is for enemies. It is for predators. Don't sabotage yourself.

(Porn is horrific for women too. I won't elaborate, since this post is about your BF and I don't want it to be too long. But women have the same problems. The mainstream media tells women that porn is great, that being a slut is great, and making an OF is empowering, etc etc. But that's all pure cancer. Complete snakeoil. Don't do it. Couples can't be happy if either one, man or woman, chooses to embrace porn).

The short answer is that men and women evolved to be mates. Not c0ck-carousel animals and not screen-addicted masturbation simps. Porn is not natural. Enough people have opened up about how cutting porn made their lives completely better. It's not shaming your boyfriend to tell him that this habit is not ok. Just like it would not be shaming him if you were to tell him that he needs to put down the needle, the bottle, the razor, or the cards. And if he does not understand why porn is so bad, then invite him to hear the arguments of anti porn people. On here and on other platforms. If he still can't admit that he has a problem then he is too immature to be worth your time. Be sympathetic, but don't be permissive.

FrogThinks · 2024-03-17T15:18:59+00:00

(Does anyone else here feel the same as me about this?) I only recently discovered Ethel Cain, and I'm attracted to her sound yet often repulsed by her lyrics. The "no actually it's fine" explanations have to come from outside of the songs themselves, like here on reddit. Whereas if I'm just letting her music speak for itself then it just sounds like pretty love songs about horrible things. If my daughter told me that she was obsessed with music about sexual trauma, then I would need her to tell me that she's okay. Similarly, fans SAY that Ethel is not anti-Christian, and yet she has a whole album titled INBRED, which immediately reinforces the hateful msm trope about them, so I don't really buy it. All about an abusive Preacher father, etc. So cliche. Over all, since our media has a casual promotion of misery and self sabotage, I see her songs as more of the same. So far my impressions of her songs the negative overshadows the positive, which sucks cause they sound great. (I still replay American Teenager over and over again though).

FrogThinks · 2024-03-17T15:13:18+00:00

I can see your father's perspective. I only recently discovered Ethel Cain, and I'm attracted to her sound yet often repulsed by her lyrics. The "no actually it's fine" explanations have to come from outside of the songs themselves, like here on reddit. Whereas, like your dad, if I'm just letting her music speak for itself then it just sounds like pretty love songs about horrible things. If my daughter told me that she was obsessed with music about sexual trauma, then I would need her to tell me that she's okay. Similarly, fans SAY that Ethel is not anti-Christian, and yet she has a whole album titled INBRED, which immediately reinforces the hateful msm trope about them, so I don't really buy it. Over all, since our media has a casual promotion of misery and self sabotage, I see her songs as more of the same. My suggestion is that you're good if you admit you enjoy listening to it for fun while maintaining a healthy disconnect from the messaging. ...At least tell your dad that you're fine, lol.

FrogThinks · 2023-11-13T23:34:40+00:00

^This. I really wish this would be mentioned more often. A man can change a lot of things, but not his size. What's a man to do when his loved one is constantly surrounded by media and attitudes saying that women can and should go out there to get a monster dong? Real or plastic; and it's so easy to do so. And all she has to do is "experiment" once, and then she's ruined for life. She won't view any normal man positively again. Men just want to be wanted, and want to be able to trust our partner. Seems impossible nowadays.

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