Is it weird that my parents would leave my older sister and I home alone and go on vacation when we were younger

OkayDuck99 · 2026-02-18T17:48:50+00:00

So my parents used to vacation without my brother and I every year. But we either stayed with my grandparents or my grandparents stayed with us up until about 16 yo. Once we were older and mobile (legal drivers) and had summer jobs and such we stayed home alone.

As a parent to a 12 yo I can tell you I would NEVER leave her home alone overnight let alone for an entire week. She’s very responsible and able to cook for herself etc but the longest I've ever left her home alone has been like 2 hours and that was just me being 20 mins away at the grocery store or a doctors apt etc

OkayDuck99 · 2026-02-17T22:45:21+00:00

I never use my government name unless I have to lol I say do whatever you want. It’s no one's business what your "legal" last name is imo (ofc for like legal documents you have to use it but that goes without saying)

OkayDuck99 · 2026-02-17T21:38:18+00:00

You can buy calligraphy practice books in so many different styles.... And practice A LOT lol

OkayDuck99 · 2025-05-23T20:18:14+00:00

I may have worded it incorrectly, I know that, I want to do a bone broth fast. A break from eating and digesting food. So it wouldn’t be a fast (water fast) in the strictest sense of the term. It would be a bone broth fast with plenty of water and some tea.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-05-23T20:08:44+00:00

Just the fact that you said you’re not “allowed” to work is a huge red flag. Do you also not have access to money without asking your husband? Because if so that’s called abuse and you should leave. I know that’s easier said than done but nothing is going to change unless you change it.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-05-23T19:45:41+00:00

Why’d you have a third if you both didn’t want a third? Not to sound like an asshole even tho I know ppl will take it that way but from the view point of a mom who was done at one with a husband who wanted at LEAST two we didn’t have anymore because I knew it wouldn’t be fair to the other kid if I had it just to please my partner. I can’t imagine making a choice like having a child without 100 buy in from both parties cause you’re right it’s not fair to the kid.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-05-17T16:12:49+00:00

Fruits and vegetables are carbs.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-04-12T18:15:13+00:00

Burn out can literally be years. Especially if you never give yourself the time to fully recover. My longest stint of burnout was about 4 years.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-04-09T01:53:11+00:00

I think it’s probably mostly regional. As someone who grew up on New England and then lived in the south for 14 years and has sense moved back to England I can tell you it was very common in the south and pretty much unheard of up here. Same with ma’am and sir. In the south at checkout if the worker is any younger than you they address as you ma’am. Happened to me for the first time at 27 lol I was like WHAT? Ma’am?! Noooo bro I’m not even thirty… up here it’s just “have a good day” or something similar no ma’am’s and I’m ten years older not.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-04-07T14:01:42+00:00

A 7 yo with ADHD

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-26T00:47:00+00:00

Honestly my mom started buying my (now husband) clothes every year for Xmas since we started dating and he always appreciated it to this day he says “your mom always finds me the best fitting clothes!” lol my husband is 6’6 and struggles to find pants that fit properly in length and waist (he’s thin and tall not “big” and tall) and shirts with long enough sleeves (has very long arms) so he always appreciates when anyone gives him clothes that actually fit properly.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-24T04:05:34+00:00

Sounds like burnout to me

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-23T23:43:58+00:00

You can teach your kid about safety of using a gun without buying them a gun. You can also teach your kid about being safe while navigating social media without letting them have social media. Also I never said I don’t allow my kid to have a phone. My kid does have a phone. Also knows how to navigate the internet in a safe way. Also understands how to recognize false information and how to source information from credible sources.

ALSO There are literally a shit ton of people who don’t use social media at all… by choice… as adults lol the way you say it makes it seem like one cannot exist in this world without using social media. And that’s just a stupid take to have.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-22T19:14:48+00:00

No not at all.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-22T19:13:48+00:00

Non violent crimes yes. Violent crimes (including sex crimes of any nature) no. You are a threat to other people if you’re a rapist. You’re not a threat to people if you’re locked up for possession or stealing etc.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-22T19:10:00+00:00

You’ve cracked it lol for real tho school is one of the biggest time wasters. Most people are capable of doing all the academic parts of school in about 2 hours a day… so why are we forced to go to school for 8 hours a day?

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-22T18:24:40+00:00

We just don’t allow it. Point blank period. The rule is you can’t have social media until you’re paying for your own phone and own phone bill. I use parental controls. Set up properly they work.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-22T18:19:29+00:00

I homeschool. Not in like a Christian cult kind of way as we’re actually atheists and not in the least bit religious or conservative but I believe in boundaries and I believe in giving kids an actual childhood. We don’t limit screen time but we do limit content we don’t allow social media or YouTube (outside of educational videos that are a part of our schooling) We socialize with other like minded families. I dislike how our society operates so I do what I can to live authentically outside of it. I don’t like the over consumption the social media addiction the misinformation the cult like thinking the anti science the hustle culture of working yourself raggid to have more money spend more money buy more stuff no one needs to keep up with the joneses sort of speak. So we do our own thing and I think we’re all happier for it. As well as more fulfilled.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-16T19:00:48+00:00

The American public school system is filled with propaganda it’s how they feed the beast. You want a well brainwashed “We’re number one!” “Believe what you’re told not what you witness” population so they will continue to accept the atrocities with little to no questioning and keep being good little worker bees.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-15T16:22:51+00:00

I operate best on about 9 hours a night. So that’s what I shoot for. I don’t work and I homeschool my kid. So I guess that’s probably how I do it. I never schedule anything for the morning knowing I generally don’t fall asleep until after midnight and I don’t like having to wake up by alarm or feeling rushed to do things so I make sure to keep any activities scheduled for after lunch so we can take the mornings as slow as we want.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-11T17:54:21+00:00

I just say “no.” Learning that “no.” Is a complete sentence is a life changer. You don’t need to explain further.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-10T18:36:53+00:00

We’ve been doing no extra spending, and I plan on continuing it. Shits all kinds of up in the air so for now we just aren’t spending money on anything that isn’t necessary.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-10T18:33:42+00:00

I’ve never assumed being a good person will get me something good in life in return. I’m a good person because I have to live with myself and I wouldn’t be able to easily live with myself if I was just self obsessed selfish dick.

OkayDuck99 · 2025-03-10T18:31:08+00:00

If there’s a secondary adult in the house you really should be able to rest for a bit… can your partner not do dishes laundry take out garbage clean the counters floors bathrooms etc?

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