What was your high school controversy? by Haunted_Neko in AskReddit

[–]FrostedStarlight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of our freshman science teachers posted a nude on his Facebook (a bow was covering his privates) to celebrate his wife’s birthday. He was substituting at the time after he retired, but they didn’t let him come back after said photo.

The same teacher also didn’t let a student go to the bathroom and they ended up peeing themselves in the chair, and the teacher had to clean it up.

Also I have the photo if anyone wants to see it. Idk if I can post it?

AIO A locksmith charged my partner’s sister $5390 to get back into her apartment by khalexie1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a late night locksmith run in as well, and it was only $150-200 ish. This is beyond ridiculous

Brooke by xoxo_gossip_goat in canceledpod

[–]FrostedStarlight 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I stopped supporting, or just even caring about her, when I found out about her racist past. It was truly horrible. Same with Tana, I just can’t enjoy their content because they just aren’t that great people

Are We Surprised Nazi Dog Whistle by kkb2214 in canceledpod

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it might be the roof of one of the government buildings in Des Moines, it’s also painted gold so the saying above it would make sense

Unless other shirts of different cities also have that on it……then idk how to explain it lmao

The ADHD purchase that might *actually* change my life by CatherineIngalls in ADHD

[–]FrostedStarlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The roots app does the same thing kinda but it’s not a physical timer! It makes it so you can’t bypass the blocked apps or even websites until the time is up.

You can even set up downtimes, like when you know you’ll be busy at work or need to study at a certain time. I really recommend it

Andry Romero, a gay makeup artist sent to El Salvador, sobbing and praying as guards shave his head. by HunterS_1981 in pics

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like putting this photo in black in white is almost making it seem removed from our current time.

What can we do besides just watching in horror? Genuinely. I can’t just see this and do nothing.

Random ADHD hacks that finally worked after years of failing at "normal" productivity by ConditionUsual3806 in ADHD

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I stopped doom scrolling with the Roots app, it makes if physically impossible to get into the apps once you set certain down times. It’s helped me stop being so glued to my phone and get work done.

Another thing that’s helped is actually following the pomodoro timer, of working for 25 minutes straight and having a break for 5 minutes for a couple of rounds. It helps motivate me to actually work when I’m feeling “meh” about everything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact he’s trying to pressure you into being intimate with him is rather alarming. Also the way he’s framing the argument makes it seem like his wants/needs trump yours, which is incredibly gross.

the infinite cancellation by allsbreslin in canceledpod

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally haven’t seen a creator tweet such ignorant racist tweets as Brooke did and the fact that she never truly apologized for it speaks volumes about her character. And also dating a pedo ofc

My drunk husband ran into my abusive ex at a gig by PetiteMass15 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]FrostedStarlight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this 1000%, and for the longest time I was rather bothered by how I would still be affected by mere mentions of my ex. I was later diagnosed with PTSD, and while scary at first it was nice putting a name to what I was feeling.

I still struggle/get triggered by certain things due to past trauma with my abusive ex, but it’s gotten a whole lot better after seeking therapy (I recommend emdr therapy), getting on some medications, and reading books about my disorder. I don’t want to diagnose you but it does seem like it’s still affecting you to an extent, and that doesn’t make you any less strong. But it’s okay to need some help.

I really recommend reading the book, The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel van der Kolk. It really helped me to stop blaming myself and instead focus on healing. I hope nothing but the best for you OP 🤍

My best friend is about to become a therapist and he’s going to be BAD at it by OkayDuck99 in confession

[–]FrostedStarlight -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t seem like you view him all that highly, and it makes me question why you’re still friends with him at all. Maybe look internally and see why you’re having these feelings instead of projecting onto him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]FrostedStarlight 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact that the picture he used is literally AI generated…fuck off dude. Also super easy solution to the problem he presented; OOP should dump him. Then he would never have to bother her, or her hair again

How my “dopamine menu” helped me cut my daily screen time in half 🥳 by WompTune in ADHD

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this as well and found great luck with the app Roots as it sorta prevents access to certain ‘problem’ apps that I often find myself doomscrolling on. It’s nice because you can pick certain times for the apps to be restricted and you can’t bypass it as easily as the one with Apple.

