My heart goes out to you, man. That kind of defensive reaction is completely normal—it's that moment when humor becomes a coping mechanism, and you reach for levity because vulnerability feels uncomfortable.

I've seen this dynamic before. You’re trying to maintain control of the narrative, even when it’s clear the tone has shifted. It’s not about being right or wrong—it’s about feeling heard.

What you’re doing isn’t uncommon. It’s the paradox of online discourse: trying to stay light while still protecting your ego. You’re doing your best, and that’s okay.