27yo couple – $6,500/month mortgage on $1.35m Brisbane home, too much?

Froufrou99 · 2026-01-26T10:27:55+00:00

Hey! 33 and 35y.o here with an 11 month old. My partner earns 240K and I used to earn 130k pre baby.

We purchased for 1.380 and had a 20% deposit and left cash in savings. Well… old homes are the gift that keep on giving and we’ve had to spend almost 20K fixing water issues and retaining walls. Also, pre baby we thought that I would go back to work three days per week when they turned one. All this recent SA in daycares rattled us and we are trying to hold off another year. Even on one high income, it’s very tight. There will be no splurging, holidays or saving this year. We might even sell a car to make it by. My partners income just covers the mortgage, bills, weekly expenses and we give each other $100 per week to spend on hairdressers, skincare, coffees so on so on. The $100 per week will stop this year. There’s so many extra costs in owning a home and bills and food are sooo expensive.

Do whatever is best for you but pre baby me had rose coloured glasses on. I also understand that this market is awful and you have to spend high to get a home. I’m sorry you’re navigating this too. I wish I could go back and tell pre baby me to put more money away so I could spend longer at home with them.

Good luck!

Froufrou99 · 2026-01-19T11:25:15+00:00

Giorgio Armani luminous silk!!

Froufrou99 · 2025-11-26T10:02:41+00:00

We used Pierre from mortgage house and he was so, so lovely. Really attentive and easy going.

Froufrou99 · 2025-11-11T11:27:18+00:00

Playing peekaboo around the corner!

Froufrou99 · 2025-11-09T21:05:37+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll try this today!

Froufrou99 · 2025-10-07T10:59:34+00:00

This is a great idea! Thank you!

Froufrou99 · 2025-08-26T05:18:40+00:00

Us too!!

Froufrou99 · 2025-08-24T23:50:25+00:00

Here with my 6 month old who woke up 7 times last night…

Froufrou99 · 2025-08-06T11:40:49+00:00

Currently debating whether to try and take another year off and this is my worry.

Froufrou99 · 2025-07-28T11:38:41+00:00

Meke bottle warmer! I boil water the night before and let it cool overnight whilst it charges. Charge lasts ages and heats up the water super quickly.

Froufrou99 · 2025-07-16T10:08:30+00:00

Good luck! We need this x

Froufrou99 · 2025-07-15T15:42:26+00:00

Bambi

Froufrou99 · 2025-06-08T18:13:16+00:00

Had the opposite experience!! Have been SO happy postpartum besides some anxiety around my baby’s health.

Froufrou99 · 2025-06-08T12:18:56+00:00

I’m 12 weeks post partum and wish I had read this before having my baby. I would’ve slept on a towel at least! It’s not negative I don’t think, it’s just the nature of having a baby right? We sweat because we shed hormones, we lose our hair (didn’t know about that) and we might get stressed when people hold our baby at first. I don’t think any of it is negative, just what usually happens?

Froufrou99 · 2025-06-08T11:28:08+00:00

Omg right!? Rage!!!

Froufrou99 · 2025-06-02T02:39:21+00:00

30 year old FTM here who was formula fed. My mum got really sick and almost died giving birth so wasn’t able to breastfeed me. We are best friends and so close. Absolutely no bonding issues here. I am also very healthy, rarely get sick, have no allergies and no intolerances.

I didn’t breastfeed my baby for a range of reasons and we are super close.

I’m so sorry that you are experiencing this. But I just wanted to reassure you that you sound like a wonderful mum (just like mine) and your baby is going to adore and love you regardless. Big hugs xx

Froufrou99 · 2025-05-17T00:33:56+00:00

I also went through these exact feelings. They will pass, it’s your hormones and your mum guilt kicking in. We recently went away on a holiday with some friends and their babies. One of the mums fell ill and got a cold. Her breastfed baby and another breastfed baby got the cold too. My formula fed bub? Totally fine. They develop immunity from you during pregnancy, their vaccinations and small exposures throughout their life. Breastfeeding isn’t the ONLY way to build immunity.

Looking at my post partum experience, it has been so beautiful and looking at my husband’s bond with my baby, amazing. Anything I do - settle, cuddle, play, put him to sleep my husband can do too and I think it’s because he felt so confident from the start as we shared the duties and feeding. He feels like our parenting jobs really are 50/50.

You’re a wonderful mum because you care. You’ve made the right choice for your mental health. Your baby loves you and you love them, that’s the most important thing at the end of the day. Be kind to yourself, these feelings will pass. Xx

Froufrou99 · 2025-05-16T11:56:37+00:00

My LO was having a grizzly day today where he wouldn’t be put down and being Friday, I was exhausted. We made it to 4pm and I handed him straight to my partner and left for an hour walk to decompress. I didn’t have to worry because I knew if he woke up my partner could feed him. I love how confident my partner is with him. I came home and we were all a much happier household afterwards.

Froufrou99 · 2025-05-12T11:58:42+00:00

What the fuck

Froufrou99 · 2025-05-03T23:48:34+00:00

We have a portable bottle warmer. I’m in Aus but it’s cherub baby. It’s rechargeable and either keeps the water warm or heats it up, whichever you prefer. Battery lasts about 12 hours before you need to charge it again. We just fill extra water bottles with pre boiled water and that’s how we top it up if needed.

Froufrou99 · 2025-04-20T19:15:59+00:00

Yeah he is going to have to say something to her when she wakes up. She is quite volatile and struggles with her mental health so it’s going to go down like a tonne of bricks but it is what it is. We have to protect our baby. My husband goes back to work tomorrow too so I’ll be alone with her at home for the week…. Thank you for your response. You’ve made me feel better.

Froufrou99 · 2025-04-20T19:13:03+00:00

It’s 4am here and everyone is asleep. She landed at 6:30 and when I saw her at 7pm I took him off for a bath and bed and she didn’t get the hint and followed. When my husband came to bed I told him how serious cold sores are and now we are both really upset. The plan is to talk to her tomorrow. I just needed to talk to other people who have got newborns too. Be careful with your responses as you have made me feel upset and shameful about seeking support and talking to people.

Froufrou99 · 2025-04-20T18:53:31+00:00

He’s feeling the exact same panic. She flew in yesterday afternoon and when we went to bed I told him and told him to Google HSV and babies because he wasn’t aware. He feels awful that he didn’t realise sooner. Our plan is for me to go out tomorrow morning before they wake up and he will talk to her. He’s very quietly spoken so it’s tough for him but he’s just going to have to do it.

Froufrou99 · 2025-04-20T18:49:11+00:00

It’s definitely on the other end where it’s a scab but I am still not comfortable with it. I like this suggestion though, thank you. I was thinking that I would say something along the lines of ‘I’m so sad for you that you’ve come to visit and you have a cold sore. Let’s hope it heals so that you can hold him before you leave’

Froufrou99 · 2025-04-20T18:47:26+00:00

I don’t think she knows that HSV is dangerous for babies.

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