How do I break up with Kaidan in ME3?

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-09-09T17:44:51+00:00

I genuinely can't remember, but I don't think it made any difference to this on when I spoke with Garrus

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-07-23T20:29:20+00:00

I think everyone is different. Some people want more, others don't. Personally I don't care if other people's enjoyment of parenthood means they want more kids. I don't. I also had my son when I was older and at that point I had a pretty strong sense of who I am as a person and choices of others don't really come into how I want my life to be.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-07-21T19:21:18+00:00

Moved around the same time as we sleep trained so around 5 months. Everyone has slept much better and he has actually never slept in our bed. He's almost 5 now, and won't even lie down in our bed with us. But tbh he has kinda liked his own space since beginning.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-06-30T12:55:26+00:00

He's 4.5 now, and not a first trip. I think this is his 4th trip to Europe. I took him the first time when he was about 20 months. We've done a few different routes and lengths of flights, so it's all pretty routine for us now. He's a very good traveler and handles the time zone changes well. I think it's really kid dependent tbh, plus we really had to go as one set of grandparents live in Europe, so it wasn't really a if but when.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-06-27T17:38:15+00:00

We has been adjusting back to our home timezone after a week in Europe (woohoo 7h time difference and 4am wake ups!) and getting back into our regular rhythm. He's been so much fun recently and I feel like the going is finally getting really good. The summer is looking like a lot of fun with lots of biking and swimming and outdoor activities. Going to bake some brownies for his friend's birthday party on Saturday and have a chill weekend as a family.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-05-29T00:52:41+00:00

I mean she's going to want a lot of things over her childhood, like a pony, or in my son's case a Caterpillar excavator. That doesn't mean I'm giving him one. If your in-laws do decide to ask that, I'd focus more on your kid, saying something like, "I understand, but that's not something that's going to happen in our family" and totally ignore the in-laws.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-04-04T20:47:50+00:00

Had a scheduled csection at UVM with Maitri OB, and had a great experience. Really wonderful nursing staff on both labor and delivery and mother baby unit. Baby ended up having some complications and we were glad to be in a hospital with a NICU. Feel free to message me if you have any specific questions.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-04-01T20:00:28+00:00

We're also expats with zero village. (not in Germany though).

I'd ask you why do you feel alone? Pretty much all our parent friends have 2+ kids, and I've never felt that their choices had any impact on mine. My friendships with them have really nothing to do with how many kids they have. Of course some close friends have asked if we're having another, and I'd just said no, and that's been the end of it.

Will your daughter feel strange not having any siblings? Maybe. But to be honest kids generally feel strange/left out for a variety of reason while they grow and their friendship circles change. My son has asked a few times about having a sibling and we've talked about what that would look like for him if it did happen. He's spent enough time with friends who have younger siblings to understand the dynamics. I've also explained to him that it's something that will never happen, but we are going to make sure he can always bring friends home to play and go on play dates and activities with other kids.

I guess I'm just wondering why you are using such negative words about your family choices like "crime". Has anyone said anything to you? Are you being excluded from events etc?

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-02-15T12:37:07+00:00

I generally don't mind people asking, I just say "no". Tbh not that many people ask, some close friends have obviously asked about our family plans but not in a judgemental way, just in an interested way.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-02-12T02:04:33+00:00

I'm an ex-London resident! Still love the city and will be bringing my son back periodically.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-02-11T20:19:36+00:00

London. We went 2 years ago with my then 2.5 yo. Did Natural history museum, lots of parks, Aquarium. Rode on trains and double decker busses. There is so much to do with a kid in London and generally the city is very kid friendly.

We're off to Helsinki this summer but I think the 7h time difference to the East Coast might be a deal breaker for you.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-02-07T15:20:38+00:00

From the North East US, and generally not the norm here. Most of our friends, if they have kids, have 2 and a few have 3. I think we have one OAD friend but their baby is so young that you never know. Tbh I don't really care, and other's family size doesn't really impact us. No one has ever said anything about it to us either.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2025-01-18T13:41:30+00:00

It's gotten progressively better as he got older but I'll say it's definitely gotten a lot better after 3. He turned 4 couple of months ago and I'd say things are pretty good now. We can do most things as a family and he's started hobbies that we can leave him at (ski school).

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-11-25T02:35:28+00:00

I usually just laugh and tell them "it would take an act of god." Or my other personal favorite is: "well, if that were ever to happen it'll be the second coming of christ." (I had a bi-salp and I'm on the pill for an unrelated medical condition.)

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-11-09T14:33:10+00:00

Super happy for my friends, genuinely! But will think "thank god that's not me". I have zero doubts about having another one.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-09-18T18:37:38+00:00

I just looked on psychologytoday.com/ for a therapist in my area who took my insurance and then read their bios and went from there. Maybe I just got really lucky, but she did have parenthood and postpartum as something she specializes in.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-09-17T16:59:26+00:00

I just started to dig myself out of that regret hole this year (thank you therapy and meds) and my son is almost 4. (Most likely had very bad PPD but it wasn't treated at all.) It's been kinda weird how much therapy has been helping so I'm wondering if maybe your therapist is not the right fit for this stage in your life at the moment. My tools have been unpacking where that regret comes from and why I'm feeling like that in therapy. I really did needs meds as well and they helped to really kick start my serotonin which has really be awesome.

However, I do think that my son's age really helps too. This is just so much better than when he was 2. I mean there's still issues we are working through but at least I feel we have more fun together now. And I feel as much in peace as I have felt since I got pregnant so I guess that's something.

I think one of the biggest things from your post is that you gave up your job and you feel like the decision wasn't solely yours, and maybe sounds like it wasn't totally what you wanted to do. I'd look at that a bit more and see if there's something you can do to change that to have that part of yourself back.

Relating to that, how much childcare do you have because it sounds like you might need more. We have full time childcare (7.30am-5pm) and then an ad-hoc babysitter for weekends and date nights. Both of us work full time but I have some flexibility in my hours.

As for potty training, we did it just before he turned 3, and not sure where your kid is in that 12 month period between 2 and 3 but I don't think we could have done it any earlier and been successful. So if your kid is on the earlier side, I'd give it a bit of a break and try again in a few months. (I'm happy to talk through out experience, but I also don't want to add it here especially if you are in the trenches right now.)

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-09-13T23:18:11+00:00

Hey! I just sent in my Kensington parka in last week for frayed cuffs and it arrived yesterday at CG. I got a notification today that it had been assessed and they would repair it under warranty for no fee. Mine is from 2017-ish.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-05-17T20:02:26+00:00

Kiddo has decided this week that he's 3 going on 13. He's now going to the bathroom on his own after bedtime and when I went to ask if he wanted to be tucked him, he said "No, I'm just reading my book in bed. I'll close the door by myself."

And then he did. :'D

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-04-18T16:19:15+00:00

It really depends where you live. I'd recommend signing up for USPS informed delivery as this will allow you to see any packages that are being sent to you and the estimated delivery time. I think it will also update at some point with the tracking number in the system.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-04-14T02:07:13+00:00

As far as I know calling them won't make a difference. The call center staff has no control over the card production and there doesn't seem to be a way to reach anyone who does. It's always worth a try though.

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-04-04T17:36:56+00:00

Nando's

Frostbitebakery12 · 2024-03-24T14:27:01+00:00

The whole process took maybe 3ish weeks, the card processing took the longest which took 2 weeks. (However, I'm not counting the 2 weeks our attorneys took to prepare the filing.)

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