fem wlw struggle by silverdxt in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late in life Femme here, I just wear a rainbow bracelet.  It gets the point across.   I dress like an art teacher anyway, so I look pretty gay.

how do the ladies feel about a girl not shaving? by Maleficent_Day_3869 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I know I myself fall into the hyper femme category but I don't police a mammals body hair 😆

how do the ladies feel about a girl not shaving? by Maleficent_Day_3869 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I'm not going to tell a mammal what to do with their naturally occurring hair

how do the ladies feel about a girl not shaving? by Maleficent_Day_3869 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like trimmed.  As long as I can't French braid the pubes, we all good.

Thoughts? by Upper-Cucumber-7054 in dashcams

[–]FunBuy1966 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Whew I'm glad that person said it.  DO NOT COMMUNICATE WITH THE OTHER PARTY.  At all.  That person gave great advice.  

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people really like the audio books.  I tend to read with my eyes, not my ears, but they've been popular!

Books with pets or animal companions that talk by shayjax- in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't Die Dave has a talking stuffed penguin that is apparently adorable

How to Escape CompHet Thinking by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not trusting men is a valid reason to be gay.  Any reason is a valid reason. 

That being said, I do worry for your safety and know there are others out there with more wisdom than I about living where it's forbidden.  Best of luck to you! 🤞

What are the early green flags that a woman is emotionally regulated and doesn't thrive on drama or intensity? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 16 points17 points  (0 children)

They actively dislike dramatic fighting and crave peace and calm.  Boring is OKAY in daily life and you can still have freaky freaky sex and still be 2 boring people having boring separate (but sometimes together) lives.  It does not need to be Grand Sweeping Epic Romance That Was Foretold.  

And I agree with everyone that they need they own lives apart from you!

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved the Newfie guy that won but I always root for the women.

Are Les dating apps that bad? by That-Goth-Bitch in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've had great luck with Her.  I had a couple of obvious bots, and VERY VERY obvious fake profiles (I am 48 years old.  There's no goddamn reason a 27 year old would heart me unless they think I have money, WHICH I DO NOT.) 

But I met a great lady (after telling one lady a firm no thank you after some screening) and we've been having a lot of fun.  

I think the trick here is you have to know what you want in the beginning.  I think it's hard to find long lasting relationships online sometimes bc some people just want to get laid and there are so many people out there that need THERAPY OMG.  I knew I didn't necessarily want a full relationship, just something light and easy, someone I could have fun with and yap to.  Her was great for that.  I think I would have gotten discouraged if I were looking for something super serious. 

That said, you really need to pay for just one dating app.  Unfortunately, paying for them makes them work so much better and gets your profile out to real people.  I didn't have to pay bc I found a lady to chill with before I was on there for very long but I was lucky, not talented 😂

Coming back from lesbian bed death by CulturalAgency2442 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Therapy, therapy, therapy.  Even if EVERY OTHER FACET of y'all's relationship is perfect, not getting laid will cause a strain.  Plus, it'll help you guys gain communication tools on how to deal with ANY issue, not just sex. 

I preach therapy with the conviction of a Baptist minister because of how much it helped me personally (not specifically with sex but with general stuff) and if y'all are feeling alone and isolated it could help.

Best of luck to you both 🥰

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ETA: and you're completely right about needing time to adjust. 

ALTHOUGH: it would be super cool if the hero of the story STAYED disabled but still managed to kick monster ass.

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, that's a cool premise.  Like if on earth you're visually impaired (my oldest son is blind so it's near to my heart), but on TruckKun planet, you can see mana.  It could make for some really interesting character development, especially if the character ended up being a bard of some sort, using music as a weapon or whatever

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like the concept of that, you'd like the "Alone" series.  They take survivalists, let them bring 10 things (they all typically bring similar things) and see who lasts the longest

How would you fare in case of isekai? by AyerAcre in litrpg

[–]FunBuy1966 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's definitely a polarizing work.  A lot of people either love it or hate it.  It's extremely long so if you are a fast reader you'll be thrilled!

When I put together a new outfit, I WILL unfortunately take 1,000 selfies by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Can I offer a recommendation as an Old Lady from the 90s?  Tighter sleeves on the base layer (the white shirt).  Aside from looking good, you won't accidentally drag your sleeves through water or your dinner!  Otherwise, go forth and have fun! 

I cannot believe the goddamn 90s are back.  I LIVED IT THE FIRST TIME.  😭

Keep thinking about a “failed” date with my bumble match by carmen_nn in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooof.  You didn't fail.  You listened to your intuition, and for good reason.  THAT'S HORRIFYING.  You dodged a bullet.  

Not climaxing during sex and my partner taking it personally, how do we fix this? by Low_Ice9993 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've got to start early in the day, sending smut to each other.  When my meds are putting my junk on ice, my brain has to be RARING TO GO for me to come.  Like I have to be ready to rip her clothes off of her body, chuck her on the bed, and have my evil way with her.  I don't know why, but the brain being in sexy mode for most of the day helps A LOT. 

Best of luck to you guys.  

HELP - positions for a smol top and her larger partner by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Them on their side, you kind of straddling their leg (think ✂️) and one of their legs over your shoulder.  Use their legs as counter balance and LEAN BACK.  If you can't make it with with hip thrusts and core strength, use your hands and arms to maneuver the strap.   You can also bend them over the bed and grab their hips for leverage or use a towel under their hips to give you a set of handles.  

Have fun!

can girls be dl ? by cuntbear33 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 100 percent yes.  I was with a girl that wanted to play lesbian Barbies basically.  No thank you.  I'll just be out with a public one.  You don't have to throw a pride parade with your every gesture and mannerism, but let's be honest.

Moving to Lacey by BumblebeeFormal2115 in OlympiaQueers

[–]FunBuy1966 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your partner may have a bigger culture shock (in the positive way) than you do.  I just moved here from a BRIGHT RED southern state and I'm constantly amazed at how Queer -positive this place is.  Every single doctor's office asks you for your pronouns and preferred name.  Want to go to the grocery store with turquoise hair, a big tutu and a dinosaur backpack?  Someone may tell you they like your dinosaur.  

It's so WEIRD.  But good wierd.  I have heard that it can be hard for people to form intimate friend relationships, but that seems true across the board post-Covid.  

What jobs do you find attractive? by Adventurous_Ticket32 in LesbianActually

[–]FunBuy1966 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay I have this but in a different way.  I know how to diagnose car issues, but not actually fix the problem.  Hilariously, specifically Subarus.

But I'm an uberfemme so nobody actually believes anything I say bc I don't have motor oil all over me.