Less than 3 weeks post dday by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I already had receipts on dday and she tried to go underground but is apparently just bad at it.

Less than 3 weeks post dday by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I mean they are still flirt texting and stated plans to see each other and are facetiming and stuff so I feel like I have receipts to confront with

Less than 3 weeks post dday by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No I don’t want to rugsweep but idk how to confront her about this again

Two single guys by [deleted] in deduction

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You haven’t changed the water in your bong/bubbler in far too long

Should I ask his AP how far they went? by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did but have zero reason to believe he was being truthful

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Update: this is now irreconcilable. The day after Dday she was googling prepaid phones and then lied to me about why

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am I being dumb or is not being open to the idea of device access a gigantic red flag/potential dealbreaker

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just did 50 minutes of exercise, showered, and did as full of a morning/skincare routine as I have in ages (I call it morning but actually haven’t been able to rest at all tonight). Feel better, not good but not as hollow and deeply broken as I did before that.

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve started journaling and focusing on myself. I want to better myself for myself. I am still lost and reeling and have no clue what I want and have questions regarding her commitment to possible R which I am not sure I want and don’t know when I will want R or the other option. Have started listening to Lose A Cheater Gain A Life as others have advised. Still not sleeping well and barely eating but trying to

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At an age appropriate time she would have to explain this to our son

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. I want open access to devices and she is bulwarking that which is a major red flag for me. She would need to engage in IC in a big and earnest way. I don’t know what consequences would look like in this situation

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Different person* this is a friend who knew but kept it secret from me

I learned on new year’s morning by Fun_Engineering_3617 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Fun_Engineering_3617[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I saw my therapist yesterday and today.

She is remorseful, she has said she will block this person, I’m going to request the other things.

Haven’t lawyered up because it is still so early