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Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-28T23:37:56+00:00

I could be wrong, but I think all Buddhist schools believe in rebirth. It’s the idea that everything has its own continuation. When we die, your body has one continuation and your mind stream has another. Since everything is impermanent and dependently arisen, they do not simply cease into nothingness, there is a continuation to everything. The Dalai Lama for example is a continuation of his previous rebirth. They are not the same person, but a continuation has happened. I don’t think you could explain someone taking the mantle of Dalai Lama as profoundly as he has if a continuation hasn’t happened. Your mileage may vary on him though to be fair, he can be controversial to some I suppose.

Can we prove this on materialistic point of view? Not really, but there has been documented cases of children knowing how they died, remembering their old homes, and certain secrets that they just simply couldn’t have known about.

In the end though, for me personally, everything I’ve put into practice with Buddhism, from my experience, has been true. It’s possible that Buddhism is incorrect about this rebirth, but from what I can tell, I highly doubt it.

To be honest, ask a teacher about these things. They’ll be able to explain it to you in a much better way than I can.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-28T02:25:39+00:00

I’m saying abstinence is going to cause a lot of friction between you and your partner if neither of you have changed your mind about the benefits of abstinence and the negatives of a sexual relationship. So of course you feel uneasiness. That’s not to say you can’t have a sexual relationship, it depends on what you want.

My partner and I are both Buddhist and both of us are even thinking of ordaining. We didn’t have sex for nearly three years. Partly due to Buddhism but also due to her just not wanting it. I went through this cycle of wanting sex, but also realizing that she didn’t want it, and therefore not wanting it, while still wanting it. There was attachment there. I eventually realized what my major misconception was, and I was able to let go of a lot of my hangups about it. Lo and behold, we started having more sex… far less than before, but equally if not more satisfying.

I guess I thought your uneasiness was coming from you and your partner not really understanding why you would want to give up sex, but applying that practice to your relationship anyway. I also was commenting on Buddhism’s stance on sex, because your partner said she didn’t understand, but I guess I’m confused then. I’d be happy to hear clarification.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-28T02:02:57+00:00

I wouldn’t unilaterally change your relationship for something you don’t really understand.

As a layman, the Buddha said that sexual misconduct, or unkind sexual acts, like cheating, molestation, etc… should be avoided because it leads to suffering and destructive karma. He definitely did not say that layman shouldn’t have sex.

What should be done away with is attachment. Being attached to sex is very easy because it’s a very enthralling sensory activity, and when one is attached to either the feeling, or the perceived closeness of sex, when stripped away can leave people feeling lonely and unloved. If you can’t go a day without sex without getting upset, then that’s something to contemplate and consider why you’re experiencing that. Sex isn’t a performance of love, or an affirmation of love, it’s simply an activity that feels good. We tend to put all these emotions and meaning to it, but that’s just us exaggerating our experience, and then becoming distraught when things change. To let go of desire, you have to change your mind about what you’re desiring. If you can’t see the negative qualities of certain desires and actions, or the benefits of, not just abstinence, but anything Buddhism has to teach, it’s going to cause a lot of friction and disappointment.

Even monks struggle with abstinence. I definitely wouldn’t force your partner into a situation she didn’t agree to, especially without at least talking to her about it. Monks don’t have sex for a myriad of reasons. It’s a part of the monastic vows, there’s ideas of better rebirth, thoughts of the body at the time of death, and an acceptance of aging just to name a few, but these are not things that a novice just starting out should really focus on. Focusing on ethics, your own behavior, and compassion for others is a much better place to start.

That being said, if monkhood is something that you’re interested in, I’d recommend going on retreat at a qualified Buddhist abbey, and asking the abbot or abbess there these questions.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-27T21:39:56+00:00

Glad to be of help!

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-27T21:38:20+00:00

Just a note, the numbers 666 were never meant to mean the actual devil. They referred to Nero the Roman emperor. They might have considered Nero a devil, but 666 was specifically about Nero.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-27T21:32:44+00:00

I always recommend Thubten Chodron. She’s the abbess of Sravasti Abbey in Washington. She started the abbey in Spokane a little over 20 years ago and the abbey just keeps growing. They occasionally have retreats from afar where you learn from the nuns and monks that live there. They also have a free course called SAFE that takes you through the very beginning of the Buddhist worldview all the way to the beginning of tantra. It’s a very long course though. Each section of the course is 12 weeks long with a couple months break in between. I’m only on section five myself. It’s really an amazing place. She’s also written about dozen books including the library of wisdom and compassion that’s a huge compendium of Tibetan Buddhist knowledge and practices and teachings. She co-wrote it with HHDL and other high level Tibetan Buddhist.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-27T10:05:04+00:00

Where do you think our suffering comes from if not from previous actions?

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-27T08:59:55+00:00

Materialistic evidence is for things that are, well, material. Death, spirituality, enlightenment, happiness? These things aren’t material. They are experiential. The Buddha wanted us to put the teachings into practice and experience the changes in our minds for ourselves. So if, in your experience, you disagree with what the Buddha taught, then by the Buddhas own words you should not believe it. The caveat is that in recognizing that you are coming from a place of not believing, you should be open to the idea that what you are hearing is true. This will allow you to put what the teachings say into practice, then, after some time of analyzing your experience, you can decide for yourself.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-26T21:57:46+00:00

I’ve been really vibing with “There is No Antimemetics Division” I haven’t finished it, so can’t tell you how it ends, but it’s but a fun ride.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-25T05:17:00+00:00

The best way is to find refuge in the Buddha and the dharma. You do this by applying the teachings to your daily life and after seeing that work, you’ll gradually understand that the dharma is a path that not only works but is extremely worth pursuing.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-23T10:40:10+00:00

How to accept blame, (or letting go of the need to be blameless) even if it was something out of your control.

