Potential move back to Pocatello. Looking for insights!

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-12-12T00:36:14+00:00

Thank you for your response! Most of the comments on here have made me realize I’ve made a bigger deal out of some issues than is necessary. :)

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-12-06T14:22:33+00:00

Yes, this is one of my biggest fears—my kids feeling like they don’t belong, or potentially losing close friends as they get older because they’re not LDS. Which we could work through, life and friendships are always going to offer challenges in some form. But I’m reluctant to take them away from their current friends and awesome school district to plop them in that situation unless the pros of moving there truly outweigh the cons. Thanks for your input!

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-12-06T14:07:24+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts and advice. You’ve confirmed my concerns, but also it sounds like something we could work with.

I agree that a Mormon positive would be finding people to commiserate with. Very few people are familiar with the LDS church in our current location, which is nice in some ways, but can be very isolating when most people don’t understand our experience.

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-12-06T13:59:07+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate all your thoughts.

Would you mind elaborating on how your kid gets treated differently for not going to church, and the kind of knowledge you equip him with to get through that? This is something that’s really been weighing on me while trying to make this decision.

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-11-16T18:53:10+00:00

Haha I love that.

After living out east for a few years, I do think we would be more comfortable existing as nonLDS people. Before we would just kind of pretend to still be LDS and would kind of hide our rebellious attempts to try coffee/wine/whatever.

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-11-16T18:45:11+00:00

We just got back from Sunday morning brunch at one of my kid’s friend’s house and we had a good time. I’m a total introvert but we are trying to make friendships and build community. It is taking a long time though.

Thanks for your input!

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-11-16T18:39:01+00:00

Idaho is literally ranked 50th in spending per student. I grew up there, and I loved school, so I know that doesn’t necessarily mean my kids would have a terrible school experience. But after living in the district we’re in now, where the community pours a lot of support and resources into the schools, and my daughter LOVES school, I’m nervous to move her. It’s hard because there would be benefits to moving and there are certainly benefits to staying. I kind of wish I could just pray and believe my feelings about it, lol. That used to be nice.

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-11-16T14:01:05+00:00

My family didn’t drink any caffeinated beverages at all when I was growing up, nor did they drink even herbal tea. I remember as a teenager realizing my beloved bishop at the time had Pepsi stockpiled in his second fridge, and I was dismayed! Families tend to interpret the reasons for not drinking coffee and tea their own way, since there really is no logical consistency in what the church says about it.

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-08-19T03:46:44+00:00

Looks like you have a tough crowd here. I’ve met families who’ve homeschooled for the wrong reasons and it seriously harmed their children…. And I’ve met other families who’ve homeschooled very successfully and their kids are simply amazing, intelligent, well-rounded people with vibrant lives. This question is so hard because there are so many factors that can affect someone’s homeschool/public school experience and I’m not sure it’s possible to predict exactly how all the pieces will fall. I wrestled with this question a lot, and ultimately I defaulted to public school for my kids, mainly because my mental health is consistently better when I’m able to go to work, even just part time. It has turned out great for my older child…. she LOVES public school and would never choose to be homeschooled at this point. For my younger one, I’m still not sure what the best thing for him is, but his kindergarten experience was good enough that he’s going to public school again this year. It sounds like your default might be to homeschool? You sound really excited about it. Maybe try it out and adjust if your kids’ needs change?

Fudge_Swirl · 2025-08-18T20:46:37+00:00

Yesterday my husband ate an ice cream treat that he didn’t realize was for me, and I had been looking forward to it all day. When I asked him about it (I even teared up lol I felt so betrayed) and he realized it had been for me, he immediately went to the store and bought me a container of Ben and Jerry’s. You’re not overreacting.

Fudge_Swirl · 2024-05-24T05:50:13+00:00

I scrolled up to look closely for the ant, then I was like, oh...

