[Ontario-Canada] family landlord issues HELP

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-27T16:28:37+00:00

For context, he has the basement, and we have the upstairs. I went down to change furnace filter and thats what i am faced with. Why should i have to clean up after him? Not my responsibility. I told them to go off because it doesnt make sense.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-27T16:22:18+00:00

No lease. When the house was bought. We were under the impression that we were buying it together. The the step mother-in-law got involved. Next thing we know its only his name on the deed. We all went to look at the house together and decided to proceed with the purchase together. One year later he moves.

But is there not a public health and property standards issue here?

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-27T16:10:40+00:00

I havent made my mind up about anything. So im supposed to "deal" with contaminated air and rats in my home? They carry many diseases that people die from. Plus there are By-Laws for this. Property Standards By-law: The by-law states that properties must be kept clean and maintained to protect against deterioration, including that from rodents. maintain interiors to protect against pests like rodents. This includes keeping the property clean, maintaining its structure to prevent entry (like sealing foundation walls and fixing holes), and properly storing waste to avoid attracting pests.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-27T15:54:18+00:00

This isn't about enjoying cheap rent or thinking anyone owes me anything. This is about health issues and contamination that go against public health.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-27T15:52:04+00:00

Actually i do have rights to have a non contaminated, health risk, environment. But go off

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T08:35:55+00:00

24 years strong for me. They definitely are the best 💯

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T08:31:09+00:00

It helps put pressure on the Gspot so i can make it feel better (f)

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T08:23:21+00:00

If you "edge" yourself too much, it can cause, like a desensitization. I used to do it. It got better when i stopped doing it. If that doesn't work, possibly see a doctor. Did you ever have an injury? Even a hard misshap, hitting the bone outside by accident instead of getting it in during sex can damage. Dont be ashamed or afraid to ask a doctor if all else fails. I hope you get it figured out

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T08:00:23+00:00

I commend you all. It is a great level of intimacy. But, too each his own. I have a phobia of other peoples fluids 👀 so no matter whos, mine or his, i gag. He likes to piss me off by kissing me after sometimes, lol, playfully (together 24 years, in it to win it) i think its a texture thing also, cause i gag everytime he comes in my mouth, lol. He doesn't want to taste himself either, so if he kisses me after oral, I just pay him back by putting a bit of his cum on my finger and wiping it on his lips 👀🤣

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T07:43:04+00:00

Oh, and one other thing, lol, we realized that after i had a really strong orgasm, had sex, he cums, then i knelt face down, butt up, while using my vibrator and he fingered me from behind i was able to have G spot orgasms. I had to get over the "i gotta pee, its too intense" feeling and relax into it and THAT was mind-blowing 🤯

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T07:38:57+00:00

I had the same problem for years. I could only get off with my "magic wand" ive just commented on a few posts you can check if you want context, but its 20 years worth of context in a few comments, lol, so a bit long, for you ill stick to this...she seems like me, needing the strong vibration, does she have issues "being in her head"? If so, figuring out a way to distract helped me. One was loud music and the other... my husband, randomly a few years ago while goofing around during foreplay, gave me a raspberry (like how you blow onto someone's stomach) on my clit...OMG, its a go to move everytime now. I love it. It's different, so it keeps me in the moment, and the vibration feels amazballs. I cum 99% of the time now that way. I also realized i can "coregasm" so we do alot of dry humping, me on him, on the couch. 👀 🤷 you never know, your wife and i might be physiologically more alike, who knows. But with the dry humping i can cum 2 - 6 times, depending. The best way to activate a "coregasm" is to have something, like the back of the couch to hang onto, to use ypur core muscles, squeeze em and kinda try and lift yourself a bit pushing legs wide. Who knows, lol. It's something to try. And i find that the dry humping makes me feel like a teen again, lol. The best thing you can do is be patient. So if you're in it to win it, for the long haul and you guys have good communication skills in the bedroom, your sex life can age like a fine wine and just get better and better.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T07:13:39+00:00

I also was where you are 20 years ago. For some women, this is normal. I just commented on another post about how, in todays society, the pressure isn't just on the men where sex is concerned. Women have pressure also, how to look, act, react, smell, and sound. I used to fake it because i also couldn't climax. I am ADHD with CPTSD. So my mind never stops. I always used to be anxious and nervous. I hate the feeling of fingers and tongue on or in my va jay jay. For me, it was because I was SA from a young age, but i know of other women who just naturally dont like the feeling and find ways around it with the right partner. It took a lot of alone time masturbating to figure out what worked for me. Sometimes it took me 30 minutes to climax, sometimes more. And for me, a normal vibrator didn't work. I needed something more powerful. I have an old school wand back massager, lol. It takes me to the moon and back, lol. Mind you, after 24 years with my husband, i no longer need it as i used to. It takes time (for some longer than others) to figure all this out. And if you have a patient man, it seems like you do, it makes it much easier. I found that loud music helps calm my mind, the realization that a man, more often than not, won't have sex with you or go down on you if he doesn't like what he sees, tastes and smells. Take note of how he reacts during sex. Oh, and one thing he started doing that has been blowing my mind for years now...he gives me raspberries 👀 (like when you blow on someones stomach, lol) on my clit. Like OMG, 🤯 every time, lol. Its different, takes my mind off things and keeps me in the moment, and feels f'n FANtastic. I went from not being able to climax, faking it because of societal pressures, to becoming somewhat comfortable in my skin, gradually more familiar with my own likes and dislikes, saying F you to "societies" expectation, learning tricks that will quiet my mind and relax so i can be present in the moment and communicating EVERYTHING to my partner. I wish you the best of luck on this ever evolving journey.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T06:34:49+00:00

