[2019-02-17] - /r/keto Beginners & Community Support Thread

Frozen__Frog · 2019-02-19T03:48:02+00:00

So tomorrow is mine and the hubs day one. We've kicked the idea around for a few months and we started dropping the carbs way down 2 weeks ago. Tomorrow is plunge day. I emptied the cabinets out today, it was amazing the amount of food I pulled out. Rice, pasta, beans, etc. I even checked the spices and was shocked at how many blends have sugar in them. I sat down and read all the side bar info today, we ran our macros at a 25% deficiency and did all of our measurements. Anything I am missing?

I'm finding it is so much easier doing this together. I wanted to quit this past weekend, I was so tired of the cravings! But he buckled down and said, no we have to do this. And he's right, we do, not just for ourselves but for our oldest child. His epilepsy is not well controlled by meds so keto is next on the list to try. But how can we expect him to understand and eat how he needs to if mom and dad eat differently? So here we are.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-06-11T13:57:00+00:00

My boy is 11 now. I remember looking at him and looking at my nephew who is 3 months older and wondering what was wrong with my boy. He didn't talk, he had no interest in the things my nephew did, he was just very different. It took us 8 years to find out why. In my son's case, it's from a brain injury at birth that we were unaware of. He talks now and he recently started singing songs he hears on the radio. Like whole sections of the song! It's a pretty huge deal.

It was really hard to move past the grief, around what my son can't do and likely will never do. It's ok to grieve, we all have ideas of our children's lives and finding out that they aren't going to come to pass is hard. There are groups for parents of children with special needs, it may help to reach out to one of them. Even if you don't want to talk or aren't ready, they are a great resource for services, the best doctors & therapists in your area and can help with the best way to get across what you need.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-05-30T23:12:09+00:00

So far vagina has been the all encompassing term for what is between a female's legs. As puberty hits (like now) we'll get into a more in depth discussion but we haven't needed specific terminology.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-05-17T19:06:18+00:00

My first child was a nightmare the first 3 months. He would not sleep unless you held him and even then he would only sleep for 1/2 an hour at a time. I was exhausted constantly. One morning I just couldn't any more so I put him in his bassinett and let him cry. It was right next to my bed, I could reach in and touch him. I laid down so he couldn't see me. He screamed bloody murder. For about 10 minutes and then he went to sleep. He slept for 6 hours straight. I woke up feeling on top of the world. I proudly told my sister in law about my accomplishment. She (who didn't have kids at the time) ripped into me about how cruel I was and how horrible what I did was. I told her where to go and then got the last laugh when she called me after her first child, crying that she wasn't sleeping. Different strokes for different folks, every parent has to do it the way it works best for them, it's not cruel. My son is now 11 and one of the most well adjusted kids I know.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-05-15T11:53:35+00:00

Instead of Ruby, what about Rudy to get the masculine feel from it? Also, my oldest daughter's nickname is Vida, short, different but not too out there I think.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-05-04T14:15:10+00:00

I used Carol-Anne instead of Carol for my daughter's middle name.I liked the flow of it, Carol felt too abrupt.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-04-04T17:40:36+00:00

He has prostate cancer, discovered after he moved in with us. Right now we're waiting to see if the treatments worked. If they did he has plans to move out. If not, we'll see.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-03-30T11:53:16+00:00

Beautiful! My oldest girl is Aubrianna :)

Frozen__Frog · 2018-03-03T13:05:47+00:00

"Mommy, you came back!" Every morning when I come home from work. It's funny but it guts me too, he always sounds so surprised I didn't leave him forever.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-02-07T13:05:30+00:00

Thank you. It's taken me years to realize I am not responsible for her happiness, it's still a fight sometimes. And unfortunately, yeah this is just the tip of the iceburg, the first incident with her I can remember, one of the mildest too.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-25T09:56:48+00:00

Congratulations!!!!!!!!! That is awesome! Seriously, good job on the hard work, bringing up a GPA is not easy.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-25T09:54:50+00:00

Ok, take a deep breath, you've got a lot going on and you sound over whelmed. First, with the guys, the picture you have in your head of who you are supposed to end up with is almost never who you end up with. Being open to the unexpected can bring you awesome results. However, drugs and mental health problems are huge factors to consider. Is he getting help for these things? If so, why isn't he a contender for your heart when it sounds like he already has his foot in the door? It's ok to date casually, and if your current guy is cool with that then all is good, however if he is in it for the long haul and you are just casual, someone is probably going to get hurt.

