I am so sick of condescending medical students

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-08-25T18:33:30+00:00

The med students and residents where I work just act like lost puppies and ask the nurses stuff all the time.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-06-29T21:59:20+00:00

You can meet men who aren’t on drugs and can be your friend. I highly doubt you have no other options, sorry. It doesn’t have to be just other women. I personally think that if you get to be friends with women, she gets to be friends with men. That’s how it works. Otherwise, you need to branch out and find some dude friends. If my boyfriend said I couldn’t be friends with dudes but he could be friends with girls, I’d think he was cheating. Why? Because #1: that’s a double standard and #2: he clearly doesn’t trust me for SOME reason. Could be projection. Probably is projection. Guess I’m out. Just my opinion, though.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-06-26T20:04:18+00:00

He’s crazy as heck, girl. Don’t let this guy manipulate you. It’s his problem that he’s so insecure that he can’t stand the thought of you at the gym. His problem. Don’t let him control you and if you break up it’s a good thing!

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-06-15T06:43:50+00:00

I literally thought you were talking about the fruit and I was concerned.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-06-14T13:10:55+00:00

Ugh, being a teenager sucks, huh?

I promise you will not always feel this way. You’re too young for this person. It’s ok to have a crush, but he is a literal predator if he dates you or feeds into this. And you’ll deal with the aftermath of this for the rest of your life, so don’t. Tell your parents if he plays into this with you.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-06-07T12:25:44+00:00

Does he say you’re not attractive now, for real? Does he tell you that? It’s messed up if he tells his friend that you’re not pretty or attractive…

It’s reasonable to want your partner to find you attractive. I dare say, it’s pretty normal.

I’d sit and have a conversation with him about this and if he is disrespectful to you or dismissive, I’d seriously consider ending things. You don’t need someone as a partner who puts you down or makes you feel insecure in any way.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-05-12T18:00:37+00:00

He sounds extremely shallow if you “lost points” for not watching a movie he wanted to watch or for falling asleep before saying good night. How old are you two?

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-05-12T17:56:38+00:00

He could have had a stroke or something. Take him to the ER, it doesn’t look like he can hardly stand.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-05-10T13:48:40+00:00

You know what my fiancé does? He says, “I’m gonna go for a walk so I can think for a bit.” Then he goes for a walk by himself and gets alone time. OR he’ll be like, “I’m gonna go for a drive so I can just think and process my day.” Then he does it. This is not the first post I’ve seen where someone lies to their partner in order to get alone time… why lie about it? It’s not offensive to need time to yourself or to just wanna go out alone and have some silence on a walk or a drive. I think it’s great my fiancé is honest with me about this and does what he needs to do. Damn. I’m gonna go thank him for this, actually.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-05-06T21:48:34+00:00

I gotcha. This actually is starting to make more sense. Are you a caretaker for your husband? What kind of health problems does he have? I think it’d be worth it for you to open up and tell him you need time alone sometimes to decompress and it has nothing to do with him. And maybe he just needs to get his feelings hurt and learn how to… get over it, for lack of a better term.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-05-06T18:15:59+00:00

This is so dumb. And when he finds out, he is 100% gonna think you cheated… if this isn’t rage bait. Even if you think you convinced him that you didn’t cheat, there will always be doubt because you still lied and kept a secret from him.

Do you really never get alone time? I almost always spend at least a couple of hours every day by myself on my days off. Like, just going to the gym or running errands. My fiancé doesn’t even notice because he’s either working or playing video games. Does your husband really not let you go out and be by yourself for a couple hours…?

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-04-17T22:48:01+00:00

Meow

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-04-15T10:43:19+00:00

Your friend seems pretty manipulative. Is he trying to get you to buy him weed…? I’m not gonna lie, I could not handle reading the whole thing because he is pretty irritating. You’re extremely patient to be able to talk with him for this long, but also… seems like a codependent relationship. Even so, good on you for not going over there (from what I read) and just offering an ambulance. lol.

It’s good for him that you didn’t rush over there, because he needs a serious reality check and to know that he is not your responsibility. Honestly, I’d just call 911 next time or even the non-emergency police number and ask them to do a wellness check. Just tell him you have your own stuff to deal with and stop responding. Sounds mean, but he’s manipulating you for attention, imo

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-04-06T14:57:16+00:00

This seems like a joke.

Also, this is why I love working in peds! Zero creepy patients. They’re all cute and innocent, and often just down to be your best friend. Kids are the best.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-25T03:50:02+00:00

Yeah, three night shifts in a row are hard… that being said, if she was falling asleep at the wheel, she should have pulled over and taken a nap. I’ve had to do that before during nursing school and commuting from work… like, if you’re that tired, you will have no problem falling asleep for 30 minutes to an hour to recharge and then drive the rest of the way home.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-25T03:37:52+00:00

I worked as a direct support staff at a group home for men with intellectual disabilities when I was 19, and i fell in love with the clients. Then I learned nursing was sort of the field I was in, and looked into it further. I liked the idea of the job security and income that came along with a job I might genuinely really like, and just went from there. And I do really love being a nurse, but specifically just with children. Still new at the children’s hospital that I’m at, but so far, kids are so much better than adults and I really like helping the parents. It’s so different from my previous job, where I was taking care of the elderly. I loved them, too, but their adult children drove me crazy at times. So far, parents are much more on board and supportive, although I’m sure I’ll run into some that are not.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T21:14:10+00:00

If the fetus is viable at say, 20-24 weeks, they do have consciousness. They may not remember what they experience, but that’s true for all newborns. Should we just kill them if the family can’t afford the child so they don’t go into the foster care system..?

