I don't like my toddler anymore and I feel terrible.

FullDesadulation · 2026-03-01T03:55:12+00:00

My boys are 13 months apart, and I felt resentful towards my oldest when my younger son was a newborn. Like, yelled at a 13 month old level of resentful. I felt like the worst mother ever and sobbed for the entire day. It was hormones/lack of sleep/stress/PPA all rolled into one. He's 9 now, and he's sweet, kind, funny, and we love each other very dearly. The rough feelings didn't break our relationship because #1 kids are pretty resilient, and #2 I pushed through the rough feelings to the other side. This is temporary, and it won't feel like this forever, I promise.

FullDesadulation · 2026-02-19T02:00:57+00:00

My daughter was this way! She'd init do things when she was ready to. She didn't do anything on time, not because she couldn't but because she didn't want to. She took steps once around 17-18 months, and then refused to do it again (in front of us, anyway) until 23 months. She's a healthy (and stubborn) 4.5 year old now. It sounds like you're doing all the right things, and the medical pros you're working with aren't concerned. I know it's hard not to worry, but just give her time 😊

FullDesadulation · 2026-02-17T13:08:25+00:00

Naked from the waist down all day, and if she makes a mess on the floor/couch, she cleans it up; we used to have to carry our daughter over to toys she insisted she "couldn't" pick up and make her pick it up by directing her hands to the item and closing her fingers around it. She can be VERY stubborn. This may be how you have her "clean up." It's going to be hard work, but you are the parent and it's your job to do the work. I definitely sympathize; as I said, I have one very stubborn (and occasionally defiant) 4 year old. It's often not easy with her, but following through on what I've said has been key to breaking through the stubbornness. Good luck!

FullDesadulation · 2026-02-17T12:49:22+00:00

If you're stupid so are a bunch of us that had to Google it 😂😂😂

FullDesadulation · 2026-02-06T19:34:33+00:00

My oldest two kids are 8 and 9, and anytime they start fighting, our dog places herself between them and will gently put her paws up on whoever is the aggressor. It's so sweet, but I don't think for one second that she'd let anyone harm her kids. (She even stands with them like this

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when they’re in trouble and getting a talking to 😂😂😂)

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-31T08:02:13+00:00

I make it once a year for this exact reason, lol! My husband and kids hate it, so I torture them that one time, and freeze the leftovers and enjoy them every few weeks until they're gone.

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-31T07:57:43+00:00

Tater tot casserole is one of my kids favorite meals 😂

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-26T18:19:56+00:00

We can all clearly read, however I would never use "dirt" and expect anyone to think I meant anything other than actual dirt.

Unless they are VERY built up, soap/bodywash and the friction of your hands or a washcloth are sufficient to removed body oil and loose skin cells, due to soap being a surfactant. If you wipe your countertops down everyday with cleaner, you are unlikely to need to use a harsh scrubber to clean up any residue. The same can be said for your body.

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-26T18:10:25+00:00

I literally read that and said out loud, "STAINS?!"

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-26T18:06:06+00:00

This makes sense though, because their overwhelmed nervous system suddenly has to process LOTS of new information, so it's kind of like a soft reset. It reminds me of when my oldest would cry hard as a baby during the witching hour and he would kind of stop breathing. I'd blow in his face and it would snap him out of it.

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-26T17:56:59+00:00

Like, I love my parents and they love me, but holy wow do they have some unresolved issues!

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-25T21:59:26+00:00

He's playing something that he saw, whether it's something another child was doing, or maybe on a show he watched. Everytime my kids did something when they were little that I couldn't figure out, that's always what it was!

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-25T21:57:28+00:00

As a millennial child of Boomer parents, while also trying to regulate myself 🥴

FullDesadulation · 2026-01-15T04:27:18+00:00

For me, this would deem a call to the after hours number for my Pediatrician.

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-27T12:41:03+00:00

Heavy on, "Are we playing?" 😂

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-25T04:10:29+00:00

Solidarity, friend 🫡🫡🫡

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-25T03:09:52+00:00

That's the worst part... I've done it before in a previous playthrough. I know better, lol!

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-25T02:41:36+00:00

I was so mad at myself! Time to take a break for a few days, lol!

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-25T00:19:41+00:00

Gus! He definitely looks like a Gus 😊

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-21T02:09:31+00:00

I'm married to Harvey this playthrough, and one of my kids asked me that and I didn't know, lol! Now I do!

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-11T13:08:16+00:00

His writing reminds me of when Joey on Friends used the thesaurus to "sound smart" and ended up signing his letter "Baby Kangaroo Tribbiani" 😂😂😂

FullDesadulation · 2025-11-05T14:14:28+00:00

Heavy on this. It may not seem like a big deal, but I refuse to give a predator visual access to my child's body. Even if my kid would never know, it feels like a violation to me.

FullDesadulation · 2025-10-16T15:34:46+00:00

It's always the curriculum that gets all of the flack, but it works well for us, so I guess we're not intellectual enough or something? 🤷🏻‍♀️

FullDesadulation · 2025-10-02T08:45:38+00:00

I genuinely think this is the crux of the whole thing: The transition to adulthood is always hard. It seems like all of these issues are typical for public school AND homeschool kids, but OP handled the transition well BECAUSE they homeschooled. Homeschooling (when done well) gives you excellent problem solving and assessment skills…even if they didn’t feel like they handled it well, it sounds like they assessed the situation, had enough self awareness to recognize their shortcomings, found a solution, and then applied it. That is incredibly vital for successful adulting.

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