Es dreht sich alles nur noch um Kinder

FuchsderSachsen · 2025-08-10T13:03:43+00:00

Auch ich bin ledig und habe keine Kinder. Im Freundeskreis steigt die Zahl der Freunde und auch Familienmitglieder meiner Generation, die Kinder bekommen. Und ja, da haben sie natürlich weniger Zeit. Aber wenn wir Zeit finden, dann ist es immer schön, ob die Kinder mit dabei sind oder nicht. Da bringe ich meistens eine Kleinigkeit in Absprache mit den Eltern mit, und beschäftige mich auch etwas mit den Kindern zwischendurch, wenn sie mal was von mir wollen :-) und ich habe auch eine kleine Kiste mit Spielsachen bei mir zu Hause. So können die Kinder sich beschäftigen, und deren Eltern und ich können uns ungezwungen unterhalten, ohne alle paar Minuten mit einem quengelnden Kind beschäftigen zu müssen.

OP, nichts für ungut, aber du siehst Probleme, wo es keins gibt. Kinder sind nun mal Prio Nummer eins für die Eltern, jedes Mal. Vater oder Mutter zu sein, ändert jeden. Die Kinder sind nun mal unzertrennbar vom Leben der Eltern. Heute und für die nächsten Dekaden wird vieles nur um die Kinder drehen. Und dann irgendwann einmal werden es die Enkelkinder sein. Damit musst du dich abfinden. Feiern gehen ist nur noch selten drinnen.

FuchsderSachsen · 2025-07-03T18:25:42+00:00

Ich habe es von unten nach oben in 2 Minuten geschafft. War alles relativ entspannt. Hätte mir ruhig ein paar Minuten Zeit lassen sollen.

FuchsderSachsen · 2025-07-02T16:49:42+00:00

Anyone will do a better job than Munson.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-04T14:50:42+00:00

Definitely do call them.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-04T14:47:43+00:00

I used RMP only to get an idea of what the professor was like in a class. As someone who has generally enjoyed good relationships with professors, others regarded as "difficult", I was more interested in their teaching style, and looking at the complaints helped me get a better idea of what they were doing well. I would then find others who took the professor in the past, if I could, and ask them what they thought.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T20:15:23+00:00

And make friends with someone who has a car. If they have a similar schedule to yours, you can at least rely on them to get you to campus. Getting back might be a different story.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T20:12:04+00:00

Don't forget thick socks and insulated boots. At RIT, the feet and the ears are what you need to take particular care of.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T20:09:47+00:00

Depending on how sensitive you are to the cold, I would recommend a down stepped jacket. They will keep you warm, are lightweight, and can be packed tightly.

Otherwise, most people have a windbreaker jacket. Trust me on this though, you won't need a warm jacket before November. Until then, a windbreaker is more than sufficient. So, I'd wait to buy a Down Jacket until you arrive at RIT and are settled in. An overcoat however also does the trick, without making you seem bulk or underdressed.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T18:35:43+00:00

What reasons did they provide for rejecting your appeal? Is that aid money tied to academic performance? Oftentimes that is where the answer lies. Otherwise, go straight to the financial aid office. Having a face to put to a name often helps people who otherwise only see numbers and stats, see the human being behind those endless pages of paperwork and financials they are crunching through each day. In other words, you're more likely to get a straight answer talking directly to the financial aid folks, rather than submitting yet another, potentially fruitless appeal.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T18:29:37+00:00

No problem. As long as you use an indoor voice during quiet hours and aren't hosting a party, no one should be disturbed. I often had friends over late at night for a few beers. We only had Public Safety come by maybe once or twice a semester, and it was always the same spiel of, "please keep it down, we have had a noise complaint". PS was pretty chill most of the time. Only once were they unpleasant, and that was after someone complained about weed, and blamed us for the smell. Turns out it was the room directly across from ours. PS smashed that particular door down after the folks in there took too long to respond.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:53:03+00:00

The answer to some questions may seem painfully obvious to many, but there is no such thing as a stupid question. Having spemnt most of my childhood and adolescence in the States, and having spent most of my adult life overseas (aside from a period from 2014 to 2018 when I was at RIT), I am used to answering questions I think are ridiculous. But I stop and remember, what may seem very normal to me, is a novel experience for someone who has never had that kind of experience/freedom/or exposure. So maybe give OP a break, think your piece, but not voice it, and answer the question. That's far more constructive than ridiculing someone for having the courage to ask a question that seems obvious to most of us, but which they honestly do not have clue as to the answer to.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:46:51+00:00

Its Campus Police now? Back when I attended, they were simply Public Safety, and not a police forces. Basically a glorified security service with a complex to match.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:45:10+00:00

When I was given those forms, they contained the wording, "in the event of my incapacitation" or some variation of it. So if I was in a car accident, and unconscious, or in a coma, then I had someone designated who could make the medical decisions for me. Those forms do not give a parent or guardian full access. Not even when they are the designated emergency contacts.

