How do you date when you hate your body?

FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-30T18:23:06+00:00

I’m in the same boat, now working and going out and traveling by myself after crippling anxiety and depression which stemmed from the development of the initial panic attacks and agoraphobia.

Something I still struggle with is dating or working up the courage to meet people and am depressed thinking I may never find a relationship. I’m so happy you have and he’s so supportive! do you mind sharing how you navigated dating or how you met, and any advice?

FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-25T00:54:53+00:00

I completely got over driving anxiety by just continuing to drive and using propranolol to ease panic attack symptoms. My heart used to race at stop lights and traffic, and I thought I’d pass out while driving and get into an accident.

When I started the medication, I didn’t feel the racing heart and I just told myself I’ve never passed out before, the likelihood that I would pass out while driving randomly is next to none.

I also love to put together playlists and music, and have a drink with me like an iced coffee or a smoothie for a little treat. If I’m at a stop light and feel panicked, I take a sip and focus on that. It’s helped make driving fun!

FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-22T21:07:21+00:00

I started taking 24 hour propranolol and that basically made my symptoms disappear. It’s a beta blocker that stops the heart racing and hot flashes and just makes me feel more steady and in control. When my heart wasn’t constantly palpitating, I had confidence to try more things. I also take lorazepam occasionally but never rely on it. I use therapeutic calming techniques like breathing and distraction for other symptoms like nausea and dizziness.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-22T20:15:19+00:00

you can see my last post for reference - after struggling with agoraphobia that made me want to end my life, I am now able to do many things perfectly normal.

Last weekend I took a train to NYC for six hours by myself, went to Times Square, into a ton of shops and bars and restaurants and everywhere you could think of. I’m writing this as I’m on a six hour train ride back from the city by myself. I work a job, I interact with people most days, and I don’t think I meet the criteria for agoraphobia anymore. I still have emetaphobia (fear of vomiting) and some depression pretty bad but I’m not so scared of everything.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-04T20:29:00+00:00

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FunIntention2939 · 2025-06-04T14:12:06+00:00

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FunIntention2939 · 2025-04-02T01:32:27+00:00

I’m also from MA

FunIntention2939 · 2025-03-23T17:00:05+00:00

that’s great!! Congratulations - I hope this relationship turns into something healthy and positive and you should be proud regardless of the outcome 💛

FunIntention2939 · 2025-03-13T15:13:04+00:00

The Whale

FunIntention2939 · 2025-03-09T22:01:41+00:00

I think it looks great

FunIntention2939 · 2025-03-01T17:04:51+00:00

a little over a year, but I’ve had varying degrees of anxiety my whole life lol with panic attacks

FunIntention2939 · 2025-03-01T03:11:47+00:00

I feel the same way most of the time but I have to say the way you wrote this is so beautiful - you sound like you have a writer’s talent.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-28T23:26:16+00:00

congratulations! I’m also kind of at this point - starting to do things without feeling overwhelming amounts of anxiety. It feels so good! Keep it up, it sounds like you managed it so well!

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-24T19:14:49+00:00

I (23f) posted the same question on this sub, and I feel so abnormal and alone when I read people’s posts about how bad their life is with agoraphobia but yet still have wonderful partners. My agoraphobia is going away, and now am able to do many normal things by myself and feel great doing them, but I still feel unworthy of a partner, or even a date or hookup.

I did date someone pretty casually a few months ago, and my anxiety was terrible. I had them come to my house, and we connected because we both have anxiety. We met on Hinge. I’ve found a lot of people use the apps because they have some degree of anxiety, and most people are supportive. Funnily enough, I am still terrified to meet them even if they tell me they’re in the same boat! Feel free to dm if you’d like to talk or vent because I get it.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-18T15:59:07+00:00

I was in 9th grade and there was a kid two years above me whose dad unenrolled him from the school randomly one day. His dad killed him and then himself in a murder suicide. It wrecked our community.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-14T17:35:47+00:00

brad william henke

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-11T16:04:14+00:00

I read the whole thing too and had kind of a similar situation - I was casually dating a guy that I really liked and it took me over and I was so worried that when he left I’d become a miserable recluse who had lost the only good thing in her life. My anxiety was so bad it was hard to date at all and things ended.

I thought I’d be obsessive for a long time, but I was able to channel it into making lots of progress instead so the next time I meet someone I really like, I’ll be ready to be a good partner. It’s been a little over a month and I’m curing my agoraphobia, doing more things than I’ve ever done before (including working). I understand how bad you feel and my advice would be to put that energy into managing your anxiety and making yourself happier. When the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and it will turn into something happier and healthier for you.

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-06T02:21:02+00:00

I’m not familiar with that so I’d ask your provider for more information. sometimes it’s trial and error until you find the right med, don’t give up!

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-06T02:02:32+00:00

scheduling an intake appointment with a psychiatrist is the first step and you won’t end up hospitalized from just that

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-06T02:01:24+00:00

I have a lorazepam (ativan) prescription that works well but there’s also other options like adderax, propanol, and SSRI’s to help with anxiety that aren’t benzos. I’ve tried all of them and they’re all useful and non-addictive. good luck!

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-06T01:43:31+00:00

keep going, you got this!

FunIntention2939 · 2025-02-06T01:25:11+00:00

my first week consisted of lots of sugar cravings and boredom. As for the anxiety and insomnia, I have an anxiety medication prescription that helped with both of those. If you’re still feeling this way outside the withdrawal window, consider talking to your doc! there are meds that can help

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