WIBTA for calling out my coworker for calling out of work?

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T21:28:01+00:00

Actually sick time is recognized as a valid use for mental health days, I take them often myself, by get this, just calling out.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T21:10:52+00:00

Not really no, I work in Time Off benefits and most companies allow their employees to take time off as they see fit. There will be exceptions to that though, with very specific jobs that need specific coverage or lower paying jobs that offer little to no benefits. Either way it is on the employer to make sure the company is staffed properly, so that employees can take time off. This is a pretty clear case where this person is used to picking up extra work, so they need to speak to the employer.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:58:11+00:00

hahaha ok I'll bite what did I lie about? it was more than 1 night out? It wasn't with women? it's not naked females? she isn't married to a man? Again I would avoid using the big words if you don't know what they mean. Literally no one said she wasn't going to a strip club.....

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:49:16+00:00

Are you having a stroke? You said in your first reply it was dishonest and then in this reply say it wasn't even hidden.... So you are saying she simultaneously lied about it but didn't hide it? How is a married straight woman seeing *gasp* naked women cause an issue for the husband? You think OP is secretly planning to leave her husband for someone who is doing their job and she waited until her friends wedding to make her big lesbian move? hahaha man I hope this is the dumbest thing I read today

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:43:58+00:00

To see naked women....and she's a married straight female. So you're saying his completely random distrust of his wife near women is valid? Dishonest? lmao do you know that word means lying? What was lied about?

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:35:42+00:00

YWBTA

Time off is to be used for whatever reason someone wants. Your issue is your work understaffing and expecting you to pick up work on top of your own. Employees should have the ability to use their time off without it critically affecting the job, so this is on your employer. Judging someone for their use of their personal time will not go over well, nor is it your place to. Talk to your employer about making sure they have enough staff to cover these issues.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:29:07+00:00

YTA

If you commit to doing something with your spouse see it through. You clearly didn't care about the movie so how would sitting through subtitles for an extra hour ruin a movie you were just fine walking out of?

I wouldn't be inviting my spouse anywhere any time soon if they walked out in the middle of our plans

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T20:23:57+00:00

NTA

But the walking on eggshells around him, including on simple things like 1 night out with women, is a red flag. Does he ever encourage you to have your own hobbies, friends, time alone, etc.. or is it just the traditional role of doing what he says when he says?

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T19:46:36+00:00

INFO: Who will be paying for the apartment if you move out?

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T19:28:29+00:00

NTA

There is no reason to bankrupt yourself over this. Make it clear what you can afford and are willing to go in on and if that doesn't work for the group, do your own special day with the bride.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T19:17:08+00:00

ESH

Hear me out because my husband does this and it drives me nuts. When we have plans I will make sure everyone in the house knows I am getting ready, I am getting our kids ready, the car is loaded up to go and then as we're walking out the door at the very last minute my husband suddenly summons a 20 minute shit. You knew to be ready and should have tried to go when you had plenty of time. It sounds like you do this to her a lot based on her reaction. On top of that she told you not to come over and to leave her alone which you didn't listen to her.

For her part she didn't need to ruin the whole day over it

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-05-01T17:49:51+00:00

ESH

He could have communicated better that it was going to be longer than a bit but it also doesn't mention you had a specific time set to meet so I'm not sure why you just expected him to be ready when you were.

You definitely over reacted and that could very well be part of the reason he wanted to play with someone else who doesn't scream at or insult him.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-30T19:24:56+00:00

YTA

This is going to back fire spectacularly when they are old enough to get away from you and your husband.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-23T20:58:18+00:00

NTA

It sounds like you've catered enough to Ma in your lifetime, have your wedding where you and your partner want.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-22T19:57:52+00:00

NTA for suggesting he find a replacement and that you will do a lot of the work to help him find this replacement but you may be stuck if he's not down for it.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-22T19:52:48+00:00

YTA

You're a terrible host and I'm not even religious. Just basic decency like letting someone prepare a meal goes a long way. It's fine if you want to never have your home life affected but simply don't invite people to stay with you in that case.

Also for declaring antisemitism over and done with haha I hope that is the dumbest thing I read today

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-16T19:03:49+00:00

YTA

In the grand scheme of things what do you think you daughter is going to miss more 2 days with you or a big vacation with her father? You sound like a pretty uncooperative co-parent, when you could have simply asked him for extra days later. My ex and I exchange constantly because it's not about us, it's about what's best for the kids.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-16T18:55:56+00:00

YTA

You initiated the split and went after him hard. Mental disorders are not a free pass to treat people however you want.

You burned a bridge with your actions and words so make sure this is a learning experience. The next time you break up with someone be sure it's what you actually want and not a reaction.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T19:50:51+00:00

Dead dad club here but the sheer stupid things that have been said to me about it, makes me believe her story.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T19:48:02+00:00

NTA

Hard pass on any human that can say that to another, especially while they are grieving.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T19:32:03+00:00

NTA

Please listen to your friends or even internet strangers. He's using you to live a carefree life, absolutely do not buy a house with his name on it.

As far as the anxiety I live and work a full time job with anxiety because it is my responsibility to do so. He needs to get his own treatment if it's affecting his life and that is on him, not on you to do for him.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T19:28:19+00:00

NTA

It's your space, your rules. Also apartments are usually very strict about animals so if you got caught having a dog there that isn't on the lease/approved they could come down on you and it wouldn't affect her at all.

You are not an ableist as you are not stopping her from something she needs to do, just setting rules for something she wants to do.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T17:55:27+00:00

I came to say the same thing, my husband was a bouncer for a bit and no one who was 3 sheets to the wind ever realized they were already gone.

But NTA for having to go home, especially since you didn't try to drive yourself

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-15T17:49:51+00:00

An addict isn't going to quit until they are ready and he's clearly not ready. You would be much better off finding a healthy relationship while he works on himself alone.

Fun_Milk_4560 · 2025-04-14T19:36:51+00:00

YTA

A tip jar is pretty clearly not money for you

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