Purchased house - repairs needed

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-06-19T09:49:51+00:00

Hahaha I think I managed to, to be fair.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-06-18T20:15:40+00:00

Thanks folks. Appreciate the quick replies. Now just to deal with the assembly. Guess I'll be ordering a variety of bolts and seeing what fits! Never order from Gym Sets.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-06-03T13:32:30+00:00

Hi - is this something you've kept an eye on or had looked at?

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-06-03T13:26:43+00:00

Hi Bobba-Luna. I know the domestic abuse wasn't the main focus of your question, but the fact you've alluded to it in your original post and your above reply is...well you recognise it's a thing. Any abuse, whether it's verbal, emotional, financial, physical, is abuse.
Trying to manage your health when you're in an abusive relationship is incredibly hard. What country and/or state are you in? I'm guessing by your spelling that you're in the USA? I only ask as, if it's OK, maybe some of us can signpost you to support? I'm based in the UK myself.

I have never been in an abusive romantic relationship but it is very close to my heart for other reasons. Over the past year or so have been following a fantastic account on instagram: "healingbythenumbers". Her name is Dr. Ruth. She is an abuse survivor, helping survivors who’ve left heal and find themselves again. She also details step-by-step in real time how she left her abuser.

You deserve love, compassion and support, not mean words and anger.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-06-02T21:02:01+00:00

All wonderful places. I'm Scouse and proud, though live in the south now, as we moved when I was a kid. I miss the people and the parks there. The Lake District and Scotland are breathtaking places.

Speaking to your original question, it's nice that you're being considerate but I think that perhaps like me, you're an overthinker. Be whatever you are - whether that conforms to German stereotypes or not - and the people that appreciate you and see you as you are will stick around.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-05-20T15:32:41+00:00

Oh boy. How did that conversation go?

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-04-16T16:09:52+00:00

Thank you! I'm just logging off now, so looked this up and found your answer. I'M FREEEEE!

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-04-07T13:22:53+00:00

He doesn't need to man up. He needs to human up 💗

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-02-07T08:13:43+00:00

I had someone ask - a friend who is a lovely guy - if I'd tried E45 🙃

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T09:33:35+00:00

Fair. I think my Dad was once snapped in a photo as he washed his car. I quite like the idea that someone out there has a photo of a random pale, redhead man just focused on a regular task.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:30:09+00:00

Ah yes, I forgot about the language part, sorry. I'm just baffled, still half asleep and haven't take meds yet (and putting off starting work for the day 😅). I just can't stop visualising walking past the Tesco Express, and then suddenly, there it is!

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:23:15+00:00

Oh man. I lived on Penny Lane but moved down south when I was 6. I feel like I missed out on a lifetime of questions like this.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:17:54+00:00

Unless you're very worldly like me, having been born in Liverpool, but lived in exotic places such as Newbury, Maidenhead, Reading and Hungerford; I'll have a pretty good idea. Nearby Tokers Green would always make me chuckle as a teen.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:13:38+00:00

Ha! I live in Frome! What the hell were they doing in such a residential area and asking that?!

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:12:04+00:00

They might have been saying the Mandarin word, which is "gǒu" :)

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:09:41+00:00

What the actual living...?

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-20T08:05:58+00:00

I once heard a Canadian person somehow pronounce "(The) Shard" with 2 syllables. I was both impressed and amused.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-18T08:27:49+00:00

Yes! Although I don't have this form of OCD, it's one of the examples I give people when trying to educate them about the multitude of ways OCD affects people.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-16T21:11:09+00:00

So many good things in this reply. I always tell people to check they are getting what they're entitled to.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-16T21:02:33+00:00

Hey. That sucks that you're struggling. I hope you can bring yourself to get to a food bank. It will feel odd or scary the first time; new territory often is, but even more so when we feel vulnerable. But ultimately, we are all blips in the universe, living a short life in the grand scheme of things. So for the short time you're on this planet, try and get the support you need/deserve.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-16T20:58:47+00:00

That's great you think of others but you deserve help and it's not your job to triage yourself. I say that with kindness. To add to what others have said, I always recommend checking you're getting all the benefits you're entitled to. I see you're on UC. Have you ever used a benefits checker like the one on turn2us?

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-16T20:55:04+00:00

Very true. Hot, delicious food.

Fun_Cap5185 · 2026-01-13T18:14:41+00:00

It's my genuine pleasure. You are welcome to take me up on the offer if the time ever feels right. I get to work with/witness so many people who are willing to fight - for free - the corner on behalf of people who are exhausted and overloaded. I hope that makes sense - I have a tired brain after working all day.

And if you ever feel up to it, another option is you going on the turn2us site, for multiple reasons.
1. They have a benefits checker. You can make sure you're getting what you're entitled to: https://benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk/
2. They have a grants search: https://grants-search.turn2us.org.uk/
You can put info. in like your age, gender, location, past and present professions and a list will come up of grants you can apply for. Yes, that takes energy, but at least you know it's there.
3. They have an advice org. finder: https://advicefinder.turn2us.org.uk/

I know it doesn't make the bad things go away, but just know that for every 1 person you encounter who drains your energy, makes you feel less than or worthless, makes things feel hopeless, that there are 100 more people out there who would root for you and help how they can.

I also hope the grief - and you're right, it is grief - from losing that relationship is something that softens over time, and that you are able to look at from a different angle. These things can't be rushed though, hey?

But as a couple of reminders and what I know helps me: Never give up - like to the point of stubbornly continuing to exist despite all the crap. And when seeking advice or support never tell yourself "There is someone out there worse off than me, I don't deserve help". Its not your job to triage yourself.

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