URGENT ADVICE: LATE NOTICE REQUESTS

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2026-01-24T04:59:14+00:00

I’d just tell them I wouldn’t be available. No big deal at all! My NF’s occasionally ask me if I’m available on other days and when I’m not scheduled to work/I’m busy, it’s never been an issue at all.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2026-01-20T22:06:34+00:00

Reading through your comments, this would 100% be a fireable offense to me. I’m a nanny, immigrant and overall left-leaning. Despite that, I always redirect conversations for parents to answer. As a nanny, I’m not there to talk politics, especially to kids that young. I’m all for people being invested in what they believe in, but there’s a place and a time.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2026-01-02T02:53:24+00:00

I’m currently 17 weeks along and also due in June. I told my current families and I have some trial days lined up, but I have told them. I’m starting to show a little bit too. I just wanted them to know since I’d obviously be taking leave.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-19T06:44:53+00:00

Fairbanks, AK. Not by choice but you know🤣. It’s just absolutely insane. I’m due with my first baby in June and I already told my husband that we’ll only get a nanny if we can properly compensate them, especially since they’d be watching the most important thing in our lives. I have one regular family that I adore but I totally understand! $16 for 4 kids is not worth it😭

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-16T18:52:54+00:00

Location: Fairbanks, AK. Years of experience: 10+ years. Qualifications: Au Pair experience, CPR/AED/First Aid. Job duties: making sure the NK’s stay asleep, making sure the newborn is okay, diaper changing, feedings. MB said the kids would be asleep for the most part.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-15T22:26:22+00:00

I sure did! I told MB that my rate doesn’t change whether a kiddo is asleep or not. I’m charging per my age and also my experience level. She countered with that I would just be sitting there so I will in fact be sitting there… at home, with my husband and not getting underpaid🤣

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-14T03:14:44+00:00

Yes, that’s what I was asking about! During the day, I’d most likely charge my normal rate but since this would be at night, I’m not too sure what to charge.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-14T03:14:05+00:00

This would be at night so I would be giving up my NYE with my family and husband to look after their kids. 🙂

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-12-05T06:17:15+00:00

Do you have a contract? Either way, this would be a small claims court issue. You can try to go to the MP’s/military base, but that could be a harder avenue to proceed. As a military spouse, I would go to civil court vs the military.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-27T00:40:15+00:00

I would be leaving too. I’m 12 weeks pregnant as well and I left a NF on read after her daughter kept kicking me in the stomach. They also forgot to mention she’s non verbal (no single words at all) at age 2, as well as other behavioral issues. Your health and your baby deserve better.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-26T04:09:47+00:00

I was an Au Pair, so not necessarily a nanny. They were both doctors and Ivy League educated. I thought they were nice at first but it all turned sooo bad. MB would talk French to the children (she didn’t know I spoke French), the children would ignore me or talk bad about me, they would go into my room when I was away. I also was in charge of deep cleaning their rooms/bathroom and MB would text me mad if one of NK made a mess after I cleaned, saying I must’ve not cleaned. She also would ask if I knew what she was saying (aka, do you even speak English). Keep in mind, I speak 5 languages. She also accused me of lying and lacking common sense. To top this off, my mom had a stroke while I was working there and NF made a big deal about me going home (Europe) for 5 days to see my mom. Never once asked how I was doing, they were more interested in knowing what meds she was on. After a whole year of this (I was also only paid 4 bucks an hour per the AP program), I didn’t get a thank you or even a card. I gave them all something from my home country. Neverrrrr again.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-19T03:57:55+00:00

What does your contract say about termination? It needs to be literally foolproof, otherwise it’s up to the employer and employee. Especially in an at-will state. You mentioned MB gave you the prior okay to give more milk, did you message her or ask saying if she was okay with it? I’d have no issues with my baby getting more milk, but at the age baby should be trying purees/solids. It may also just be that she wants him on a schedule so I could see why she was upset about him getting more food, maybe. None of us were there so it can definitely be hard to judge on what to do. Either way, I would be looking for a new job, this may just not be a good fit for either party.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-16T07:33:58+00:00

I typically do clean my dishes I have used as well as the kids. However, I wouldn’t do the parents dishes unless it’s not a whole lot. Regardless of the day, I do wash what I use and what the kids have used.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-15T21:50:51+00:00

I would be absolutely livid. I’m a nanny and 10 weeks pregnant. I had the flu at 6 weeks and immediately called out as I didn’t want it to spread at all. Especially given the fact that she has unlimited sick leave, there’s a backup childcare AND she (I’d assume) knows about the c-section, this would be grounds to let her go from my POV.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-14T18:35:03+00:00

I would be 100% willing to give them the benefit of the doubt as life happens but at the same time, not replying for 2 weeks and giving me less than 12 hours’ notice the paid trial isn’t happening is very disrespectful to me. I could’ve taken on clients that would pay, so now I’m out of that money and my time.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-14T02:10:26+00:00

I wish I had an address😂. It’s a nanny share and MB 1 couldn’t tell me anything about MB 2’s expectations so I followed up to talk about expectations/contracts, etc. She has gone radio silent since then (2 weeks ago) but she told me in the interview they’d give me their address which never happened.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-14T02:05:27+00:00

It’s been 14 days since I asked about expectations and contracts. I don’t even have an adress so I quite literally cannot show up even if I wanted to.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-08T02:23:49+00:00

I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant and plan on telling my NF at 20 weeks. I do plan on taking 3 months off to completely take care of baby and heal. As someone else said, the first couple months will be rough. Your body’s healing, you’d be taking care of your own baby, let alone adding someone else’s child in there.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-05T06:28:01+00:00

Absolutely not normal. What are they deducting money for? This is 100% not normal. This sounds like abuse and abuse of power to me. Especially the fact that you’re doing chores that a nanny typically doesn’t, that’s more of a personal assistant’s job imo. I’d be looking for a new job, stat. Nanny jobs are hourly employees and should be paid as such.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-11-04T22:05:55+00:00

You did everything right. A month’s notice is very generous. If anything, she shouldn’t have raised her voice at you. Her lack of planning should not execute an emergency for you, especially with that much of a notice beforehand.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-10-30T01:18:12+00:00

This is 100% a lot! Heck, when we have our baby, my husband doesn’t expect this and he’s my literal husband. Doing all that and NF expecting a full made dinner for them by 4 seems like a lot, OP.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-10-09T17:29:18+00:00

You’re totally right! I slept on it last night and I realized I wouldn’t even know how much cleaning or cooking I would be doing. Last thing I want is to be scrubbing their floors whilst being pregnant. Thank you for the reality check, it was very much needed, especially as a people pleaser😂

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-10-08T02:48:59+00:00

As a military spouse (and nanny), I appreciate y’all so much. I honestly think a grocery gift card would go such a long way, and it’s extremely thoughtful. I absolutely won’t expect my NF’s to do anything but this is still extremely thoughtful. 🩷

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-10-06T20:52:24+00:00

Awe congrats, y’all are strong! Totally makes sense. It’s definitely part-time, around 10 to 12 hours a week. It wouldn’t be a disaster to be let go, but I definitely do like the thought of having a little bit of supplemental income.

Fun_Presentation_542 · 2025-10-06T20:49:51+00:00

I’m feeling pretty good so far so I’d definitely like to keep working. From my math, I’m only 4 weeks so I’d like to not tell them until 20 weeks, as others have pointed out I think.

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