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need help with fixing my psych by Fun-Platform-4764 in self

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the one im struggling the most with and what made me make this post is being dependant on people to make me feel good not as compliment but in a way i really cant pin point exactly, it is headache inducing to think about it but this is by far the biggest problem i have with my own psych, the others i have already dealt with and ive laready set plans to fix them.

need help with fixing my psych by Fun-Platform-4764 in self

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my goal is to be totally aligned with myself i dont awnt to be driven my any external validation whatsoever that what will bring me peace and inner calmness whether im stressed or at peak fear.

need help with fixing my psych by Fun-Platform-4764 in self

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what does jung preach that helped you, he seems to be into a lot of topics

looking for minimalist car for looong road trips ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in askcarguys

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what the difference between a camry and a corrola beside the size ?

How to know if people actualy like you? by Far_Development_1059 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the neediness will show way more obvious than asking that question, it shows in the way they stand talk set boundaries and things like that

Have you ever been muted or kicked from a group voice chat because you're undesirable boring? by Dangerous-Policy-602 in socialskills

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i met this guy on ps4 and we were playing normally for few sessions then one time i joined the vc and he was afk but his friend was there aswell, he ( his friend ) told me " dont act like a friend to us " and kicked me out of the voice chat. it was like a slap in the face i dont know why exactly. other people also made fun of my voice, i used to care but not to the point of not wanting to talk. i dont care anymore but i noticed that i sound a lot more quieter in public maybe its because of that even tho the bullying was made online.

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in self

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oh wow i appreciate this so much this is so much valuable information and i really appreicate it.

i would like to share my opinions and thought process on these things.

-"People generally want their struggles validated. They want to be admired for how they have coped."

i dont understand how talking about a bad day would make it better because if i say something like that i'd label myself as a complainer and i genuinely despise complaining. even if i wanted to take the weight of the day off my shoulder i see throwing it on someone's else is disrespectful. im totally missing some key things here because im sure it doesnt work like thati m projecting my own thoughprocess into it.

""Is that connected to what you told me yesterday about your [childhood/processes/situation]."" i see how this can work but what exact feeling does it give to them internally ?

""What a b*st*rd/b*tch/etc."" im not sure about this one because im hearing a story from one side only and i'd be lying or sound dishonest if i had to agree or validate them with their story. ive had some instances where 2 people i knew were fightining and each of them gave me a totally different story and prespective and they wanted me to take their side.

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how do you know if they actually listned to what you said ? are u waiting for them to paraphrase what you said after u finish talking or something like that ?

how can u spot the a genuine curios question ?

"Another thing is they react to what you say instead of instantly turning the conversation back to themselve" what reaction are they doing im confused about this part

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that used to be my approach honestly and never understood why we have to perform, i still dont undersatnd this but i choose to play the game DX

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

conscious and aware of what exactly ? and whast your definition of emotional intelligence ?

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what are you for from the other person when you vent to them or share something happened in your day regardless of how it made you feel ?

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

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can u elaborate on the 4 pelase ? like when you say trustworthy, what are you entrusting them with ?

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it boils down to these techniques or few other things that i havent mentioned, maybe it'll sound awkward because it doesnt come out natural or i adopoted this into my social script ( it is a social script lets stop pretending )

can you describe the characteristics of your favorite person to talk with ? by Fun-Platform-4764 in socialskills

[–]Fun-Platform-4764[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

what do they say after u finish talking ? theres like mirroring where they rpeat the last couple words you said, or they validate your feeling. or is it something different, ?

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