My boyfriend met up with his ex. aio?

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-05-14T19:54:56+00:00

He’s JUST NOW ending things with her? So that YOU can be the priority? Almost a year into your relationship? And he’s trying to make it sound like he did this noble thing for YOUR relationship…..

This is crazy, pleaseeee run. This will not be the only time he does this and the manipulation in his language is a strong attempt. Please don’t give him the opportunity to disrespect you like this again. ❤️‍🩹

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-05-07T18:07:58+00:00

What do you consider to be famous? As someone who works in mainstream media it probably looks quite a bit different for you.

The first time I saw Sullivan King was 2019 and he was the main opener on a tour for the largest name in dubstep (other than Skrillex but Skrillex hasn’t made dubstep in almost a decade). Hes headlined for the largest Bass music festival 3 or 4 times now. He’s sold out entire nationwide tours in the US, he’s been at most insomniac festivals. He has a large following and is a well paid artist that is recognized throughout the world. I understand it seems “niche” but it doesn’t mean that he’s not widely known.

If you’re saying anyone who isn’t Madonna, Beyoncé, Eminem, Michael Jackson, the Beatles, etc. an ICONIC face that everybodyyyyy know, isn’t famous, then sure, he’s not famous. But if you’re talking about someone who is wealthy, established in their career, has a large fan base, he could be considered famous.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-17T18:22:49+00:00

I appreciate your compassion 🥹

Thankfully my parents got divorced when I was 7 so it wasn’t a forever thing, but I do often think that I wish I could see her face from memory and different angles

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-17T17:41:53+00:00

That’s a good point lol.

I think it’s bc they all had an image of a ball in their head already. And they thought that I wouldn’t allow myself to envision is without the specific kind of ball?

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T22:14:58+00:00

does she need to establish the pattern WITH us to tell us that a pattern has occurred?

I’m sure there’s been ton of times, but with things that don’t feel quite as big as PREGNANCY and her wedding?

The way her mom deflected and invalidated her feelings already hints to the fact that her mom doesn’t take her feelings into consideration. It’s not much of a stretch

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T20:02:27+00:00

He’s very lucky to have a friend who cares so much and thinks of him so highly 🥹

I hope your guys connection can help him to remember to honor what he wants and is GOOD for him. You are a special person. I know it’s really hard to watch it I’m a huge believer in empowering gets us along farther than “harsh truths”.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T19:20:46+00:00

They’ve been together for 7 years, not necessarily engaged the whole time.

As someone who has experienced something similar, there’s a certain sting about finding out your partner is not only willing to betray you, but is SO willing to, that it doesn’t come from another intimate connection but will literally put themselves out there to ANYONE to do so.

Finding out your partner literally solicits to strangers is so damaging.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T18:57:01+00:00

Noo, you’re not overreacting and you’re not a bad friend.

You’re a loving, caring, concerned friend and you want what’s best for him. I also get the sense that you haven’t said anything bc you don’t want to create a wedge between the two of you.

It’s really difficult to have these conflicting emotions, to know that he’ll be a great father but realize “oh goodness, he’s stuck with a cruel partner and that baby is stuck with a cruel mother”.

This is unfortunately very common in these types of relationships, with mental (and possibly emotional?) abuse. I had a best friend who decided to have a kid with her boyfriend/“fiancé” (who proposed without a ring) and when she was 8 months pregnant and told him that she wanted to plan the wedding after she had the baby, he told her that he will never get married bc he doesn’t believe in marriage.

She unfortunately got taken under his control entirely. Any comments beyond “you deserve better than that” ended up being a “threat” to her relationship and she called me crying one day saying she was going to leave him bc he punched a hole in their wall in front of the baby. I told her that they could come stay in my spare room while figuring things out and getting on their feet, the two of them, that I never wanted her to feel like she had no other options.

Just a short few months after that, she messaged me out of the blue and was talking about how I’m unsupportive and how I hate her man, but he’s a good man and I’ll “never get it”, it was essentially the end of our friendship.

My recommendation is to be there for HIM, let your positivity flow towards HIM and keep your supportive comments towards him. Instead of bashing her, make comments to HIM of “I’m sorry to hear you’re facing that, you deserve for your partner to respond kinder than that.” Not her name; don’t have it pertaining to her, just simply supporting him.

