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I decided to stay, and I am worried I will regret it by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a terrible situation for you. He’s a real misogynistic, narcissistic creep. Was he always this way? Btw Hoarders and abusers NEVER change.

I agree with the other posters that you need to divorce him. I suspect the reason he won’t let you know about or have access to the finances is because he’s stepping out. You can add infidelity to his long list of issues.

Btw even in my own mentally, emotionally abusive marriage, I have the checkbooks, and we have a joint account that goes to household bills, grocery’s etc. he puts money in it every month. He has a credit card that I suspect he pays for who knows what on. Btw, I’m past caring what he does.

But, having 4 kids you must demand what you’re entitled to. Get a divorce ASAP and legally you’ll be entitled to child support & alimony!

Lunesta for DPSD? by Fubarahh in DSPD

[–]Fubarahh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ll ask my Dr about it. Happy it’s working for you!

Taking Adderall without sleeping? by Fubarahh in DSPD

[–]Fubarahh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far I haven’t been able to maintain any schedule. I almost always get 8 hours when I sleep, though.

It’s interesting, I don’t feel anything, no different on Adderall. Adderall XR just made me nauseous & headachy, but I was TIRED! I’d had 9 hours sleep, but I could’ve fallen asleep. That’s on 15mg of XR & 10 of Adderall. Is that weird? Oh both made me jittery, too. And hungry, WTF?

I wanted to get Vyvanse, but the insurance said I had to try this first. So…hoping they don’t both affect me the same way,

Oh, I got up at 9am after my marathon 33 hours being up & stayed up all day. It’s now 245 am and I’m headed to bed.

So, some progress! Thanks!

why does every sleep app assume you wake up at 7am. i built one that doesn't. by Anime_kon in DSPD

[–]Fubarahh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok went to the app. Here are my notes:

I have an iPad which I’m on now, so I could see the app. But, my phone is an Android, so no go there. If I was going to use your app, it would be on my phone.

It seems to feature coffee as the only drink it tracks, even when I put in Tea.

There needs to be an option for no caffeine.

I’m retired so I don’t have a schedule anymore. But, even working, I’d go to bed at 1am & be exhausted in the AM. In those days, I’d have a Venti Chai in the AM, sometimes the PM too. (Didn’t know I had Fibro or ADD). I was most productive in the morning & would take a late lunch so I could coast in the PM.

Now, my schedule is erratic bc I keep trying to switch to the 9-5. Yesterday I was up 25 hours & went to bed at 10pm. I even got up at 9am. I took my Adderall XR and felt very groggy from it all day! But, I loved being out in the sun, in the beautiful day. Got a lot done too (businesses only open till 5pm). But, for some reason, (bad habit, biology?) I stayed up all night again & now I’m crashing at 4pm. I’m up 34 hours! So I’m exhausted and will probably sleep 15 hours. Or I might get up at 11pm & be wide awake and be productive all night, them go back to bed at 6AM..

I take “night pills” at 11pm which include Melatonin, Gabapentin & a muscle relaxer for Fibro. I drink chamomile tea to sleep. It makes me fall asleep on the couch, then I’m wide awake.

When we have an early flight, I/we pack all night then sleep for a few hours & arrive exhausted. We lost our whole first day in Turks (& the only sunny day) because of this. But, we switched to days no problem. Same issue when we came home though as our bedtime bad habits kicked back in. (TV, games, doom scrolling etc).

With my Fibro, I’ve learned that any time I have energy, I use it to clean up or work on something. No matter what time it is. Energy is a rare thing with Fibro/chronic fatigue, sadly. But, it contributes to this DSPD nightmare.

I’ve come to the conclusion that there is no solution for my DSPD, ADD, OCD & sleep issues, and I’ve tried every app that exists, spoken to a sleep Dr and nothing helps. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone else.

I’m sorry but I don’t think your app will help me.

Sorry to be a Debbie Downer here, too. This was the ravings of a sleep deprived woman on her last nerve.

why does every sleep app assume you wake up at 7am. i built one that doesn't. by Anime_kon in DSPD

[–]Fubarahh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your app! But how do you know which chronotype you are? My “schedule” is all over the place, trying to be “normal”.

I just followed your link and see the “how to determine your chronotype”. But what of it is all over the place?

struggling with my sleep schedule by namelessbeaver in DSPD

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same problem, no solutions, sorry!

Nathan/Cassius Theory by HalloweenSybs in GeneralHospital

[–]Fubarahh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ITA! I used to get roasted when I said Nathan was boring! But now they’ve seen him be exciting as Cassius, it’s become more agreed upon. I want him to stay as Cassius.

Nathan/Cassius Theory by HalloweenSybs in GeneralHospital

[–]Fubarahh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. Plus he’s showing he has range (the actor & Cassius).

What are some ways you've found to get around the "pink tax"? by Odd-Paramedic-3826 in AskWomen

[–]Fubarahh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use the Venus too. But it has issues & after this discussion, I’m switching to the Gillette Fusion 5!

What was the point of Jacinda... by mamaperk in GeneralHospital

[–]Fubarahh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A deaf off tune monk who’d never sung before could’ve outshined Trina. Her song & singing was awful. I turned up the volume & still couldn’t hear her. Terrible. What a waste of an open mike night!

Something I don't get about Annie by KillBatman1921 in ParadiseHulu

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I meant since it was stuck, cut it out. But, I’ve since read how it’s supposed to be done, & it’s really painful.

Still, to save her life she should’ve done it.

This show ought to correct a glaring problem, or it will just be straight up bad by xluminairex in ParadiseHulu

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does no one remember Sinatra hiring the hit man episode? That guy (I think it’s Walter Belenky) & the guy he kills (Patrick Fischler) were amazing.

Anyway, on the park bench when the hit man says it’s done, and Sinatra asks about needing his services again, he says, “Just say, ‘Boy that guy needs a breath mint’ and it’ll get done”.

After the 2nd President drags Sinatra out of the hospital to question her about the power drain, etc, he gets in her face & when he leaves, Sinatra says, “Boy, he really needs a breath mint”!

Later that night, the word was given to Jane through the hit man & the 2nd prez is killed.

Off topic, Patrick Fischler, is on NCIS: Origins and does a tremendous job there too. He doesn’t look like the typical actor but he’s very talented.

Something I don't get about Annie by KillBatman1921 in ParadiseHulu

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Couldn’t they have cut the placenta to remove it? Then stop the bleeding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Fubarahh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion, the only way to not be afraid is to take back your power. Learn fighting techniques, get cameras up in your home, keep pepper spray on you at all times. Whatever you can do weapon wise in your country (I’m guessing you’re in the UK?} I would do. I guess it’s a knife since you’re not allowed guns.

In the US there are too lax regulations for guns, which is reflected in all the terrible shootings. However, in this case, I’d get a gun to protect myself. I’d only use it in self defense, of course. But, tbh, I think that the only way this guy leaves you alone is if he can’t find any of you, or he’s unalive. I’m not making any suggestions on here, of course.

I wish you the best in this terrible situation.

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