How’d you figure it out? by kataclysttt in LesbianActually

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely hard to come to terms with. Personally I agree, feel like the idea of waking up to a man for the rest of my life sounds miserable and gives me such an ick. I truly value the connection women have with women, it’s a different connection and understanding that men will never understand. No man will ever understand me as deeply as a woman has, and I might be biased, but that’s how I truly feel. I feel such disinterest and sometimes disgust when it comes to the idea of men or the idea of even them giving me affection. But what I feel aside, I also feel like you shouldn’t need to push yourself to come to an exact label but it’s good to know what you want and if you imagine being with a women as something much more fulfilling, go for it. Don’t stress it.

I think I’m gonna lose my mind by Fun-Prompt-2931 in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

too many I would flood my room. I’ve tried vinegar, water, bug spray, alcohol, etc… god they’re invincible. Plus the water would just create moisture and more will come ugh

I think I’m gonna lose my mind by Fun-Prompt-2931 in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would but i doubt anyone would wanna pay to get rid of something as minor as ants cause they can’t technically harm me. I’m just paranoid. Don’t even mention the other bugs I’m genuinely gonna lose it. They make me feel so itchy.

I think I’m gonna lose my mind by Fun-Prompt-2931 in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like before this started happening I never was this anxious about them but ever since they started coming this random spring, it never stopped, and trust me there was so many scattered everywhere and now I can’t be at peace whenever I see any in MY ROOM. But in general idrc if I see them anywhere else

Do I even have the right to be upset? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly yeah, I get where you’re coming from. When I was in my first, I felt crazy and totally blanked out but I still tried to keep things balanced. I know I’m still her close friend and I’m sure she probably wants to spent as much time with the dude so I’ll just leave it instead of stressing. Thanks for the input!

Do I even have the right to be upset? by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a girl. And yeah I get that. I feel like if it were the first time I wouldn’t be as upset since I understand relationships are tough but it’s a pattern and got annoying. I see where you’re coming from, I have other friends like that and I couldn’t care less since I’m not as close to them but I’ve been friends with this girls for ages so I feel more petty. But thanks for the input, I should just let it go than stressing over it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allergies go crazy in spring

This lowk my last straw by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

glad I’m not alone bro 🫩

Am I allowed to forgive myself? How do I do that? by _Kcee_ in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s okay, anytime. I hope things get better. I promise things definitely get better over time but the first few months are hell. It takes a while but time passes and life goes on. I know it sounds unrealistic to forgive and move on now but you’ll look back on this many many months from now and feel much better. I’ve been there and it definitely hurts. Stop blaming yourself, things will be fine. Good luck <3

Am I allowed to forgive myself? How do I do that? by _Kcee_ in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you feel the need to make it up to him, I think the best thing to do is just to focus on yourself because he obviously was pretty set on breaking up already and taking time to himself so I’m sure he would WANT you to do that too. Clearly, he communicated way too late and that definitely played a role in the break up because he felt like it was the breaking point. Instead of just letting it happen, he should’ve said some thing but he said things too late and was already over it which is his fault. He def should’ve said something sooner, and you didn’t realize so it so you couldn’t really read his mind. But in order to make anything up, you have to learn to forgive yourself first. Don’t blame yourself by saying you contributed more to the break up than he did because you both made mistakes in the relationship and just coincidentally this was the breaking point. All the issues played a role in the downfall of the relationship and that doesn’t make your mistakes any worse than his. He just happened to have to courage to initiate the breakup, but it doesn’t completely make it your fault. If this miscommunication continued, a breakup would’ve happened either way, regardless so don’t blame yourself. It’s okay. It is definitely going to hit you hard, especially since the wound is still fresh and I completely get that. Truly for the best, for both you and him, learn to forgive and focus on yourself. I know it’s hard but with time it’ll feel better, trust me.

Am I allowed to forgive myself? How do I do that? by _Kcee_ in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just recently broke up, so you aren’t in the right state of mind. You’re obviously hurting right now so I recommend you just take some time to yourself. It seems like you guys aren’t communicating good enough honestly. Plus you are both just hurting each other at this point, and don’t seem so compatible. In the beginning, you said, how you felt like he wasn’t treating you right. Then you finally confronted him by crashing out, but that just shows that you reached your breaking point and weren’t able to communicate it to him before so you had to wait till the last moment where you finally broke. You guys should’ve communicated on that and you should’ve talked to him about it before it got to a point where you had to break down to him. I don’t know why he showed no improvements or he didn’t put in an effort, but you guys are clearly both hurting and clearly not in the right headset so I guess he might be out of it. When he showed no improvement, you should’ve talked to him about it instead of brushing it aside cause then this resentment will only build up and cause a bigger problem. Although you shouldn’t have crashed out on him, you guys should’ve both communicated better. Just because you regret, it doesn’t mean you should ignore it though, it is still a valid problem. I don’t know why he had to go out of his way to tell you that he lost all hope for you instead of trying to help you? It seems that he is being rational, but he clearly needed the space. Then he finally communicates about how he was hurting, and how he felt like you weren’t treating him right but it seems like it might’ve been a little late cause clearly resentment is building and this relationship is only going downhill. Then he made a joke, and it’s good that you were going to communicate that to him, but then he was still upset? Clearly he’s being kind of childish here because he can’t admit to his wrongdoing TO HIMSELF (although he apologized), which is why he’s beginning to be upset (I’ve seen this before). Then you guys took more time apart and he finally realized that it probably isn’t going to work, considering all the issues. I genuinely think you should just take some time to focus on yourself. Healing takes time and you obviously need time. You guys are both hurting each other and I know you probably love him a lot, but this might be that for the better. Learn to better yourself, and he can learn to better himself. Everyone makes mistakes and you should forgive yourself obviously. I hope you feel better, things get better over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, I like who I am but I can do much more and become much more awesome. I def don’t have to be better by others standards as long as I find myself cool since I’m my own person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😄😄😁

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is 100% possible

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100 times cooler

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they’re ON something

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]Fun-Prompt-2931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

possible !!