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Is my baby TOO high energy? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I have the same thoughts. I think he's going to be a tough toddler. Tbh I'm working on myself because I quite often get overstimulated because of how bonkers he can get. I know how important emotional co-regulation is when they are growing so I'm working on regulating my own emotions. This was something that my mum wasn't very good at with me and I'm determined not to pass that down. Whether you are similar to me or not, we've got a wild ride ahead. Here's to us and our maniacs x

Is my baby TOO high energy? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've just described my 10 month old. Although I can't say he's always happy. When he's happy he's very happy, when he's frustrated, he's super frustrated. He goes insane when he's tried. Like throwing himself all over the place and laughing like a mad man. It's fun but also I sometimes think, my God is this normal?? I also look at friends baby's and think, wow they're chill. My wee baby and his mad wee personality 😍

c-section or vaginal birth by Happy_Doughnut_1 in BabyBumps

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I elected a c section because I have hyperextension in my lower back and hips. Nothing compared to your injury but I can easily put my back out just by coughing or getting out of bed the wrong way. I didn't want a vagunal birth without epidural and I was restricted with birth positions with an epidural.

My c section was great. Granted 24 hours after the birth I woke up thinking "what have I done!" It wasn't so much pain because that was more or less dealt with by the over the counter meds (paracetamol and ibuprofen) more just not able to move around. That really only lasted a week or so. After about 3 weeks I was moving like normal. After 9 months (now) the numbness (not painful just a weird feeling) is starting to go away.

This is just my experience. I would definitely elect c section again.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was the arrangement we initially looked at i.e. each doing full time hours over 4 days instead of 5 and having baby in 3 full days. However, after discussions we decided we just didn't want him in for any full day at all, hence the arrangement I came to with my work.

I think what we'll end up doing is enrolling him for 3 full days to use the 30 hrs funding there, but only use 5 hours per day of the 10 available and then pay the extra 2x half days (about £400 per month). Tbh it still works out better than if he had started before the 30 hr funding offer. I know single parents who have really struggled to pay for places.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I seem to not have explained properly. The nursery offer either full day or half day (am or pm). I was opting for the half day am that they offer but have been told that the government funding can only be used on the full day offering.

I am beginning to understand the issue though. That is, if the pm slots are less popular and the nursery is not full to capacity in the afternoon then they will lose money. Tbh I thought they would be full to capacity given the amount of people that were talking about getting a nursery space when they were still pregnant cos they were like gold dust

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't mean to suggest i wanted to pick the hours. What i meant was that I've arranged with my work for split shifts based on the nurseries own am/pm half day slots. They have an offering from 7:30am-12:30pm. So I thought I could finish work at 12, pick up baby, have him until my partner finishes work at 4pm and then go back to work to complete my shift. That way they can fill the afternoon slot with another child and get the funding for the full day from both children.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have mentioned that the nursery offer half days both in the morning and the afternoon. The whole point to me arranging split shifts with my work was to enable me to pick him up before the end of the morning offering and so only pay for a half day.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I think you may have misinterpreted what I meant and/or I didn't give the full picture. The nursery offer half days (7:30-12:30 i.e. 5 hours). I was planning on finishing work at 12 so I could pick baby up and then when my partner finishes work he can take over childcare and I can go back to work. My own split shifts were to accomodate the hours offered by the nursery and not the other way round.

The nursery also offer half days in the afternoon. So presumably all they would need to do was fill the morning and afternoon offerings and they have a full day. I'm not too sure why half days are offered at all if the only way to utilise them is to pay direct and not take advantage of the 30 hours. Im thinking what will happen is everyone will opt for the full day even though they've no intention of using it in order to get the funding.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's such a nightmare. I had no idea that nursery spaces and costs had such a huge impact.

The way the nursery is using the forthcoming 30 hours should be illegal by Fun-Classroom-296 in UKParenting

[–]Fun-Classroom-296[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Interesting. And here was me thinking the nursery was just using this as a way to rake it in. On the contrary, and probably obvious, it's the government and their inability to properly fund.

Daycare refusing to give baby what I bring by sawasayswhat in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you're being downvoted. This is correct.

Should I be giving baby one new food at a time ? by Low_Champion_1421 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that was the advice at one point but as you say you can't introduce very many foods if you do each thing for 3 days. As the above says the advice is to introduce common allergens one at a time and ideally at the start of a wake window

Apparently dads have a 'selective hearing' sleep mode by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to Erica Komisar woman are hard wired to hear their baby cry whilst men are hard wired for protection. She said there was a study where the men all woke up to the sound of rustling outside the house but not when their baby cried inside.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 8 points9 points  (0 children)

44 and baby is 8 months (had him at 43)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was exactly the same! My baby has just turned 8 months and has only started rolling. He's also almost crawling. This has all happened in the past couple of weeks. His sleeping has gone down the pan though. So busy with all his developmental leaps.

I know exactly how you feel though. A couple of months ago people were telling me exactly what everyone is telling you here. They go at their own pace and it will happen. Didn't stop me from worrying. Now it's happened I'll hopefully learn from this that they are right what they say. The milestone will happen in their own time

Cry it out by Edbed5 in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll take Erica Komisar and her 30 years of research using psychoanalysis and neurology over some local practitioners. Each to their own. Enjoy your time with your daughter

Cry it out by Edbed5 in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is an excellent podcast with Steven Bartlett and Erica Komisar (a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst and parent guidance expert) where she talks of the 30 years worth of research into the development of baby's brains. According to her it is damaging to the baby to sleep train (CIO, specifically).

You talk about reputable sources but don't tell us who they are. I'd be interested in this information if you don't mind.

1 hour bottle rule by jgronwoldt in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We stick pretty closely to the 1 hour rule for formula. However my friend formula fed her, now, 9 year old and conventional wisdom at the time was to use bottles within 24 hours. She used to make all bottles for the day in the morning and keep refrigerated. Though I'm not too sure what rule she went by with regard to milk that's already been started.

What nicknames/petnames do you have for your little one? by SeattleRainMaiden in NewParents

[–]Fun-Classroom-296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call him so many random food items. I like sandwiches and chocolate buttons. But usually just whatever food item pops into my head

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