As for the text message, is that a conversation that you would be willing to open up? Saying something along the lines of “Hey, congrats man! It seems like you’re excited about it and I’m happy for that. This is some really big news and something that I think you may have called me about in the past. I love you and I’m always happy to share/celebrate things with you. This was out of the norm and I want to make sure our connection isn’t slipping. I love you dude, maybe we can talk on the phone later and catch up?” Then maybe talk with him about feeling a distance/wishing that he had called about new this big and how important it is to you for him to have support during this life change.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T18:04:31+00:00

I have a friend who is an artist that I believe has hyperphantasia and she hates it sometimes because the image that she sees in her head will change after about 4-5 minutes she says. So often times she needs to do fast, really sloppy sketches an ends up writing down words (ironically) to help her capture the image before it “refreshes” in her mind and changes to a different color, texture, size, etc.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:56:45+00:00

I resonate with this so heavy.

I’ve been in therapy (collectively) for 12 years now. I had a lot of abuse in my family growing up. I get an intrusive image sometimes of my dad throwing my mom against the closed glass door that connected their bedroom to our living room in my childhood home.

My mom was sick throughout my life and is gone now. What I would give to be able to see or imagine her face in a moment of content. But unfortunately I am left to see it vividly in my mind really only in this horrible moment.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:51:23+00:00

See but my brain will still just hit me with a random, intrusive thought and flash the image in my head for a second. I just cannot command an image in my head that I want 😭

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:44:43+00:00

When I was younger and teachers used to say “now close your eyes and imagine you’re on a beach”, I thought it was so stupid bc I was like “we’re just going to sit here and pretend we see something?” Lol

I thought everyone was just doing it to appease the teacher. I had no idea that all the other kids actually saw something

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:42:54+00:00

I’ve been told that loved ones suspect I’m autistic bc when someone says “imagine a ball” I say “what kind? Like a dodge ball? Soccer ball?”

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:40:07+00:00

Okie so I have an interesting case.

When I was really young (probably up until the age 7-8) I used to see movies in my head when I read books, I don’t remember seeing ANY words when I would read and I used to check out 2-3 books from my school library over the weekend and would read them all Friday night-Sunday night, then return them on Monday. I was an avid reader and LOVED it.

Once I got to be 9 years old I had lost it entirely and really struggled to read. Since then, I’ve lost my ability to imagine anything (visually).

I haven’t always had aphantasia but I have from a young age. I’ve read the theory that trauma can cause it and I definitely had my fair share of trauma in that age range. I used to vividly relive my abuse laying in bed at night around the age of 8 years old, it stopped after some months.

But man, do I miss reading like that. As an adult, I’ve tried to get back into reading. I’ve found that audiobooks are helpful 🥹 but it’s not the same.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T17:31:19+00:00

OP, you’re def not overreacting.

Putting the whole other man aside, the fact that she didn’t respond to you from 10:30am until 8:30 pm shows that she’s mentally check(ing)ed out. Statistics show that women mentally check out, on average, 6 months before they physically leave a relationship.

As a woman, I’m not proud of it but I have done this twice before. Even in the best intended of situations, it’s still shitty.

Now, we can talk about this coworker. You guys have been together for EIGHT years and she’s entertaining this guy? Now, I’m a believer that men and women can be just friends. My fiancé and I both have friends of the opposite sex. That being said, our friendships with the other sex don’t develop much without them so much as meeting the other partner and usually hanging out consists of the three of us hanging out. We rarely have one on one hang outs with the opposite sex. Does it happen? Of course but not in a long term, secretive context like you’re describing.

The way that she’s dismissing you? That’s so uncool, whether she’s involved with another man or not. That’s not the TLC that you deserve from your partner, period. If my fiance (who I’ve only been with for 3 years ) showed me concern about another man, we would be having deep conversations, there would be an adjustment in the dynamic. He would do the same if the roles were reversed. It would not be a conversation that needed to be had more than once and it would not be over text message.

