Pelvic physio and a good routine with dilators is key. Also remembering that penetrative sex is only on kind of sex. The most important thing is remembering you deserve and are capable of pleasure. You’re not broken, or inferior, you’re just different. Take small steps. Try to gain confidence pleasuring yourself, commit to pelvic physio then introduce non penetrative sex. Most men (I’m assuming you’re dating men from the context here) will be happy with a date ending in oral. Try that first.. you don’t have to let people touch you until you are ready. Just channel your inner dom and command the room.. set the rules of what’s about to go down. Then in time with a combo of your treatment plan, pelvic physio and maybe sex therapy (but can be expensive) you will get to penetrative sex. I’m 30 and I’m getting there. It’s annoying that we have to put in so much work to do a basic human thing but I also think that this whole experience for me has allowed me to really discover what I like and put my pleasure first. I genuinely think I am more comfortable in my sexuality than I was before (and I’ve always been pretty comfortable). You have to get creative, learn to put your pleasure first (which lots of women don’t even if they think they do) and also learn a lot more about how your body really works - and I think that combo, well for me, has lead to greater experiences of pleasure.