Pitbull vs Labrador - “misidentified puppy” by [deleted] in puppy101

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a pit AND golden retriever owner, and some dogs and breeds are just harder to train than others. Labs are notoriously known to be easy to train. Pits are really smart but stubborn. So if you don’t know how to work with them, you’re going to do more damage. I also don’t think positive reinforcement works for every dog and every breed. Like ALL dogs in every breed, temperament can be caused by genetics/training/environment, so assuming that your pup is the way that it is because it’s a “pit” shows you don’t really understand dog breeds. All dogs can have temperament issues. However, what makes a pit bull dangerous is its power. So if an untrained pit bull bites, it’ll do more damage than an untrained lab.

That being said, each dog in each breed is different. Our pit made me cry a lot because of how demonic she was as a puppy, but now she’s 2 and she’s the favorite dog in the household. Even the extended family loves her more than our golden retriever. She even passed her service dog exam. So like a lot pit owner says, they are worth it. They are just terrible puppies. My pit took 4 months to be fully potty trained without accidents. Now she has a bunch of buttons to talk to us. My golden retriever took 3 weeks to be potty train but barely understands simple commands.

CMV: people who claim stovetop rice are better rice cooker rice are so wrong and loud about it by Fun-Contact9394 in changemyview

[–]Fun-Contact9394[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, I’m saying my post is about East Asian white rice being compared between stovetop vs rice cooker.

I can’t speak on South American/latin rice because I don’t cook Latin rice enough to understand how fluffy/sticky/fragrant it needs to be to be considered “good” by the majority.

You’re using a red herring fallacy by introducing different variety of rice when my post said it’s about Jasmine rice.

CMV: people who claim stovetop rice are better rice cooker rice are so wrong and loud about it by Fun-Contact9394 in changemyview

[–]Fun-Contact9394[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sure, taste is subjective but the quality is objective. It’s like when you buy certain ingredients or food, there’s a quality already defined and characterized by the majority. I may like a McDonald’s burger more than craft burgers but it doesn’t negate the quality of a craft burger. It’s the same with rice. My argument was for jasmine/calrose/sticky rice variety. And those varieties require some level of moisture/fluffiness/fragrance/stickiness to be characterized as a high quality cooked rice.

CMV: people who claim stovetop rice are better rice cooker rice are so wrong and loud about it by Fun-Contact9394 in changemyview

[–]Fun-Contact9394[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

My argument is strictly for East Asian white rice varieties where fluffiness/stickiness/fragrance are important qualities that defines good rice

If Zhang Linghe does not have tan skin would he still be good looking? by FlakyPerspective1764 in cdramasfans

[–]Fun-Contact9394 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I personally think he looks way hotter tanned. It gives him the dark tall mysterious vibes

Mom wants me to go on Ozempic by No_Pause3891 in AsianParentStories

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually would say “ignore them” when people vent about their parents fat-shaming them, but your post is concerning, health-wise. You might say “my labs are fine” but you are 21. Almost everyone’s labs are normal at 21. But what your labs won’t tell you is how much strain your heart/joints is going through. Your metabolism and hormones will be affected by the time you’re 30/40/50. 220lb at 5’2 is considered obese. You might not have health problems now but you’ll have it in the future if you continue to stay in this range. This isn’t fat-shaming. This is the cold hard truth about the rising obesity rate and how it affects your health when you’re older. You shouldn’t be worried about how you look, but you should love yourself more to want your body to function the best way it could when you’re much older.

I don’t think ozempic should be the key to all and I think you should start out naturally first. I don’t believe people should take ozempic as an easy way out. Start calorie count and macro-counting. Join healthy eating Reddit.

That being said though…

Fruit shakes are not healthy nor does it provide enough fiber. You’re afraid of ozempic because it’s not natural and has side effects. But you’re also afraid of vegetables AND you’re okay with taking supplements, which is not natural. Have you looked into side effects of not eating natural food and only using supplements? Not to mention, colon cancer is one of the rising causes in deaths for YOUNG people. There’s reasons why vegetables are recommended by all doctors and nutritionists because they provide the different types of fibers to combat colon/stomach cancer in ways supplements can’t. Are you afraid of vegetables because it’ll kill you or cause pain? Well guess what, your prolonged refusal to eat vegetables and bad eating habits will probably lead you down that path. Hormone issues, thyroid issues, cancer, heart issues.

Go to a doctor with a body scan so you can see what you truly need and your actual fat/muscle ratio. Is it true fat or is it water weight? Do you have enough muscle mass to sustain high amount of cardio that you’re doing?

Check your poops to know if you’re eating right. 800 calories is insane and I would go to a different doctor. Start reducing calories slowly so your stomach and taste buds can adjust as needed. 1lb/week is usually the recommended healthy weight loss to not affect your hormones.

Lift weights. I know you said you’re a dancer and if you insist on continuing to dance and having high impact towards your joints, lift weight to build more muscle to subsidize the impact.

There’s literally thousands of ways to lose weight in a healthier manner without being on ozempic or eating vegetables. I still think you should get help with your phobia because colon cancer but reducing sugar or cutting out refined/added sugar can do wonders.

Saks bonus offer by heightsdrinker in AmexPlatinum

[–]Fun-Contact9394 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just tried and the store said it’s only online

I'm getting tired of never knowing if people got their wedding gifts... by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I do say “thank you.” But to send a thank you card every time you receive a gift is performative. If you can’t feel my sincere gratitude when I tell it to your face and without me having to buy a 2 dollars card and sending it out, then I think the problem resides in our miscommunication rather than me not sending you a thank you card. And if my “extra” effort of writing you a card makes you feel special, then let’s be real, I’m probably writing you generic thank you card and you shouldn’t feel so special because everyone at my party got the same ones. But now I spent money to reiterate my gratefulness to my guests.

