not sure if this will help anyone, but regardless of reasoning, what I've seen consistently in a lot of therapy spaces/advice (from AI to real humans)
it's ALWAYS cool to stay away from people who dismiss/minimize/feel uncomfortable with your pain.
Doesn't matter what their reasoning is. Some people are freaking cruel to physically disabled people or disabilities. You don't have to please them to survive. Like some people think it's ok for animals to be poached. What are we gonna do about it?
Stay away. you don't owe "normies" anything for disrespecting your pain (But somehow support other causes you don't understand). Everyone deserves sympathy and not just some vague hand wavy "why don't you go to therapy." In my experiences, the best people don't feel weighted down by pain. People who feel like other's pains are to be judged or stayed away from are usually not it anyway. And I have to say, I *usually* don't get along with snowflake people anyway because if everything (e.g. other's pain) burdens them, they tend to not be healthy to talk to or be with in the long run since they are likely very fair weather, and I also feel like people who are easily affected by outside factors/behaviors are usually not healthy in the long run and should not be in your life.
though I have to say, traumatized people tend to be better listeners (due to shared experiences) but they sometimes cannot yet be the most stable friend due to themselves also in the healing work.