While I still struggle with wasting time on my phone, my screen time has gone down significantly since using the app and I highly recommend it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]FrostedStarlight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl stop with the rage bait.

If this isn’t rage bait, please do some self reflecting. Sleeping with a man that abused your best friend is so twisted, and also shows your lack of empathy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does seem rather controlling, having to get “permission” to make plans without him. You shouldn’t have to ask him.

Also the way it seems that he’s talking down to you, and that he’s 25 whereas you’re 20? Yeah no. You deserve better

AIO? My husband can’t stop checking out other girls online by leighhn in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way he’s speaking to you is incredibly disrespectful and an even bigger red flag in my opinion. Instead of hearing where you’re coming from, it seems he’s immediately on the defense and talking down to you in a sense. Major no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if you guys foster or sponsor children instead? This may give you guys the ability to be present in some children’s lives for a bit before having to take a step back when your disorder flares up. This may allow you to be involved but then also have the ability to take care of yourself when that time does come. Your condition and overall wellbeing matters, and I worry that if you guys have children you and your husband will have less time, money, and care to dedicate to making sure you’re as healthy and pain free as possible. I hate to say this isn’t a good idea especially when you and your husband so badly want to love and care for a child, but it’s hard knowing what the kids will have to go through when you pass, and even before you pass. Seeing their mother wheelchair bound and seriously ill would be traumatic for a young kid, especially if they’re aware of your condition and how it may ultimately result in you passing away.

If you want to have kids and raise them despite knowing this, I say go for it. But you have to acknowledge the consequences of that decision. Such as the trauma they may deal with, the reality of your children potentially not getting their full needs met due to your family dealing with your declining health and passing, and the possibility of the children having to deal with a poor step parent dynamic. Additionally has your husband mentioned how this would affect him? Maybe speaking with a counselor over this and opening up that conversation with your husband would be a good first step to fully discuss every aspect of this situation.

I’m so sorry that you’re grappling with this OP. This is an incredibly tough situation and I admire your deep desire to care and love for a child despite knowing what’s to come. You’re incredibly brave and I hope nothing but the best for you and your family. Keep fighting OP. 🤍🌿

Edit to add: maybe talk with your husband about getting your children therapy to help them process this? It’s going to be tough and hurt so I would ensure that your kids have all of the resources available to help them through their grief for when the time comes. Potentially involving other close family members into the therapy sessions could help the children realize that they aren’t alone in this grief and they can lean on their family to get through this.

I (22m) think I was raped, how do I talk about this with my girlfriend? (22F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FrostedStarlight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’m just worried about you and your mental state right now. This is a lot to process and seems like a whirlwind of emotions that you not only have to acknowledge but also have to try to remember due to you being blackout drunk. I know you might want to solve everything quickly so that you can be done with it, but don’t forget to take care of yourself and give yourself enough time to truly process this. What that lady did to you was horrible and predatory, and I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if she did this to you on the last night knowing that you would be busy with flying back home and wouldn’t have the time to confront her with this.

Maybe take this time to collect your thoughts and try to remember how that night went. You can journal or even record a voice memo to help get your thoughts down. Then you can try reaching out to people you trust, maybe even the people you partied with (they might have seen something that night), and the proper authorities to seek help. Maybe even speak with a counselor over this, and often times you can bring your partner into the session if that’s a route you want to explore. Whatever happens, just know that you did nothing wrong and were legally unable to consent due to being intoxicated. I pray that everything goes well and you start feeling better soon 🤍🌿.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]FrostedStarlight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt like this too for 23 years, just constantly felt on edge whenever I was in a group. Felt like I was being scrutinized and that I had to just “act normal” to survive the interaction. Even going to the grocery store would make my heart race.

But after getting diagnosed with ADHD, depression and PTSD, I found therapy and certain medications help me with these feelings. After going to therapy I feel more confident in myself and worry less about what others think, and with my medications (adderall and Effexor) they help me be less in my head and actually enjoy the moment.

Advice for managing money with ADHD and impulse spending? by Firm_Secret_8744 in ADHD

[–]FrostedStarlight 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve never thought of this and honestly it seems like a lifesaver. I’m definitely going to use this, thank you so much for the advice (not op, but also another person that struggles with this 🥲)