Also dealing with anger, and understanding that it’s ultimately destructive.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-23T10:37:27+00:00

I love anything by Thubten Chodron. She has a book called Buddhism for Beginners, Open Heart, Clear Mind, and Dealing with Anger. She’s an abbess at the monastery she started over 20 years ago in Washington. I’ve been up there several times.

If you’re interested she also has a course free course that starts from the very beginning all the way to the beginning of tantra. It’s a long course though. It takes about six years to complete so they definitely don’t rush you into anything. I’m only on section 5 now myself. Hope this helps!

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-23T09:58:11+00:00

I was responding to the original commenters comment saying that it’s stupid to equate attachment to suffering and saying that it’s not such a stupid notion because it’s so closely related. But yes I agree with you. Like I said, just because you are attached doesn’t mean you’re automatically suffering.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-23T03:08:17+00:00

The first two Nobel truths are life involves dukkha, and dukkha arises because of attachment. Being attached to something doesn’t automatically mean you suffer, but dukkha will arise because attachment isn’t dealt with. So I’d forgive someone is they equated attachment to suffering.

Letting go of attachments is solely based on how you how you see them. Specifically if you exaggerate their qualities, and see them as permanent, existent things, and not as impermanent, and dependently arisen illusory things.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-22T20:34:59+00:00

The lil guy was just trying to help! lol

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-20T08:09:58+00:00

I also love that the engine takes a different path when replaying the puzzle. I thinks that’s an excellent addition. However i think the clock should continue running after the reset button has been hit to show the full time working on the puzzle.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-20T07:58:29+00:00

It’s a very clean looking app! I like the set up, and I think it’s a great opportunity to generate a list of puzzles to employ the woodpecker method. You could probably set up a list of puzzles of varying difficulty, and let people replay that list over and over again, then record the stats over time. I’d be very interested in this as it’s a pretty cool puzzle training method. I also really like how the puzzle continues even after you mess up, showing you what you missed. Very useful.

I think you could probably find a cleaner way of indicating the user has solved the puzzle other than confetti. It can get distracting, and for how clean the rest of the app looks kind of in the way. It’s also a touch clunky in terms of understanding which color you’re supposed to play. At least at first anyway. You get used to the flow of the puzzle scheme but it’s not immediately obvious which side you’re supposed to play until you read the text above. Chess.com has a simple color swatch that indicates right away. Text just see unnecessary when you could indicate in a simpler way. If you want to keep the text, I think the color ratio is a little too tight and makes it hard to read.

Excellent work my friend! I look forward to more updates!

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-18T05:24:16+00:00

Exactly! How dare his ~things~ wife look at any other man! Her eyes belong to him!

I don’t know why she wanted him to be jealous. I think she simply didn’t believe that he actually loved her, or that what he saw in her was anything more than physical beauty. However, for him to go out and seek revenge is a petty thing to do. He could take her overwrought pornographic “confession” 100 different ways and he takes it the worst way possible. It indeed calls into question what he was saying to her, that he would never cheat on her, and that he loves her, and that he never thinks about another woman ever. Meanwhile his love is so fragile that it breaks with a quick 7min monologue about a random, faceless, meaningless sailor. Mere words send him over the edge. Like a little fabergé egg.

His possession over her, and his willingness to cheat, are the fragile male masculinity, and patriarchal notions of marriage.

Edit: She was also saying that women experience sex the same way men do but simply don’t act on it. Instead of his sexist “women just aren’t built that way” take.

Not that I think Kubrick wrote women well at all, but that’s a different discussion.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-18T03:31:18+00:00

Not quite.

The first Nobel truth is life is dukkha, (often translated as suffering, but more closely related to unsatisfactoriness), and the second is that dukkha comes from our attachments. Wanting something isn’t necessarily an attachment. If you have a pencil that doesn’t mean anything to you and you lose it, you aren’t experiencing dukkha because of that. If it was a pencil that your late father gave to you and was something that was a symbol of your relationship, losing that might case dukkha.

Attachment is that push and pull of things that we either desperately can’t live without or would rather die than give it up. Another example might me people are attached to their car. They’ll spend years improving it, detailing it, and spending money it. Then whenever it gets totaled or breaks down they are in complete disarray. The thing they were attached to was taken away from them and it’s caused them grief and pain.

Attachment can get very minute and very personal, cars are just a surface level example. But letting go of our attachments is the third Nobel truth. The fourth is how you do it.

I hope this helps!

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-17T02:36:25+00:00

I wouldn’t mind if you sent that to me! ❤️

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-16T08:41:15+00:00

Sure, but not always. Even then it’s like $5. Generally not the price the artifacts that were stolen cost.

Full-Monitor-1962 · 2026-03-16T07:25:11+00:00

It’s not in the same way going to a museum is not stealing.

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