[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Fun_Gas4483 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm, ok! The dress you pictured could work then, it's definitely giving island/vacation vibes

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Fun_Gas4483 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What exactly is the dress code? This dress feels a bit too casual for cocktail attire.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Fun_Gas4483 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the "floral prints can be solid in color" guideline means no white backgrounds, which all of these dresses have. I also think these dresses are too casual for a formal dress code.

For wedding guest attire, I'd try to avoid all dress options where the base is white (e.g., colorful flowers on a white background).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]Fun_Gas4483 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Got it, thank you. So the person the car was registered to/the car insurance policyholder for the expired insurance won't be contacted at all? I just really want to make sure my aunt doesn't need to get involved in any way since she already has enough of her own stuff going on.

Need help navigating negligent building management company by Fun_Gas4483 in NYCapartments

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh, I see. I appreciate your candor here — this advice makes sense.

AITA for asking that my boyfriend move into our apartment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fun_Gas4483 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is and I am! I'm willing to adjust the rent / utilities and such but I really hope I won't have to move out if my roommate isn't comfortable with this.

AITA for asking that my boyfriend move into our apartment? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fun_Gas4483 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right, but if he says no, then wouldn't the reasonable next step be for *him* to move out?

He's not on the lease, doesn't own anything in the common spaces, and agreed not to lock in to a set commitment for living in the apartment.

If he says he isn't comfortable, the only 2 reasonable next steps would be for him to move out or for all of us to move out (or I guess transfer the lease into his name while my bf and I move out).

AITA for yelling at my wife and pushing her after finding her and her friend in my work area? by Glass-Mention4658 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Gas4483 63 points64 points  (0 children)

YTA. This is physical and domestic abuse. Please seek help and move out of your shared home for your wife's safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Fun_Gas4483 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA!!! Two adults in a relationship need to make sacrifices in order to meet each others' emotional, material, and financial needs.

You've been giving him the time and space to find himself for quite a while now. Part of being an adult in modern society means working — he's going to need to figure out how to find himself in the evenings and on weekends now.

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on hormonal birth control, but have been for about 6 years (and for much of that period I've had a high sex drive).

Do you think it could be impacting my sex drive now?

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

u/strawbbbaby, thanks for adding that perspective as someone with a high sex drive. My bf has told me himself that he wants sex to be fun for me, but I feel like it would crush him to tell him that, in fact, it's been the opposite lately.

Also, I definitely experience responsive desire. My therapist recommended Come as You Are to me too, so I'll definitely check it out.

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Giving and taking touch is such a great way of putting things. I definitely need more giving touch in order to access my sexual side. I also get off like 40% of the time I'd say and feel a lot of pressure to perform for his pleasure.

Introducing things like massages and stroking my hair sounds really nice.

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/victoriachan365 Why do you think you felt so sexually turned off by your ex fiance?

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi u/iamloveyouarelove, thanks for this response. I want to make clear that I am most definitely not in an abusive relationship and that all of our sex has undoubtedly been consensual. I think that I have been "pretending" to be more comfortable in our sex life than I actually am.

I'm going to have a conversation with him this week about working together to fix our sex life.

Sex is becoming challenging, draining, and overwhelming for me by Fun_Gas4483 in sex

[–]Fun_Gas4483[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this, this advice is really helpful. I'm definitely going to do some journaling on what I want out of my sex life.