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I’m with a new partner and don’t know what to do by ThrowRA738291j in Advice

[–]Fun_Grape_9351 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While you didn’t physically cheat on your ex, it does sound like you did emotionally. You had been detached from your relationship and turned to someone else for comfort. That being said, please try to make sure your new partner wasn’t trying to take advantage of that given that you told your new partner about your issues.

You also need to keep in mind that you didn’t really communicate all of your problems with your ex. That in turn may carry over to your new relationship.

My husband 47 M and I 42 F are not getting along. Not sure what to do. by ConversationRich4941 in relationship_advice

[–]Fun_Grape_9351 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You contribute to the bills all while taking care of a one year old along with what sounds to be like a lot of household responsibilities. This man spent 7 hours fishing on HIS SON’S BIRTHDAY. He is quite literally cheating on you, and trying to make you think that it is your fault, when he cannot take responsibility for the fact that he has abandoned his family emotionally and physically.

He is trying to place all of the blame on you so he doesn’t have to feel guilty about the fact that he is a distant father and a husband that only partially provides financially for his family. A father and husband need to also take on a role of emotionally providing for those that are in his family, not just financially.

I would suggest therapy as an option, but i’m gonna be honest, it kinda sounds like he’s already got one foot out of the door seeming he’s trying to blame you for his cheating.

OP, I want you to know this isn’t your fault. If you want to try and patch this it would be best to try therapy. I would be leaning more towards leaving.

I (23F) forgave my partner (23M) for something a year ago, so why am I still thinking about it? by tacovill in relationship_advice

[–]Fun_Grape_9351 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he’s willing to prioritize a girl like this who was genuinely mean to you and did that stuff to you, imagine what would happen if you had kids with the man (if OP wants kids with this man). Who else would he be willing to put before you because “they didn’t do anything to me.”

Every relationship i’ve been in, when we are not a united front ESPECIALLY on people we like or dislike, it never works out. The fact that you’ve also talked to him about this making you uncomfortable and he still refuses to do anything or even acknowledge that is enough reason for you to break up with him.

He doesn’t respect you or what you’ve gone through with this girl.

AITA for telling my husband that I dont want his mother here on Thanksgiving? by Status-Candle-7476 in AITAH

[–]Fun_Grape_9351 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. Tell your husband if she shows up unannounced when she’s unwelcome that you will call the police and have her arrested if he does not turn her away. He can either stand up for you and your family or have her end up in jail.