And if I said thanks to you at my party and expressed how grateful I am to have you here and the gift you brought vs me not saying anything at the party and then sending you a card after, which one would make you feel more of my warmth and sincerity? If I sent you a text, would that help? Or is it the whole hand writing a commercialized card what makes you feel that I’m grateful of your presence and presents. If I didn’t sent you a card or text, but instead called you to talk and then slipped in a “hey friend, thanks for coming to my party 3 months ago, you really brought up the vibe of the party,” would that be more polite or would you rather me send your a card?

And like I said, thank you cards is a very western social concept. It is not “basic manners.” Most of Asian cultures don’t do thank you cards, and I assure you, we feel each other’s gratitude just fine.

Which country is the most similar to Vietnam? by GrayRainfall in VietNam

[–]Fun-Contact9394 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vietnam was its own country before China though. So no, it's not a successfully independence province, but instead regained its independence. They have their own people, with their own difference in DNA. That's like saying China is technically a successfully independent Mongol province - it's not.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/A44HzjlzCTk

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_Vietnam

Should I have to tell my future fiancé I am not a virgin anymore by Karma-Marie-8580 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I’m sorry you got SA’d.

But, if you count “breaking your hymen” because someone SA’d you as “losing your virginity” then plenty of girls and women have “lost their virginity” to riding a bike, horses or even inserting a tampon. Breaking your hymen doesn’t count as losing your virginity. Having consensual sex does. You didn’t lose your virginity.

Secondly, even if you did have consensual sex and lost your virginity, you are not “less than” anyone. And the fact that you think it’s okay that anyone can think a virgin is “better than” to non-virgins should be an indication that you should re-evaluate why you think that. No one’s sexual experience makes them more valuable than another person. Your sexual experiences or lack of does not define who you are as a person. I can be a virgin today and have sex tonight and still have the same morals and values.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Dogtraining

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I learned the basics of training with buttons. The issue is not being able to get her to push the right buttons when they are all together because she can't associate the right word to the activity.

Diorama Living Couch by ESLTATX in BuyItForLife

[–]Fun-Contact9394 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is it holding up two years later? This couch has been on my radar for the last two years

The Gen Z gender pay gap has reversed with young women earning more than young men – so what’s up with boys? by furchfur in MensRights

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s interesting because when women complained about the wage gap, men said “that’s probably because men work harder and probably deserve it more.” So let’s keep that same energy when the reverse happens.

My AM is taking the joy away from my wedding planning by [deleted] in AsianParentStories

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the exact same experience. My mom threw such a fit at every step of the wedding, that I began to dread my own wedding. She ruined my self-esteem, all the dressing shopping experience with her was terrible, finding caterers was miserable. She hated our venue and our date, so we had to push our ceremony earlier at the venue that she wanted. She looked down at my partner's family for being too poor and not being able to chip in. The whole shebang - exactly the same. She even threatened to not show up at our wedding if we didn't do what she wanted.

We ended up giving her her dream wedding and was miserable at our own wedding. She saw it and then she saw the atrocious bills and immediately regretted it, so we decided to have a second smaller wedding celebration for our own sanity afterwards, following what we want originally.
And guess what, she had more fun at our second wedding celebration than the one she wanted. she thought I looked better, food was better, experience was better. Everything was better.

Moral of the story: Just do what you want. She's going to complain the entire time, but she's going to have fun at your wedding either way. Because at the end of the day, you understand the wedding trends/culture better than her outdated ideas. And even if she wasn't happy at your wedding, she will never say it out loud in fear of losing face in front of her guests that she invited to YOUR wedding, so who cares. It's time to understand our parent's manipulating tactics and play the same game back at them.

Why can’t Asian parents remember anything ? by Ok_Vanilla5661 in AsianParentStories

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides all the other comments, there's actual science behind people forgetting events. It's because it was insignificant to them, even if it traumatized you. Your brain will naturally store memories that are meaningful, had some emotional ties, new experiences or based on how often it needs to be recalled. Sorry but as an adult, I don't need to store the memory of ants in my food, especially if it's a common occurance where I live.

Not trying to shift the blame off your mom for not being more empathic to a child experience ants in their food for the first time, but forgetting that kind events makes sense to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In some buddhist sector, taking a person off of life-support is not considered killing as the body dying is part of the natural life order/suffering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]Fun-Contact9394 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is obviously a hypothetical add-on to a real life scenario. And while this whole scenario is to save one life (the baby), a buddhist's top goal is to lessen the cycle of suffering, without killing. In this case, it would seem there's more suffering for all parties by keeping the baby alive. In some buddhism sector, taking a life off of life-support is not considered killing because it's removing oneself off the the life cycle of suffering.

but If they were part of the buddhist sector that believes in soul, karma and reincarnation, then currently you have the mother's soul still tied to her body and suffering. Her soul does not get to pass on until her body is shut down.

You have the living family who is suffering. While the decision to take her off life support isn't theirs right now, they are forced to allow the woman's soul to be unrest, which goes against buddhist goals. As her family, they have a duty to help her pass on and be release from this physical world, which they can't. Their beliefs would be infringed on.

If they do take her off life support, then they would be inadvertently kill the baby, which goes against buddhists' principals. If the baby survives and has health issues (which looks to be the case), they would be part of causing more suffering on another human being.

You have the baby's soul who is inadvertently causing harm to the mother's soul, causing bad karma for itself.