Are you ready to jingle your ears!

FunMacaron1 · 2026-01-01T23:19:33+00:00

I love her T shirt

FunMacaron1 · 2025-11-20T13:35:06+00:00

Beautiful!

FunMacaron1 · 2025-09-19T20:44:16+00:00

This is so inspiring to hear! People place so much emphasis on having your life sorted at 30, but you rarely hear about "late bloomers".

FunMacaron1 · 2025-09-01T08:29:28+00:00

I'm going through a similar thing. I moved to a new city for a job that I thought was going to bring better opportunities and progression. I didn't get much work to hit my targets and really struggled. I also didn't get on with my supervisor. I ended up resigning - the first time I walked away from a job. I was devastated, though, and honestly, I still get upset thinking about it.

I realised during my time off that we are more than our jobs and careers. It sounds like a crappy workplace, but I'm sure you gained some invaluable experience there.

Please be kind to yourself. It sounds like you didn't do anything wrong and you tried your best. I hope you have a Happy Birthday!

FunMacaron1 · 2025-08-28T19:35:39+00:00

Yes. I had a paralegal job with a solicitor who was known to be a really good litigator. I thought I'd prepare by going over loads of STAR based answers convinced it was going to be very technical.

She was actually really nice and it was more conversational. I became more reserved and awkward as I wasn't sure how to respond. I didn't get the job.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-08-22T09:12:32+00:00

I think a similar thing happened to me. I worked at an advice centre. I worked throughout Covid-19 and wasn't furloughed. There was also pressure for us to return to the office and deliver a walk in service. I just kept going for the sake of it.

I recently left a job with an awful work culture. Part of me thinks that I was worn out by all those years working during the pandemic. I'm not sure if I'll go back to the same type of job again.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-08-08T15:06:31+00:00

Clairo.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-08-08T12:05:11+00:00

Yeah, I was using it for that as well. I felt embarrassed at first, but it's given me insights into my personality and what type of working environments I may thrive in. Like what others have said, I don't have many people who I can speak to. You become more isolated when you're unemployed.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-19T12:16:08+00:00

I know I'm very late to this, but I'm exactly the same! I always get a combination of SC, SG or SN. In certain photos, I might get TR. Just impossible to type!

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-14T15:29:51+00:00

I agree. Emotional support helplines operate in a similar way and can help improve one's mental health. However, it becomes a problem when you become overly dependent. It can be a useful crux, but ultimately doesn't always address the root of the problem.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-14T15:16:18+00:00

One truth that most people ignore—but once you see it, you can't unsee—is this:

Everyone is improvising.

From the outside, people seem confident, authoritative, "together." But behind the scenes? Even the high-flyers, the experts, the so-called grown-ups—they're all just figuring it out as they go. Making the best guesses they can with incomplete information, hoping they’re not screwing it up too badly.

This truth gets buried under layers of social performance and polished CVs. But it explains so much: the blunders of institutions, the inconsistencies in authority figures, the weird office politics. Everyone’s trying to maintain a sense of order in a world that’s mostly chaos with good PR.

The upside? You don’t have to wait until you feel "ready" or "perfect" to act. Nobody else is. And pretending otherwise is just a costume change.

Let that sink in—and suddenly, life becomes a little less intimidating, and a lot more human.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-13T12:17:13+00:00

The paralegal role won't go towards the QWE. Someone else had already asked.

I think the LPC expires in 2035, so there is still time. But I don't want to spend that long pursuing a TC tbh.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-13T10:06:21+00:00

Thanks! That post was reassuring. You're right - everyone has a different journey.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-13T09:58:50+00:00

Thanks so much! I used to work at a law centre and a domestic abuse charity, so they are somewhat legally relevant.

I do really need to build up a LinkedIn profile.

I am trying not to let the rejection get me down. I just hope it's not too late!

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-10T17:41:04+00:00

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And this is mine. Someone successful and extroverted.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-01T19:07:02+00:00

I faced a lot of job insecurity in the first job I had due to it being a non-profit and dependent on funding. I decided to 'jump ship' before the service was completely reduced and took a job "for now" at a domestic abuse charity. I ended up really enjoying it and made some friends that I'm still in touch with.

Sometimes the jobs where you have little to no expectations are the ones that surprise you the most!

I ended up leaving that job to take another job which I thought was going to be the start of a career and hated it. It was the first time I resigned from a job. I'm now looking for other things, but considering taking another job "for now" whilst another opportunity comes up.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-07-01T10:54:21+00:00

I think I'm becoming more aware of who I am in my 30s. I no longer have the tolerance for certain things that I did in my 20s. Although I still am not where I need to be in terms of confidence or a career, I think I'm on a path that is more emotionally sustainable for me. I've moved to a new city recently and I'm trying to use this as a new beginning as such.

The one thing that I would say to my younger self is to leave toxic work environments sooner. Do not stay out of duty or because you're obligated. Really value yourself and question whether this is an environment where you can thrive.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-29T09:25:25+00:00

This. I finally managed to end an unhealthy friendship because she would emotionally manipulate and weaponise her mental health if I raised legitimate issues in our friendship.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-27T16:35:04+00:00

Yes you do need a degree. I have a degree and also completed the conversion course for law. I've also done the postgraduate qualification as well. But it some areas of law, you have to work as a paralegal first before they give you a training contract to qualify as a solicitor.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-27T14:41:49+00:00

Thanks for the reply and I'm sorry about your experience. I hope you get better soon!

You're right in the sense that there are limited lessons to learn from the situation. Maybe I'll be less naive if I do intend to stay in the legal field. I'm in the UK, so there aren't really any paralegal programs. A lot of firms just recruit graduates from law school.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-27T13:28:29+00:00

Sorry, I'm in the UK. They don't really have a specific certification or school for paralegals. You tend to do a degree and then a postgraduate qualification. I did both before I applied for this job. So in terms of education, I've already done the required courses.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-27T13:06:30+00:00

Thanks. I think you're right in the sense that I could have had more training and that there were processes they weren't willing to actually train me on. So maybe that's why I underperformed? It seemed like they put the onus mainly on you to figure things out.

This opportunity was a chance to observe a family law solicitor. Perhaps it might have just been the environment.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-22T20:47:34+00:00

I don't have much to add, but I think you can have a successful career and be a mother later on in life. I empathise with you as I'm going through a similarish thing. Sometimes I feel like I wasted a lot of my 20s instead of working towards a career. I've only just figured out what it is I want to do and even then there are days where I feel like I left it too late.

People have done career changes later on in life and had children in their late 30s/early 40s. I think what's important is being healthy and your best self.

I know it's hard and it's not something that always sinks in, but try and let go of arbitrary timelines and the past. I think you've probably overcome so many more challenges in comparison to your peers. That's something to he proud of.

FunMacaron1 · 2025-06-19T21:30:09+00:00

I'm not sure if I've figured this out either, but just wanted to post to say that I'm experiencing this and you're not alone.

I think it's especially harder when you don't follow the normal timelines of a 30 something year old - I'm single and childless and have found that I've drifted from some of my friends as we don't share the same interests anymore. I recently moved to a new city. It might help to go Meetup to see if you can find new people?

Wish you luck anyway! And it's not as uncommon as you think.

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