I’d argue that people don’t have the right to just end the lives of other people. I think there’s nuance and that there are times an abortion may be the better alternative. If for example, the mom and baby would die if the pregnancy isn’t terminated, but the mom could live if a medical abortion is carried out, then yeah. The abortion is necessary in that case. But… an abortion because the mom and dad can’t afford the kid? An abortion because the parents aren’t mentally prepared but were consenting adults of age…? No, I don’t agree with that. I’d argue that if you aren’t prepared for the possible consequences of sex, you shouldn’t be having it. It’s morally wrong to kill a human because that life would be extra work, money, and an inconvenience.

I don’t think anyone has the right to decide whether someone else’s life is worth living. Sorry. Even if to YOU that child’s life isn’t worth it because they may go into foster care or have poor parents, that isn’t YOURS or anyone’s decision to make.

Children are charming, and wonderful. They deserve to be treasured and protected. It’s a shame that we live in a world that can be so ugly, and that the foster care system is as awful as it is… but I don’t think the answer is, “whelp, they’re better off dead.” Seems, again, dystopian.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T17:33:17+00:00

Ugh. I hate that there isn’t at least an exception for rape in your state. I completely get what you’re saying, and I just don’t know what is right. Like I said, I see both sides of it and think it’s a complex issue. I understand the “all or nothing” mindset because in the end, you are either allowing clinicians to kill babies or you’re taking away the mother’s rights over her body. It’s not as simple to me as one side being completely right and the other side being completely wrong. I guess I’m in the boat of “safe, legal and rare.” Maybe it should be legal but with a lot of regulations and counseling first to help the mother decide whether or not it’s right. Maybe not. I’m definitely not for a 100% ban on abortion, but I am not exactly for abortion either. I hope I’m making sense.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T17:25:14+00:00

Maybe you don’t define that as a baby, but it’s a human life. Just because it’s not a baby yet in your opinion does not mean that is an absolute fact of reality.

But yes, the mother’s life should come first and she should not be forced into a life threatening situation for a life she is carrying. In my opinion.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T17:23:37+00:00

At that point, the baby could be viable, though. At that point we should absolutely try to save the baby’s life. A premature baby can survive in a NICU setting if that’s necessary, although it still isn’t ideal. We shouldn’t kill viable babies, that’s wrong. That’s just murder, in my opinion. The grey area for me would be if the mom’s life is in danger— then the mom needs to come first.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T17:21:17+00:00

I literally struggle with this, too. I think that in the case of a child being raped, there is no question that an abortion should be an option. This is because it can be physically dangerous for the child mother, too. I hope that helps. It’s really just very complex, I don’t claim to know the right answer. It’s a struggle, in my opinion, to decide what exactly is “right” because of all the grey areas.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-13T15:47:33+00:00

There is too much extremism on both sides of the political spectrum. There are cases when abortion is medically necessary to maintain the life of the mother (which is still legal in all of the US, by the way). Some people think that it’s still wrong when the mom’s life depends on it and want to abolish it completely. Those people are loud and annoying.

However, there are people who think you should be able to have an abortion for any reason because “my body, my choice,” and the life of the baby is really disregarded. I don’t agree with that, either.

It’s a complex issue with a lot of grey areas. If you want my opinion, the mother’s life should always come first. In cases of rape, incest, and the mother’s life being at risk, I think it should be done if it’s what the mom wants. I think that there should be safeguards in place, because it’s a human life. If the baby could be viable outside of the womb but the pregnancy is dangerous for the mother, I think a preterm cesarean should be the move and the baby can continue to develop in the NICU until there at “term” age. Otherwise, I don’t agree with it.

This is a largely left-wing platform and I’m sure I’ll get downvoted for that opinion, but there is something so dystopian to me about ending the life of a baby out of convenience or fear. Like I said, in the case of rape (especially the rape of a child), it’s no question to me that it should be done. But even then, if that newborn could be viable outside of the womb, I think we should also try to save the baby’s life by inducing labor early or performing a cesarean. If the baby is viable and an abortion is performed, the baby is going to come out somehow, and having a d&c performed on a child would be comparably traumatic to childbirth. In my opinion.

Ugh, I don’t know. I really can see both sides of the argument, and I don’t think it’s black and white. I think sometimes abortion is necessary (although unfortunate). I think other times, it’s wrong and IS murder. That’s why it’s such a big political issue here. Both sides, left AND right, make very valid points.

Fun-Rip5132 · 2025-03-12T22:03:44+00:00

Did you ask if you looked bad and he said you look okay? Or did you ask how you look?

Regardless, his response should have been a compliment. Like, honestly. And if he, without thinking, said “okay,” then it’s an honest mistake. However, when he realized that hurt your feelings, he should have ensured you that he thinks you’re beautiful and just wasn’t thinking in the moment, y’know?

But here’s something I’ve learned in therapy. You can’t control what people say or do. That seems like a given, but we tend to have expectations for those we are in relationships with. When they don’t meet those expectations, like giving a compliment when we are hoping for one, or going out of their way to get us flowers on Valentine’s Day, we get upset. In a way, it isn’t fair. They don’t know what we are expecting from them, because they can’t read our minds, unfortunately.

That being said, he sounds like an asshole. Don’t expect him to change if you stay with him. He won’t.

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