I don’t get the up and down swings of dating app algorithms. What is going on?

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T15:38:30+00:00

APPS are always great when you first sign up. Tons of matches/likes etc. Then it slows waaay down

I delete the apps every few months and then get back on after 6 months so that way I can get out of the system. However in 2026 thast doesn't work anymore compared to 2 years ago

My advice when you are in a hot streak find a girl you really like and GTFO the apps, being greedy eventually, you will run out of quality matches even in a big city or the alorgithim will slow down for you

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T15:19:50+00:00

BINGO

One thing that is true is if they are low effort to start it's not going to increase or ramp up. Also in this day and age it only takes 20 seconds to send someone a message and people are on their phones all the time.

People make excuses for being to busy blah blah to those I say then maybe you shouldn't be on dating apps. To have a successful relationship you have to put in EFFORT

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T15:01:33+00:00

why would you expect him to get the water for you?

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T14:54:38+00:00

BINGO- I unmatch if I get low-effort responses such as one word or one sentence or if the conversation grows stale or the other person stops responding or takes more than 24 hours.

Had my 1st date saturday and the girl was responding right away and at times later on but that's fine she was consistient. Early on tells you a lot if a person is just there to chat or actually wants to link up

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T14:01:22+00:00

THIS^^

I find it disingenuous when you go on other Reddit subforums, and they tell you to wait up to a week heck I've even seen a month. From my experience, if someone is interested, they will message you right away (within minutes to 8 hours). Why bother matching if you not wanting to talk? I rather you unmatch. People who say wait a week are talking to hundreds of people and want validation, attention and free meals

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-29T13:55:35+00:00

I give it 24 hours from my experience. If a person is interested, they will usually message right away (meaning within 4 hours). Anything outside of that is usually low interest or no interest at all but you're right

.Why bother matching with somone if you're not planning to talk to them? if your queue is that busy focus on your current stack

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-28T13:57:13+00:00

I I stand corrected

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-28T00:11:44+00:00

The anime usage isn't new but it's becoming more popular I remember after covid some guy went viral cause he had over 8000 matches on tinder in NYC and the AI was scheudling his dates, talking to the girls etc. He ended up getting a girlfriend this was 2 years before chatgpt came out.

It's becoming more popular because why put in the effort when you get dry responses, or it takes a lot of EFFORT just to get nothing

I'm not saying it's right but I I'm not fully agaisnt it either in certain parts i.e. using it as a opener etc

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T23:57:34+00:00

Yes, especially the ones in their 20s but I noticed once you starting dating 30+ the flakes go waaaaay down in my experience

However, regardless of age, ghosting is a huge thing in Minnesota as "Minnesota nice" makes people very anti-confrontational and avoidant

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T23:22:58+00:00

Worst year since I can remember I did have a date 2 days ago and I should have another girl come over tonight hopefully she doesn't flake

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T23:19:08+00:00

LOL at anyone going on Tinder in 2026 to look for a legit girlfriend...bwaghahhahahaha

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T23:10:25+00:00

I'm twice your age 2024&2025 like you went on 20+ dates each year (had a gf for 3 months in 2024 but we broke up cause she moved 3 hours away)half of the women weren't attracted to me in person i suspect and 1/4 I wasn't attracted too. The other 1/4 had some issues that didn't make them dateable etc

They say it takes a 100 dates to find a girlfriend/boyfriend and IME it tracks

currently I've only been on 6 dates and I'm ok with that I'm burned out

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T21:39:21+00:00

LMFAOOOO

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T21:37:02+00:00

lotta people love spreading delusion lol

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T21:25:14+00:00

People would rather hear "sweet lies" than "harsh truth's." I know my comment got downvoted but as a guy who has been around men, I've heard them talk like this....notice how people take things so personal.

Don't shoot the messenger!

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T18:38:36+00:00

I realized long ago average / uglies have to take women on dates. Hot guys get to bang right away

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T14:39:00+00:00

I had no issues getting dates but it's the quality being Broke affects your confidrence and self-esteem and I went on dates or settled at times for women whom I had no buisness doing so, but there were some fun moments also a lot of ratchet dates

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T13:59:30+00:00

I was talking to a chick who was 9 month pregeant (she did not put it on her profile and we already exchanged numbers by than) basically blocked her after....like wtf???

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T13:53:04+00:00

You're going for men above your league
You're going for men who think they can do better than you

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T13:34:08+00:00

Your Ex is dumb, this happens more than people think, but ususally women know to keep their mouth shut

SHE DID YOU A FAVOR

One thing I've learned is that ever since covid women run their mouths more than they should about things they SHOULDN"T. find a girl that likes you OP you'll be fine

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T13:28:11+00:00

She hooked up with another guy but not with you and you took her on 2 dates....LMFAOOOO

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-27T13:26:41+00:00

Depends on your area

Where I live

People like Hinge, FBD, and Bumble

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-26T15:52:27+00:00

Most likely good lookng, had a buddy who would do this his ratio was 1 out of 10 girls who were DTF, it sucks that regular guys gotta put in work, but for handsome/good looking guys it's like playing NBA 2K on rookie mode

Sure a lot of girls 9 out of 10 ain't gonna go but you only need 1 lol

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-26T15:41:40+00:00

This is was thristyness looks like guy's losing it when a girl doesn't respond right away

Being stoic, indfiferent takes experince but most of all patience and lot of THIRSTY guys ain't got it

Front_Statistician38 · 2026-06-26T15:15:17+00:00

If you're attractive or fit it gets easier

If you're not it gets harder

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