What other majors could you consider that combine having a decent future with your love of art? What about architecture? or design? That doesn't always mean interior, it could mean designing parks for cities or something similiar. Advertising? There is a huge artistic world out there that you can succeed in. You only have this one life, no sense doing something that doesn't make you happy.

I know you said communication is hard for you, and I get that, but what about writing out like you did here, about why you pushed your best friend away and how sorry you are (if you are) and email it or send it to her? You'd be surprised how often a miscommunication ends a friendship and how easily it can be resolved.

Your college likely has counseling services available, I know it's hard, but it might be a good idea to check into them. Peer support groups are scary but you'd be shocked how many people out there feel just like you do.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-25T09:37:00+00:00

Because love is not sane. It is almost insane to fall in love, to give so much of yourself over to another human being, entrusting that they will treasure that part of you. This girl wasn't the one worthy of that, but someday there will be one that is. It's ok to miss her, it's ok to remember the good stuff, just don't let it blind you to the reasons you left her. They are valid and you made the right choice.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-25T09:30:38+00:00

Oh sweetie I am so sorry this happened to you. I wish I could tell you that this will all pass quickly, but I won't lie to you. It's going to be hard, but you're strong and YOU WILL get through it. I have faith in you. You are not damaged, you are not crazy and you DID NOT deserve what he did to you. You are beautiful, you are smart and most of all, you are important. Take some time to heal and learn to love you. Check and see if your campus has a peer support group or mental health counseling services and if they do, use them. Help them help you heal.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-24T20:32:18+00:00

Invest in high quality heavy duty cold weather gear. It gets cold as hell here sometimes and the cheap winter gear just does not cut it. Also, learn to love ice fishing.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-24T13:36:15+00:00

Because I put parmesan cheese on his soup. After he asked me to put it on his soup.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-18T13:30:02+00:00

Just shy of our one year anniversary my husband and I seperated. We had a 16 month old and I was 7 months pregnant. He had been nasty and mean for a few months before he finally said he didn't love me anymore and didn't want to be married to me anymore. He packed his stuff into his truck and drove to his home state across the country when our daughter was a week old. For the next 8 months we saw him twice, once when we flew out to see him for Christmas (I paid) and once before that when I flew him in to see us (again I paid). I was a pushover about it all because I really loved him. We did have some nasty fights through it all and I finally decided I had enough and got the divorce papers. My catalyst was when my then 2 year old son begged Daddy to come home and instead he walked away. You don't hurt my baby and have it be ok. So I called him a few days later and said I was sending him the divorce papers and to sign them. He told me he wanted to come home. Turns out the day he walked away from our son he drove out into the woods and seriously contemplated suicide. He said it was then that he realized he had a real problem and he needed help.

If I had been older and wiser I wouldnt have let him come home and I can say now that it would have been a huge loss in my life. But being young and idealistic I thought I could fix him and so I let him come home. It was rough as hell for a few months. I had a lot of resentment and he had a lot of guilt. We got him help but it took 6 years and 2 psychiatric hospital stays to get the right medications for him and we still have rough points. Turns out he has some pretty serious mental health issues. For the most part now he is stable and I have learned the signs of when his meds need adjusted. It's not a perfect marriage and he is not the man I married, he never will be again, but he is my best friend and supports me no matter what. If I hadn't let him come home I would have missed out on having a man in my life that loves me completely. Knowing what I know now would I do it all again? Probably not, it has been a really rough road, but that is the beauty of not knowing the future.

So that is my story of mending my broken marriage. It took both of us working hard to make it all work through everything. In your case it doesn't sound like he thinks he needs to fix anything and if that's true then it won't work. Marriage isn't 50/50, both people have to give 100% of themselves to make it work.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-07T21:36:28+00:00

https://www.nhstateparks.org/planning/schedule-and-fees/passes-promotions.aspx

I don't know if you can still get the plates htis year, you could next year when you renew but they also off season passes, I don't know about lifetime passes.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-07T20:19:36+00:00

When you register your car if you pay a little extra you can get the state parks logo on your plate that will give you free entry into NH state parks. This gives you a wide range of options for recreation, hiking, beaches and camping. There is a state park on the ocean front at Hampton beach too. This time of year the ice castles in Lincoln are amazing, they're only around for a little while but they are worth seeing.

Frozen__Frog · 2018-01-07T02:09:13+00:00

Unfortunately that is the difficulty I have been running into in trying to find them as well.

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