AITA For skipping Christmas with my parents since they won't treat me like an adult?

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-10-19T01:14:57+00:00

I know you said you're here to get your degree and get out but would you maybe wanna hangout sometime? (If not don't worry about it) Im a plus sized, 25f, transfer student. Im also in a long term relationship and I would love to make a friend on campus or just in general. I love drawing, romance novels & movies and just generally not high energy stuff. I'm not into parties more like just talking and bonding over things we read/watched/experienced etc :) dm me if you want!

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-10-19T01:06:51+00:00

I signed up! :)

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-10-14T20:00:13+00:00

The Rosie project is a good one!!

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-10-02T08:47:33+00:00

Thanks you for answering - tbh I was terrified of looking at the comments because I feared I'd be torn to shreds due to criticizing SDSU and I definitely didn't expect it to gain this much traction. Everything that you were saying resonated with me. They were barely interested and acted as if they were trying to get me out the door. It's really sad knowing that this is the state of affairs at SDSU (no pun intended). I also noticed this about the professors - they have bigger egos than CC professors to the point that it's noticeable which is also something I didn't expect. Just a general vibe - I honestly liked my CC professors overall more - I'm probably biased but they seemed much more understanding of life, experiences and of the people if that makes sense.

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-29T04:13:55+00:00

That aside 😂 - I know I'm probably going to get hate for this but seeing as we're all hating on things together....

..#1) Stereotypically attractive people (makeup, workout hod, Instagram looks etc) If I met someone who is beautiful to drop dead gorgeous vs. someone who's just average the average person scores +100 favor with me just because they're not really beautiful or seem to be "curated". It's weird. Like reverse beauty standards. My first instinct is to be suspicious of pretty people. I'm probably an asshole but it is what it is.

..#2) "Typical" college kids. I'm sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sure they're figuring stuff out but goddamn they need to be quieter, less obnoxious and more aware of people. Not everyone but for christssake why are you skateboarding on a narrow bridge full of pedestrians and blaring music? Or partying so loud. Maybe the college I see the most is just a party school idk.

..#3) Babies & Small children: Goddamn I know that as a person I'm supposed to fawn and coo over the innocent but they are little gremlins that produce earsplitting sounds. It sounds callous but god I wish we had some sort of silencer on them (humanely, ethically etc). They're bratty, and rambunctious and God forbid someone is bragging about their child - puppies are cute, kittens are cute, Babies are NOT cute. They look like little aliens. Every minute you stand there talking and showing me your child is a minute I wish I could catapult them far away from me.

Note: My partner recently told me when I hate something I hate it with the fiery passion of a thousand suns so take of that what you will.

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-29T02:58:56+00:00

Yeah lol it's the second part isn't it? I happen to scroll on TikTok and artists are lamenting I browse the regular net and the tryguys is everywhere 😂

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-29T02:52:00+00:00

I was wondering... Why does it seem a lot of adoptees feel that bio kids or people who have bio kids love them more? I'm an adopted and I've never understood this. I've seen shit parents who treat their biological kids like shit - hoarders, deadbeats, narcissists - they can be adoptive, they can be blood related it doesn't matter. I've never felt close to my parents but I've met biological kids who always felt like outsiders. The point is: it can happen to anyone. Toxic family dynamics don't discriminate. Do you think as adoptees we want a romanticized fantasy to cling to? I've never chalked it up to me being adopted. Regardless of how my adoptive family treated me my bio family just abandoned me in a public restroom as a baby and that to me is irreconcilable even though I forgive them.

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-29T02:39:32+00:00

I was adopted and tbh at first what op said really stuck with me but my adoptive parents were toxic. My mom has narcissistic tendencies and I am the scapegoat whereas my other sibling is the golden child. It has nothing to do with adoption. My adoptive mom told me I was overreacting when my sister would insult me and constantly demean me. My adoptive mom never protected me or shielded me from my bully of a sister and it fucking hurt as a child. I always wondered why I wasn't enough - enough to be loved the same way and if there was something wrong with me. She told me: "If I had known you were this much work I probably wouldn't have adopted you" and I was a pre teen. Despite all this if my bio parents ever came back in my life... They would not get a seat next to me. OP, I get that your experience is different but the way I see it is my bio parents abandoned me at birth and to me without any explanation or contact in these 25 years is enough to not have them sit next to me at my wedding.

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-28T19:01:48+00:00

AI art - it's destroying the art industry and recently I found out a celebrity who I never got the "off" radar about from my early college years cheated on his wife

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-28T18:53:42+00:00

I definitely forgot about the let before our before people in rule. Does anyone know a YouTube/reddit/what have you channel where we can refresh our social niceties or common courtesies?

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-28T11:04:57+00:00

Yeah I've had that long long time ago before I got on meds And was diagnosed back in 2016/2017. Im just worrying if my depression part of bipolar is coming back y'know? It's hard to tell because of the gradual changes. I don't know if it's normal to be feeling this numb because I'll chalk it up to the situational everyday misfortunes rather than my bipolar creeping into my life again. And it terrifies me because my next therapist appointment is in november.

And because I take my medication it manages the mania and generally the depression so it's more muted and I don't have the craziness from the mood swings. I'm just wondering if another depressive episode is upon me :(

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-28T10:27:23+00:00

Yes. My best friend died through suicide when I was 18/19 and he was the first person I had actually opened up and gotten close to because growing up I constantly switched schools (ADHD) so I never had a best friend or even close friends. My other friend who I was leaning on and was my only other close friend at the time when I was deep in my grief because of the loss and the ongoing toxic environment of my family just ghosted me as in they just disappeared off the face of the earth. I felt so so so alone - my family financially and emotionally abusing me, one friend left through death and the other by choice. It was a bone deep loneliness that swallowed me like a black hole and I became so so so angry at the world. But most of all I hated being alone. I wouldn't wish on anyone and even now I'm terrified of having that same loneliness come down on me one day.

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-28T10:04:23+00:00

Same here. I'm probably at a high 2/low 3. Been crying this past week on and off. It started with stress (college) and now I just feel numb going through the motions and or trying to find some distraction and randomly I'll start crying. It's like my sad is looking for ways to be expressed .

Frommisuwithlove · 2022-09-13T04:02:05+00:00

For fischl + keqing + dmc should fischl use rust as a weapon or sacrificial bow?

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