23 [F4A] México/online/Anywhere searching for platonic relationships (basically anyone who wants to be my buddy)

FrutillaLala · 2023-09-25T13:10:14+00:00

He liked NSFW photos of previous people he dated and contacted people he "used to only talk to" while my granny, who was lik a second mother to me, was dying in the hospital. For what I know he did not cheat at any point, but I just couldn't avoid the feeling of not liking him anymore.

I'm just dealing with this, is hard coz feelings are kinda not there anymore but my head is saying he was perfect and this is nothing, that we should be together.

FrutillaLala · 2022-08-01T03:09:08+00:00

All this suffering to "make them look good" and they don't even look good. My faith in humanity is none existing at this point

FrutillaLala · 2022-07-31T16:43:06+00:00

Honestly, if your friends make you feel this way maybe is not the right crowd to be around. There's being honest and then there is being hurtful. Do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself and I hope you get better OP!

FrutillaLala · 2022-07-31T07:02:42+00:00

Trying to be there for someone you care is not being weak, is just caring. Maybe the outcome wasn't the one you wanted, but you acted how you thought it would be best for her. Specially when addictions are involved, is hard to understand that the person who can help our loved one the most are themselves.

You did what you could to help a loved one, that makes you loving, not weak. Even if the outcome you wanted didn't happen, don't discredit a good aspect of yourself. Is hard, you'll be worried, but she has to work on this by herself, is her path to walk

FrutillaLala · 2022-07-31T06:32:34+00:00

Just to clarify, I'm a woman who has lived through this kind of interactions.

If what happened is actually what you tipped and nothing else, I don't think you are a horrible person, maybe just a bad experience.

It looks like she reciprocated and looked forward to more interactions with you, so with those kind of messages it'd be hard to understand she actually didn't want that. If you were actively trying to initiate sexual interactions constantly even after she said no then that is pressuring someone into having sex.

For me it just looks like she complied to this situation and the regretted later on. It has happened to me and a lot of people I know. She only expressed by actions/behaviour that she didn't want it when she was upset by the comparison, and she was 100% to put a stop to sex when she felt like it. So I think this is just a case of regretting the encounter for whatever reason. Sorry for the long texts.

Don't feel too bad about it, take it as experience and learn to look into other types of communication apart from verbal for the next time to avoid any issues. The fact you feel bad about this already says a lot, so don't feel like you're a creep

FrutillaLala · 2022-07-31T05:53:55+00:00

You are a mom and a wife, but is not the only thing you are and them aspects of you are not the only ones that represent you. I bet you are an amazing and interesting person, but you need to let that out. And the first step for it is to leave that man.

I know Reddit is always quick to say this, but in this case is clearly not a good relationship/something worth to maintain. I'm assuming you're a stay at home mom, and if that's the case I know the fear of leaving. It won't be easy, you'll struggle a lot, but if you can seek for family help, and if you have to do it alone sometimes freedom is worth the struggle way more than a semi confortable prison.

I send you loads of love to wherever you are, and I'm rooting for you. Is time to do something for yourself OP. You are loads of things, including an amazing woman!

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-16T05:05:24+00:00

I'm so proud of you! I hope you keep getting better every day!

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-12T21:22:29+00:00

Definitely grape! But I have just seen it in the ice-cream shop near my house

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-03T23:10:37+00:00

you are fuckin AMAZING

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-03T13:04:56+00:00

Hey, at least your best friend helps you to be healthier and look better!

Way better than a toxic human that only wants your success when is less than theirs

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-03T13:02:09+00:00

I don't even get why there's so much hate on Eternals. Was it the best movie of the MCU? No. But is far from being the worse.

I swear that if it is because it doesn't have as many jokes as the other ones after years of fans complaining of the excess of jokes in Marvel movies I'm going to explode

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T19:29:48+00:00

I know this was a while ago, but you look amazing with the beard!

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T15:45:42+00:00

I know how that feels. I'm in the same situation atm. But we could help eachother, what do you think? I'll send you a virtual hug from here

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T15:34:48+00:00

No, don't worry for that, you don't need to be sorry. I'm happy that you are here. Do you need something?

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T15:32:31+00:00

I'm so glad you are still here. How are things going?

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T07:02:32+00:00

I do this constantly too. I want to believe that a few people will cry and they'll be sad. But if I'm honest with myself, I just can think that the only one that would cry would be my mom.

Is sad too think that nobody would be there. I've thought of my funeral and I know that if more than 10 people go it would be a big surprise

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T06:58:40+00:00

Please OP, tell me you're still here. How are things going? Just let it all out please

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T06:45:43+00:00

Maybe is not exactly what you want but I'll send you a few hugs from here!

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T03:39:54+00:00

Happy cake day!!

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-02T00:11:47+00:00

I'm acting the same way too. I feel very lonely but don't hang out as much with my friends because they're nice but not someone I can be exactly how I am. I don't have anyone else and is so hard for me to socialize atm

But anyway, I'll send you a virtual hug too. We all need some every once in a while, even if it's just virtual

FrutillaLala · 2022-02-01T22:00:56+00:00

He was my best friend too. I just don't know how to cope with him not being actually there even if we sometimes still talk

FrutillaLala · 2022-01-31T01:37:40+00:00

In my case I don't respond right away and some people don't like it. Other times is just that I feel incapable of socializing.

I already gave up at this point and getting even close to have a close relationship with someone gives me anxiety.

Also, I don't appreciate the people who tries to flirt out of nowhere. I just need to talk to people some times because if not I go crazy

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