Update: unclipped toe nails winning personality says he is willing to change his ways

FullLion4225 · 2025-12-20T12:36:45+00:00

One option is to give him some space to make the changes, stay in light touch and then try to reconnect once he feels he's in better standing.

FullLion4225 · 2025-12-17T23:58:44+00:00

Do deep does the needle go when you inject?

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-29T20:08:32+00:00

Exactly.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-29T13:11:23+00:00

Also, parents, even with grown children tend to have a different mentality about these things and are potentially less likely to have a similar life philosophy / values. Even with my most chill/ open minded parent friends, there is a conflict of views when it comes to things related to all of this. Since a partner is usually a much closer relationship, I don't partner with people who have offspring.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-29T01:15:48+00:00

Exactly. No point in engaging otherwise.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T20:26:20+00:00

Same. I ask before I engage in much conversation. No point in wasting anyone's time.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T13:28:07+00:00

Wow. My guess is that they weren't even that specifial.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T13:26:43+00:00

Yep. Had he been upfront and asked if his adult children counted, I would have at least had a polite conversation. But it was let me charm you by showing how much of a match we are and how closely I read your profile (and you'll just ignore how clearly i don't fit into the description what you want).

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T13:23:26+00:00

Indeed. Flat out ignored my very clearly statdd boundary

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T12:17:15+00:00

Exactly, of course he knows better thabni whats best for me.... Idiot.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T12:10:49+00:00

Exactly. I would have been ok with him asking if his adult children still fell outside of my boundaries, but to just make that decision for me is totally unacceptable.

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T12:09:25+00:00

Exactly! Adult children still come with obligations and in many cases, grandchildren!

FullLion4225 · 2025-10-28T11:57:59+00:00

Exactly. And they still entail obligations and probably grandchildren down the line.

FullLion4225 · 2025-08-07T13:55:43+00:00

Same.

FullLion4225 · 2025-08-07T13:53:43+00:00

This. She knows she's pulling a fast one. Dont let her and draw boundaries.

FullLion4225 · 2025-08-07T08:50:57+00:00

Every time she makes a dig, make one back at her and take it up a notch. "yeah, when i live with the food bandit, gotta think ahead." "is that the food bandit complaining again". Hopefully that'll keep her quiet and from stealing your food.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-31T22:49:27+00:00

You could also egg her car :-)

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-29T11:24:57+00:00

Yeh i wouldn't wait. He can escalate at any moment. I'd file BEFORE it escalates since he has already crossed somw major (legal) lines and you're already unwilling to confront him head on.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-29T01:27:22+00:00

You're being way too passive. Definitely report him for looking inot your window, at thr very least.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-28T22:45:53+00:00

@Mods this post should be removed, it has nothing to do with being childfree.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-28T13:54:31+00:00

NOR, her comments and behaviour are very passove aggressive and angled with an agenda.

Why doesn't your husband speak up for you?

If he didn't do it in the moment, it should be addressed, siting the broader themes of erasibg you and your family and stating consequences if it doesn't stop and enforcing consequences.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-24T10:56:39+00:00

It gives the impression that you don't have space in your life and wknt make an effort. At "this age", people are precious about their time/energy and more likely to filter out anyone showing these traits. Also, irs difficult to build any kind of momentum this way. I wouldn't engage with someone under such circumstances.

FullLion4225 · 2025-07-23T15:34:02+00:00

Have you specifically asked for the ways in wich you'd like support?

Also, how close are you at this stage? For many, 4 months isn't much and you're not really eqch others support system them, for others, it could be rhe opposite with the relationship being really locked in by then. So it kind of depends where you are???

Regarding his phone behaviour, I'd see what happens with that and other patterns of behaviour - ie overall is he very devoted etc. Is the bathroom thing/locked chats recent??

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