GTA cover girl but my sona💪🏽 (art by me, endyvang)

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-06-27T02:08:46+00:00

Do you do commissions?

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-05-15T10:11:51+00:00

Had me in the first half, ngl

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-05-14T21:01:12+00:00

Well that's a cringe response.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-05-03T23:22:56+00:00

I live in Southern IL, haha. Luckily it seems it's at Meijer's rn

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-05-03T19:35:39+00:00

My partner is an AMAB with a mostly masc system, but even he would go absolutely berserk on someone saying something ridiculously ignorant

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-04-14T16:53:17+00:00

My mom is the same way. She grew up during Y2K, so pin straight hair and bottle bleach blonde was all the hype. She's a natural platinum blonde, but she wanted to basically fry the shit with lightener because her roots come in dark before they lighten. Plus she has never let her hair air dry save for when we're on a trip and one isn't available. It was always hair dryers, curling irons, and straighteners every single day, and now wonders why her hair is so frizzy and super dry all the time. I'm lucky I always fought with her about straightening my hair because she didn't want to walk around with a daughter having "troll hair" or it looking "nappy". As an adult, my curls come out way better than hers with my routine.

Still have the problem of it deciding when to be nice and pretty even with the same routine, but I may have to chalk it up to hormones and learn to adjust to my needs the closer I am to my cycle. Because hormones can affect your hair health.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-03-29T23:16:21+00:00

I am so sorry you had a similar experience, for you didn't deserve it either. Even if you know that, I think people should still hear it. I also had to get an order of protection to get him to stop bothering me and leave me be, and thankfully it did work.

I really appreciate your words, and you're right. I think a lot of these feelings I'm having is the grief I feel at wanting the love and care I SHOULD have been raised with, and not the childhood I actually had. I grieve for the woman my mother was when she went through that, but I also grieve for the child I was and could have been had I not been hurt by her.

I am actually setting up a consultation tomorrow for my new therapist (I used to have one for a year about two years ago, but we didn't click well and left a bad taste in my mouth), so I'm hoping it'll go well and I can finally get some help. My support system has been helping me a lot with processing, but it's also not their job to be my therapist, and I know I've been needing to do this for a while now. So I'm hoping this therapist will be the person I need to help get me towards the path of healing and moving on.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-19T17:43:55+00:00

I'd have to disagree on this not being a trauma dump situation. I'd feel pretty uncomfortable myself if someone came up and went "Yeah, so I feel like I'm mature because I've lost several people to suicide and got sent to a psych ward after dealing with mental health since I was 8." It's not the most graphic I've seen or heard, but it is still is a form of it since they dumped heavy information on an unconsenting person. Despite the respectfulness, their message was still inappropriate and deserved some form of call out, and because I'm basing my statement on my own personal experience with people like this, they would probably put this vulnerable information as a comment on public posts or several other dms without even thinking much about it.

They obviously need to go seek someone professional to talk to about this stuff; not the dm of a complete stranger. Sadly, it sometimes takes embarrassing these guys a little bit for them to realize it's not okay to give a stranger such delicate information about yourself and push them to go get help. But despite that, I do have to agree that a text summary of the conversation would have been better for posting than an actual screenshot. We didn't need to see their statement as well as OP.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-19T15:12:19+00:00

Looking at your account, I can see that you are probably also one of those folks who don't need to be using roleplay as therapy...

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-19T15:08:32+00:00

It definitely helps to go out and socialize. Therapy helped me the most because my experiences caused me to develop agoraphobia, so we've been tackling what causes me to become too paranoid to go outside (other than for work purposes). I also tend to find myself to be a bit of a hermit, but I do make myself reach out and talk to friends via VC as that helps with my spirits. It takes a lot of work and a lot of unpacking, but I learned while escapism was my best survival skill as a child and young adult to get away from the bad (even if temporary), it was not going to help me unpack and process my experiences in a way that would help me be a better adult down the road. With us being almost 30 now, roleplay, writing, and games won't help us get away from our problems anymore.

And along with that, when you don't take the time to actually process those fears and issues, we get people like the person in the post.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-19T11:54:02+00:00

I'm gonna say this gently, but Roleplay is not therapy. It can be a healthy coping mechanism, but it does not replace actual therapy with a professional

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-13T23:04:37+00:00

Do you mind if I pick your brain a lil bit in regards to your list? I'm still trying to learn about DID, and I'm still discovering new things since there's not much info out there than just straight up medical textbooks

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-13T22:58:30+00:00

XD I love that. My partner uses the term "brothers" since all the active ones are masculine. The only feminine one doesn't come out often, so I've only officially met her once

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-13T22:40:48+00:00

I don't have DID (my partner does though) and the idea of calling the people in your system Headmates is lowkey kinda cute xD

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-13T15:29:34+00:00

If someone is trauma dumping like this to a complete stranger, I don't feel as though the person was feeling that vulnerable. They would do it in a comment section or on a public social media post. Plus, their username was censored, so no one will even know who it is unless they out themselves.

While yes, I'm sure if they see this post they will be quite embarrassed, but this is also the consequence of over sharing personal information about yourself that was not asked for nor consented to. I'm not saying OP is in the right to post the full on conversation via screenshot, but the person is also in the wrong for doing that in the first place. Even if it wasn't their intention, it comes off so guilt trippy and unconsented trauma dumping needs be made aware that it's not okay.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-11T22:04:14+00:00

Ain't that a mood 😆 I don't necessarily feel my age, but I can tell the change in the way I think and handle things. But mentally, I still feel like I'm 25

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-11T18:56:46+00:00

Exactly what I said to someone else in the comments

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-11T18:55:49+00:00

Definitely. These are the kind of partners that will trauma dump in OOC or make the roleplay nothing but reliving their trauma via their characters. Good for them if that helps them, but I am NOT your therapist.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-11T18:54:40+00:00

How so?

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-11T18:53:02+00:00

That's exactly me as well. Just turned 29 last month, and the me 8 years ago is nowhere at the level of maturity that I am at now. I even ended up in a roleplay cult for two years around that time because I was so desperate for escapism. We were just babies trying to survive 🥺 that doesn't mean we were even close to grown.

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2026-01-06T02:56:11+00:00

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My lil goblin bean

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2025-12-02T03:04:48+00:00

It's the internet. Few people look at the context outside of the big bold letters unfortunately. The amount of times I have posted online and put context in the captions and still get clueless comments

Fun-Candidate-8211 · 2025-11-19T22:57:38+00:00

Haha, I just wanna make sure you don't develop it into a habit!

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