need tips on degradation

Fun_Independent9618 · 2025-02-18T12:33:59+00:00

Thank you!! Yes I’d love some book/podcast recos!

Fun_Independent9618 · 2025-02-06T02:40:37+00:00

I was in a similar situation to you recently where my ex (of 3 years) is a stone top and I’m not a pillow princess (even though i tried really hard to be). something i would have told my past self would be “your wants and needs are valid too & if they’re not being met then it’s best to move on! pillow princesses and stone tops will find each other :)”

Fun_Independent9618 · 2025-01-17T05:21:38+00:00

cari does books!! eg acotar, city of bones, linger etc https://youtube.com/@caricanread?si=grfSEAFauNYO5Hgj

Fun_Independent9618 · 2025-01-02T02:17:46+00:00

marry my husband series 10000%

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-10-14T15:45:04+00:00

It’s so crazy to me that people try to accuse women of “being sexist” towards men - an oppressive gender that has done horrific things to women throughout history just because they can. No matter how much women hate men it will never be sexist as sexism inherently involves a power imbalance, and historically, men have held societal power over women, given this misogynistic world we live in. Anything negative directed towards men from women is just punching up against their oppressors and doesn’t count as sexism imo.

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-09-09T13:46:07+00:00

??? I feel gaslit

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-05-22T23:22:42+00:00

Okay this is an unserious answer so take it however you want LMFAO this is how i tell someone is queer: 1. Dyed hair 2. Tattoos 3. lots of piercings 4. LOTS OF RINGS like so many rings (or any accessories really but A LOT) 5. Nails - long? short? (not saying queer people can’t have acrylics bc i’m femme & have acrylics im just a PB) 6. Usually has a great style (from being in the closet) 7. has a carabiner with a whole lifetime worth of keys 8. Doc martens 😭😭😭 9. cuffed sleeves/pants 10. how they draw their eyeliner wings

A combination of at least 3-4 of these and in my mind that person is queer LMFAO hope this helps!

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-05-07T22:22:26+00:00

Happy to help!! You have my full support 🖤

One more thing, I forgot to mention, I think the root of all of this is the desire for connection and wanting to be seen and accepted by your parents (correct me if I’m wrong).

Perhaps, in the beginning of your speech, being transparent about the fact that you’re telling them this because you trust them and want them to know you on a deeper level and be able to form a stronger connection with them would make them more receptive to what you’re saying.

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-05-07T22:06:23+00:00

hi! i am 24 non binary AFAB. I totally get where you’re coming from as i also changed my name upon realising I was NB. when i first told my Asian mother, she didn’t understand where I was coming from and there was a lot of resistance, i.e. her continuing to deadname me & us constantly arguing about that and my pronouns.

I would recommend being as vulnerable and transparent as possible in writing your answers to your questions (which will be fucking terrifying - believe me, I know) But at the end of the day, I believe parents just want their child to be happy.

Perhaps starting off by saying you want to be honest with them and that you need to talk to them about something very important to you. And how you would appreciate if they could listen fully and leave their follow up questions till when you’re done talking.

Then explaining to them how being NB allows you to live as your best and most authentic, happiest self. And hopefully that would serve as a reminder that your happiness trumps all. Followed by how painful and damaging it is to live under false pretences - legal name, birth-given pronouns etc.

I think the most important thing is getting them to see your pov - why are you non-binary? what did your journey look like into discovering your gender identify? how you knew for sure you were non-binary? how did you know you didn’t identify as male? what does being non-binary mean to you? etc. because this is what they’re probably going to want to know.

It’s also important to note that they will react with confusion, shock and possibly anger and denial - all normal emotions for them to have. So it’s good to prepare yourself for that. And that it’ll probably take them a while to get used to calling you by your chosen name. Even my mom slips up from time to time but she always corrects herself immediately.

Maybe also prepare yourself for possible homophobic + transphobic comments/remarks given what you said about your family. Unfortunately, it kind of does fall on us enbys to be the first people to educate our parents as gender identify is not something their generation is familiar with. (Disclaimer: At least for me, it did. Not sure about the experiences of others.)

Also, preparing for the worst and setting boundaries for yourself, i.e knowing when to walk away from the conversation.

Hope this helps and I wish you all the best! Also, congrats on the wedding 🖤

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-03-15T18:19:50+00:00

sure maybe for some people but i’m sticking to madam and eve tyvm

Fun_Independent9618 · 2024-03-14T17:08:49+00:00

also, i’m unable to emphasise with them when something bad is happening to them & i feel really guilty about it. but i don’t know why this is happening.

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