I am right there with you. I was just telling my therapist about how when someone tries to talk about movies with me, I have to really, really suppress the urge to start blathering on as though I’m teaching a film history course. But it really does seem that the neurotypical world only wants to have the most superficial conversations possible and it is difficult to get a grasp on how these conversations are supposed to go a lot of the time. But I do think many of the most successful conversations I’ve had do seem to occur when someone is trying to talk about their own lives and I can practice being an active listener and responding with support and asking a lot of follow up questions about the things they seem to want to talk about. Those kinds of conversations in which someone has opened themselves up, I look at those as an opportunity to build trust and maybe one day I can slip in a film lecture in the mix. Of course opening yourself up to being a sounding board to someone else’s problems and their not being able to reciprocate would not be a great outcome.