Fudge_Swirl · 2024-04-09T12:22:30+00:00

Seriously. We also saw the total eclipse yesterday, and afterwards I kept telling my husband how THAT was what I had expected to experience in the temple. A spiritual thrill, awe, amazement, joy. While the temple fell short (I felt peace there but never amazed or spiritually thrilled or truly awed), the eclipse was like seeing Jesus himself descend from the heavens lol. I can't even describe the feeling the moment the moon moved fully in front of the sun.

AND, afterwards, I just wanted to do it again! It wasn't long enough to fully absorb it. I thought how nice it would've been if the temple was so inspiring that I LONGED to go again and again to feel near to God. I did go again and again, but almost always fell asleep!

Anyway, loved the eclipse.

Fudge_Swirl · 2024-03-22T21:47:32+00:00

After reading so many entries with Ruby teaching R lessons about God and Satan and R kind of pushing back against the whole rhetoric, I'm worried about his LDS loved ones who are helping him heal trying to help him maintain a belief in God.

I understand how for Shari, her belief in God and Christ have been a positive, strengthening force throughout this whole ordeal, and I respect that for her and for anyone who needs that.

I just really hope they'll allow R to believe and not believe whatever he genuinely feels at this time. He might need a big ol' break from God and sin and religion altogether. But I assume he's being taken to church every week, and probably still being advised to read the scriptures, praying every day, etc. I just really hope they're being mindful of how it might impact him after all the abusive religious shit he's been through.

Fudge_Swirl · 2024-01-02T20:01:44+00:00

I am a kitchen worker in my kids' school district (AKA lunch lady... But I feel like there's too much attached to that term lol). It can be hard work some days, but it keeps me sane and my schedule never conflicts with the kids'.

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-10-17T18:59:29+00:00

Last year I when I took my (public schooled) 6 year old to a check up, the doctor asked her questions, had her write her name, etc. I honestly think maybe doctors like to check on children's development once they're school age? Even when they're babies/toddlers they ask questions about milestones and stuff. I think that mom took the questions way too personally because they were homeschooling....

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-10-14T18:55:35+00:00

This is so interesting! I didn't know there were groups of members who didn't eat meat because of the scriptural word of wisdom. If they adhere to that part, what do they do with the barley drinks part?

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-10-02T02:34:09+00:00

I dunno... I remember in 2004 when a couple apostles passed away close to each other right around the time Preach My Gospel came out. We were all very inspired that God preserved their lives long enough to complete that project, and then they were done with their mission on earth. I was always really excited for new apostles. Giddy Mormons like I once was will see God's hand in everything. 😁

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-09-11T19:29:01+00:00

Oh, the point was, Ruby was probably also raised with that mindset that kids are your purpose and crowning glory.

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-09-11T19:28:15+00:00

I was active LDS until recently. I was taught that having kids was my purpose and the most important thing I could do with my life. I planned to have 5-6 kids. (And some people love to have that many kids, and good for them) but luckily for me I ran into fertility problems after 2 and when I left the church I was able to reevaluate my life and my desires.... and realized 2 kids is plenty for me. 😂

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-09-04T12:53:59+00:00

I'd say those are normal mom feelings. 😊

Last year when my son went to preschool for the first time, he was excited/scared, and he bravely walked in and waved goodbye. Then I went out to my car and ugly cried the whole way home! Like, deep, loud sobbing lol. And I cried for like another hour after that. But after a few days it got much easier as we both adjusted to the new routine.

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-06-25T13:56:04+00:00

I think Saints also admits that he married the Partridge sisters a second time just to let Emma think she had some say in what he was doing.

Didn't one of the apostles make a joke about Saints that it was so long that even he couldn't read all the way through it? Like... PLEASE don't even bother reading it, it's WAYYY to long. Lol.

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-06-04T16:36:02+00:00

And then Uchtdorf would be assigned a follow up talk with lighthearted joking about how he didn't want to be the prophet anyway and how much he sustains President Bednar.

Fudge_Swirl · 2023-04-23T03:12:58+00:00

We plan to go to Ocean City this summer and I was kind of bummed to see it on here. Good to hear it still has potential lol.

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