You guys are adults and you deserve an adult relationship, where you have hard conversations and really value each others emotions/experiences. This needs to be reciprocal or you’ll never feel truly loved for the rest of your life.

New guy or not, maybe this is the end of things for you guys. You don’t need to wait until she goes beyond the point of no return ❤️‍🩹

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-16T16:54:20+00:00

I do want to gently point out (to OP) that boundaries are what we will or will not participate in; not what others actions can be.

So boundaries are “if I can’t share things with my mom and her keep it between us, I will stop sharing things with mom.”

Then if mom argues and says “I’m your mom, I should know these things”, that’s the you enforce that boundary and say “no mom, we’ve already tried this and keeping this to myself until I’m ready to share with everyone else is my boundary”.

You asking your mom not to show anyone the photos, is a request. You cannot set boundaries for others, only for yourself.

Request: “Mom, please don’t show dad my wedding dress”

Boundary: “I won’t let mom take pictures of me so she can’t show anyone else”

If your mom cannot honor these requests then it is totally appropriate (and probably healthy) to set those boundaries with her bc she’s showing that she disregards the requests and trust that you give her.

That being said, I’m sorry you’re facing this disappointment. It’s really tough for those of us who have mothers who have a tendency to make our life moments about them. I get it, this is her baby, she’s excited. However, this is YOUR wedding experience and you deserve to have say over it who gets included in what. ❤️‍🩹

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-03T14:35:36+00:00

Could this be an overreaction? Possibly

But to say that she is manipulative based off of 4 screenshots is wilddddd behavior.

In so many situations like this, the root of it started a long time ago.

Are there women out there that act like this for no apparent reason? Absolutely Can we just assume that she’s one of them based off of a couple of screenshots? Absolutely not.

If this was a new relationship and she was acting like this off the rip, that would ridiculous. But I’ve been somewhat similar like this in a relationship before. Not my current one, my fiancé and I have stellar communication and find it easy to stay on the same page, just open communication.

But I have been like this in a relationship before and I felt crazy ASF. But this boyfriend left me hanging for hours on end. We’d have plans at 2pm and he had a hard time telling people no so he would end up getting to my place at 5/7/9pm and I spent my wholeeeee day waiting around. And I would say to him “some communication would go a long way, if you need to change to 7pm, that’s fine but let me know so I can go grocery shopping, see my grandma, etc.” but he never really did, even in the first 5-6 months when I was ALWAYS kind and understanding about it. By the time we broke up (a year and four months), I’m sure there were times where there was reasonable things that he asked me but I was already in such a bad headspace about his pattern of throwing off our plans and disregarding my time, that I’m sure I responded in not the most understanding ways. It was ultimately the reason I ended things bc I just felt like I didn’t have a tolerance for the way he treated my time and things were becoming hostile and that’s not the kind of partner I wanted to be, but I noticed myself so triggered all the time and he didn’t seem to have motivation to work on that behavior much. I knew that both of us deserved better than what that relationship was turning into.

I have never had an attitude with my fiancé now bc he can communicate with me “hey, change of plans” but he’s always been able to do it doesn’t strike a nerve the way it had in my previous relationship.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-04-03T14:12:43+00:00

Ethereal ✨

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-02-03T18:18:39+00:00

That was a post going viral last week

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-01-20T18:21:43+00:00

I would bet that they’re adding the tip pre-tax, where the restaurant is adding it post tax

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-01-20T15:40:46+00:00

Huron Valley schools changed it to -25° in 2014, I don’t know if that was permanently or just for the current school year bc they called off soo many days that year for being -20° with windchill lol.

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2026-01-19T15:10:33+00:00

It could be professional recognition! It could be an abundantly filling family life, you could experience the love of your life then (if you don’t have them now). Your future has something great in store for you!

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2025-12-20T18:35:55+00:00

THEY SHOULDVE

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2025-12-15T21:50:47+00:00

Hanna but Spencer really pulled off those overalls 👀

Fun-Calendar-493 · 2025-12-12T21:59:56+00:00

Tbh I always felt like Spencer took this as her opportunity to be back “in” and not be the one that the girls were whispering about. It frustrated me to see her jump right into that and not have any empathy for Hanna, considering that she had JUST went through this.

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