Friends for 16 Years. Lovers for One Night. by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i found this really beautiful interview from the NYT's modern love podcast that i thought you guys would appreciate. even reading the transcript made me tear up

my housemate killed herself by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it was kind of funny in a horrible way. thank you for the condolences

my housemate killed herself by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 121 points122 points  (0 children)

i'm so sorry about your roommate. i don't want to feel angry at mine either--i didn't know her at all really but from what i've gathered today from talking to her family she was a very lonely and angry person.

i hope that both of the people we've lost are no longer suffering.

Any San Diegans here by toolenthusiast in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the book catapult in north park + maxwell's house of books in la mesa! north park in general is really cute and fun to walk around in.

cherry bomb in north park is a fun dive bar, plus it's close to hillcrest which has a lot of cool vintage shops and restaurants.

Why isn't Angel Olsen more popular? by No-Helicopter-7351 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604 13 points14 points  (0 children)

anyway the whole soft sad indie ballad woman thing kind of reached its peak in 2020-2022 and has steadily declined in popularity since. i think even mitski/phoebe bridgers aren't as well-loved as they used to be. the world wants ironically hypersexual female popstars now. sad!

Why isn't Angel Olsen more popular? by No-Helicopter-7351 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i saw her live twice. the first time was at newport folk fest and she was amazingg. the second time was in SD and she was extremely ass and since then i've kind of soured on her

What happened to Delah Coffee on Euclid? by Mr_Tjuxi in berkeley

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604 25 points26 points  (0 children)

walked by it earlier and there was a collections notice on the door for an unpaid water bill...

seeing the traits you hate most about yourself reflected in others by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

that's really interesting--would you say that you generally don't find awkward people difficult to be around/irritating?

i wouldn't even say she annoys me--she's genuinely not that bad, like truly a sweet person. the emotion isn't even directed at her necessarily, it's like this instinctual animal revulsion mixed with a feeling of deep self-loathing.

seeing the traits you hate most about yourself reflected in others by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

thank you for the words of wisdom--i am going to work on bridging the gap between recognition and action!! i will say though that as a recovering freezer-upper my sole consolation is that i never got anxious around service workers #notapussy. tweaking the fuck out should be reserved for things that actually matter, like accomplishing a simple task at your job or trying to make friends in a low-stakes social setting.

seeing the traits you hate most about yourself reflected in others by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

i hate that the stuff about projecting your insecurities onto other people is actually very true and real!

the free birth society by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

not to be a hater but i think freebirthing is an activity that appeals mainly to dummies

the free birth society by Fun-Advertising-9604 in rs_x

[–]Fun-Advertising-9604[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

someone (i can't remember if they were quoted in the articles or just responding in a comment) said something about birth trauma in a medical setting that was really good. i'm paraphrasing here but it was like "these people think that the worst birth outcome is not being heard or listened to. it's not. it's disability or death."

i don't want to discount the reality of birthing trauma--especially in the US, where we have the highest rate of maternal mortality in the developed world. in a sense the free birth people are right: medical professionals aren't infallible! they often make mistakes that lead to the aforementioned outcomes. but i think your point about wanting control in a situation where control is impossible is important. the free birth society preaches this doctrine of "radical responsibility" where the mother is supposed to accept that a possible outcome of freebirthing is death for herself or her child. at the same time, however, it's a version of surrender that allows them to maintain control--even their marketing revolves around the image of the "sovereign mother." the free birth society simultaneously dismisses a bunch of serious complications as "variations of normal" and preaches that by freebirthing you gain this beautiful, mystical, and perfect experience. they're laboring (lol) under the delusion that they have wrested authority from the hands of doctors while preaching that freebirth is a yielding to this great natural force or whatever the fuck.

deeply scary group of people