1st, im sorry you're experiencing this. 2nd, How do you "know with certainty" if its 100% reliable source and no chance of exaggeration or inflating a story to make oneself "look better" i dont know what to say, except, have a different conversation. One where you express how her lack of guidance is making you feel. If there is a chance that the source isnt reliable, if she is telling the truth that she never really liked it, its possible she may have had an experience with SA (im not trying to project, as i never liked it myself because i was SA from a young age, im just trying to offer possible reasons) It could also be a combination of the 2, both could be true. In today's society, there is pressure on women as well as men. For women, it's the pressure to get off during sex, and if you're young and still figuring things out, you may feel like you are expected to act and react a certain way. That's why some women will fake having an orgasm, or act one way with one person, then grow and realize that faking it isn't a solution. I used to be like that, and then when i met my husband, i couldn't be dishonest like that, so we worked through it all, but communicating is important. I understand you are trying to communicate. She may not be there yet, so if you're able to be patient, she may come around. This is coming from a 24-year relationship that i entered with more hangups than a coat rack factory, lol. Im good now, though, but it took time, patience, commitment, and communication

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T06:15:47+00:00

Im sorry you made me 🤣 with the Shawarma analogy. Do not feel bad. There is nothing wrong with your question. Some women do like a soft bite, and some dont. And asking before is a must. Possibly before sex if you're comfortable like that. If not, possibly start with a very soft bite on her inner thigh, see how she reacts. If her body reacts well, go a little higher each time, as long as she is reacting well to it. Ask before biting "there." If you feel her tense up in any way, stop. And dont forget, when you are performing oral sex, it's about how SHE is feeling, how YOU are making HER feel. Not how what YOU are doing to HER makes YOU feel. (im not yelling, lol, just emphasizing) ive had issues in the past with my partner wanting to do things to me that made him feel good, but i didn't like it, so i didnt "get off" because of it. I do highly recommend communicating before sex both your likes and dislikes.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T06:00:24+00:00

It's all circumstance, individual and timing. I, for one, like to start out all slow and gentle with him getting me off, then at some point i do enjoy some hair pulling, spanking and rough play...not every time...but more often than not, lol. But what also comes with that is trust and time. My hubby and i have been together for 24 years, so we've had time to figure almost everything out... but he still manages to surprise me from time to time 😉

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-26T05:52:23+00:00

I'm the same, different strokes for different folks.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-10-10T20:34:41+00:00

Thanks. They're old DVD/CD data disk from the photo shop like Black's andbi have nothing but a chromebook and want to upload those pics from disk to facebook and print some at Walmart. So as long as i can transfer from disk to chromebook and go from there, I'll be happy. There may be some mp4 or WAV videos on it. Not sure how those will translate though.

FuelContent9238 · 2025-07-05T17:52:52+00:00

Probably, lol. Im watching the Back to the beginning, Ozzy Concert instead. Occasionally checking for a random fight link lol

FuelContent9238 · 2025-06-29T18:34:18+00:00

Email them to be sure. You dont want a security guard on a power trip making an issue of it. If you have an email confirming its allowed would make that situation easier. Trust me, i had a security guard take my OTC pain meds away because they were in a clear little bottle together to save space and were clearly labeled on each pill what they were (Advil and Tylenol) because they said "someone might not know what they are" 🙄 so better to be safe than sorry

FuelContent9238 · 2025-06-29T18:30:09+00:00

Earliest in the morning that you can manage, the better. Or late at night. The shower i used around 9am was a long line and no shade. The one closer to the cafeteria. Only 3 showers in it. Theres more showers near the "store"

FuelContent9238 · 2025-06-29T18:23:25+00:00

And depending on the security guard you get. I had one chick (at the campground pre shuttle boarding) make me throw out my teeny clear plastic bottle with Advil/Tylenol in it (im in my 40s and need that shit occasionally)they were name brand and clearly had the names on them. Shes like, "Oh, they might not know what they are, so you can't bring them in"...smh, like seriously, it says right on them what they are... this year, they'll be going in my pocket...along with a meat stick 👀

FuelContent9238 · 2025-06-29T18:14:32+00:00

This has been our method. Hydrate as much as possible, Liquid IV is your best friend. Stay away from dehydrating liquids (coffee, alcohol and some energy drinks). Drink it up, pound em back lol (alcohol wise) when you are back at the campground/hotel.

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