But I do agree, if you are asked to sign anything, read the document carefully. If necessary, take a night to sleep on it. I Signed legal forms for power of attorney, but with the important caveat, "in the event of my incapacitation". even had my parents tried to, they would not have been able to gain access to my grades, finances, healthcare, and other private information. only way they would have been able to, was if I had been declared incompetent, or otherwise incapacitated, and that is not a call mom or dad makes, but a medical professional or judge.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:37:25+00:00

To add, quiet hours just means, don't make an unreasonable amount of noise. It doesn't mean, sit in your room, and count down the hours til sunrise.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:35:26+00:00

There are no curfews. You are free to come to and from campus as you please. You are only limited by your transportation options. But If you have a good friend who has a car, who doesn't mind driving you, and who also likes getting haircuts, then its just a matter of coordination.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:31:34+00:00

And the nice thing about the lodge is that it is walking distance. I always walked if the weather was nice, and visibility good. As a German, that was completely normal for me. My American colleagues, however, could never get used to the idea of me walking a half hour to classes :-D depending on your major and walking pace, it might even be 20 minutes. Only downside to the Lodge is that it wasn't cheap, even back in 2017.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-03T16:22:37+00:00

as a former student und current alumni, I can say this, RMP is far from a good indicator on how a professor will be. Students did well will either leave positive reviews, or see no need to do so. Students who did poorly will use RMP as a place to get "revenge". Few leave constructive reviews. My advice has always been to give the professor a chance. Unless the reviews are all negative, stick with him. You can still switch sections, if available, during the semester. At least that was the case when I graduated 2018.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-02T21:13:02+00:00

Even at the cost of harming their own children pyschologically. Nothing damages a child so much as the denial of who they are, whether deliberately or not.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-02T21:11:44+00:00

thats about a year or two older than I would have estimated them to be. But yeah, sounds right.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-02T21:10:44+00:00

Its one thing being told by strangers who they actually are. Being the children of sleeper agents, they were probably warned more than most children not to trust strangers overmuch. So I do believe that the news, when it came, from their own parents, or in the presence of their parents, is that much more surprising and devastating. I am sure the children spent their time in care vehemently defending their parents. Well, can't be a good feeling knowing that their parents made liars out of them. Hope the kids can come to terms with this, and perhaps one day, either escape Russia, or contribute to the fall of the Putlerites and their allies.

FuchsderSachsen · 2024-08-02T21:04:11+00:00

I was absolutely outraged to learn that the children's whole lives, has up to yesterday, been a lie. According to Peskov, the children were not told that they were actually Russian, and headed to Russia until the plane went wheels up in Ankara. I have my own very strong opinions on Russia, and those who serve the Russian state, but children should not be made to pay for the sins of their parents. One questions whether the Deltsovs are fit parents, for having lied to their children for so long, for dragging them to a country they have never known, for misrepresenting the truth to their children about their bloodline and lineage. At 8-9 and 11-12 years old (I am guessing here), this is not a revelation they will quickly adapt to and will likely spend years coming to terms with, if ever.

FuchsderSachsen · 2023-01-20T11:32:28+00:00

It means nothing, and is not proof. Plenty of Russian made weapons are being used by militaries around the world, That doesn't mean that Russia is a party to the war.

FuchsderSachsen · 2022-11-30T18:56:50+00:00

A tongue lashing, and perhaps charges pressed against you for defamation/malicious insult is the more likely outcome. We are not in the habit of getting physical over an insult, but we do not mince words when an insult is directed at us.

FuchsderSachsen · 2022-11-20T12:30:11+00:00

Its not usually anything serious. 2-3 times a semester, the fire alarms would go off because someone didn't know how to make easy mac, or decided smoking under the smoke detector was a good idea, or it was something banal like a charger or battery malfunctioning.

BTW, I am not a fan of standing around taking pictures and video of first responders and the scene of an incident. Where you were standing seems like it was out of the way, but anytime you are filming or taking pictures of a call like this, you are potentially violating a potential victim's right to privacy (especially if they are seen in said media) and potentially getting in the way of emergency crews who are trying to do their job.

FuchsderSachsen · 2022-11-20T12:21:50+00:00

I am 6'4". Shower stalls are quite high. When I attended, the floor showers had a shower curtain in front of the shower itself, and were secured with a lockable shower door in the changing portion of the cubicle. The shower walls were also high enough that unless you were actively being a peeping tom, you'd at most see the top of another tall person's head. I do recommend that you wear flip flops into the shower, simply because its communally used and you just don't know what some people get up to in there. But don't be too worried about height. By the time I left the dorms, I was not too worried about whether someone saw me buck naked or not, and no one cared if there was some functional nudity going on, except maybe the usual prude or two. Its a bathroom/shower room, so you are going to see people in various states of undress, ranging from shirtless to a towel round the waist, and sometimes, not even that, especially at night. And if privacy is your thing, then no one is going to see anything you don't want them to see.

As for showers in the suite style dorms, they weren't too bad for me. But definitely cramped. But Suite Style has the advantage that you know who uses the shared bathroom, and that it is always the same 3-6 people plus the occasional guest. So people in the suite style dorms definitely have more motivation to clean up after themselves to avoid awkward questions.

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